Do you know what’s funny about relationships? Let’s talk about something no one seems to want to talk about when it comes to relationships.

When you have a new relationship, you’re just in la-la land. I mean, it is the greatest feeling in the entire world.

You want to tell the entire world how much in love you are. You want to tell everybody you can find that you’re in love. You even tell your friends that this is the greatest person you’ve ever met, and that you’ve never before met anybody like this person.

Everything is perfect in the beginning. You can’t believe that you’ve finally met someone that perfect.

Then, all of a sudden, you have a little problem in the relationship and a crack develops. People ask you how things are with your relationship, and start saying that it’s “okay” or “fine.”

A couple of months later, you have a few more cracks in the relationship. At this point, when friends ask you how your relationship is going, you say “Man, let me tell you how my relationship is. This person became human, and I’m not happy about it.”

At this point, all the petals are off the rose. The other person has actually become who they really are, and you’re finally seeing it for the very first time.

I’m not writing this because I’m anti-love, and you all know I’m full of love. I’m telling you this because this is what happens in a relationship.

Over time you start to see the real person, and you start to think to yourself “Can I be involved with the real person? Is the real person the same person with whom I fell in love or are they entirely different?”

It does happen. People do change over a period of time. Sometimes people don’t grow with you and don’t understand you.

I can tell you when a relationship really hits the skids. You know your relationship has really hit the skids when someone asks you how your relationship is going, and not only do you offer up everything but you also start making fun of the other person.

When you start complaining to anyone and everyone about your relationship, it means that you no longer trust the relationship. Your sacred space is broken and that relationship is on the down swing.

You decide that this is the time you are done with the other person. This other person is no longer that beautiful person you fell in love with at the beginning.

This is now the person who is driving you “up the wall” crazy, and making you feel sick to your stomach every single day. Maybe I’m getting a little ahead of myself. Maybe we’re not all feeling sick to our stomachs, but you get the gist.

Relationships have a cycle, so don’t air your dirty laundry all over the place. Realize that relationships ebb and flow.

A really bad warning sign, though, is when you start talking to strangers and telling them that you’re not happy. I see this all the time, because people send me emails like this about their relationships.

When I see emails like this, I say to myself that these people don’t need my help. They need to figure out whether they want to be in their relationship anymore.
Everyone is looking for that one answer to fix a troubled relationship, but th real answer lies within.