I feel so much better, reading YOUR empowering words! How can I Thank-YOU ALL?? YOUR words are Truly an Inspiration & full of Wisdom! I feel I can put YOUR suggestions into action in the lives of my children & myself!!! YOUR words are Truely Divine & I feel humbly Grateful.

My new job is awesome! I took deep breaths said a Prayer to my Higher Power & WOW the first day was miracoulous moment after moment! & I owe so much of it to YOU! Thank-YOU!

Hav’nt seen the shy guy for a few days or so & thats OK! I feel if I start thinking about him a little too much I bring my focus back to the here & now! Just like YOU have taught me! WOW, so Glad to have the Pleasure & Blessing to have YOUR Wisdom & Support! When the student is ready the Master’S’ appear!

Thank-YOU forever!

Blessings of abundance & LOVE to YOU!!!

Have a Wonderful Forever One Day (Breath & Moment)
@ a Time,Happy,Joyous & Free
with Great big bunches of LOVE to YOU,
~Kozmo~

I say don’t just focus on that one guy you are interested in. More than one man can treat you right. Don’t limit yourself. But, I also think that in your situation, you need to focus first on you and your children. A new relationship right after or during a seperation period is when you are emotionally vulnerable and you need to take your time and make the right decision for the long term welfare of your family. Your children’s feelings need to be considered and I’m sure they don’t want any more situations where they or you are put at risk. It’s hard because everyone wants someone to love and to feel loved by someone and when we don’t have that person in front of us, we want it now, but like I said, think long term of what is right for you, not just what might feel right for the moment. Do things that build you and your children up.
Focus on time spent with them. Go on walks, eat right, listen to music, just anything that is a positive and that you can do with your children will help you to feel better and in the end you will look better and make better decisions. Set some goals for you and your children and see what happens. Just do it for 30 days and then see if you notice some changes in your life. There will always be a man to find, but this time you want the right one. One day at a time, one breath at a time. In the end you have to understand that if you don’t find that one right man, it’s okay, you can live happily knowing that you aren’t with the wrong one. Live each day the best you can.

If you are ready to date, you can go ahead and tell the shy guy that you are single… but at the same time, it wouldn’t be bad to just get to know him without necessarily spelling out that you are single.

You can take your time to see how you adjust to your new “single status”. There’s a lot of men out there. Who knows who you might meet and get attracted to?

Just because you are now single doesn’t mean you have to rush into the arms of shy guy. Take your time to talk and get to know the shy guy first. Take your time to see if you even like him. Right now, you like him because you created a “fantasy” in your mind about him, based on the little glimpses you’ve seen or known of him.

You may change your mind once you truly take the time to get to know him.

Whether you date shy guy now or later, sometimes it’s important to take time for yourself…. to redefine what you truly want before jumping into another relationship. Are you sure you are completely over your ex-husband?

Glad to know that you are doing well. Khiem is correct about focusing on the present. Don’t worry to much about what could happen, but enjoy life. Unless you genuinely love your ex-husband, you should not get back together with him, especially if he has not proven that his alcohol problem has been corrected. Your ex-husband having plenty of money or the length of time you were with him should not be the justification for this decision, especially if his alcohol problem is an endangerment to your children. It would be the unloving thing to for your children.

You could let the shy guy in your AA class know that you are single. Don’t worry about the outcome of your conversation, but make an effort to get to know him better and be genuinely interested in him. If you read David’s blog, you will realize he talks about the abundance principle. There are a lot of great men you could meet, but like Khiem had mentioned, it’s what YOU want.

Daniel

WOW!!! Thank-YOU! With YOUR support & suggestions INFINITY & KHIEM, I have been Blessed today with more Peace than I have had for a while! Thanks to YOU!!! By GOD I got the job today! & Have filed a restraining order today also. WOW Thank-YOU again from my Heart to YOURS!

I feel like asking also how do I post a picture like Gabrielle? Gabrielle if YOU are reading this YOU are a very very Beautiful girl.

Now that I am in the here & now & taking care of my needs & the needs of my children, I feel empowered
& Grateful! To GOD & to YOU!

Do YOU think I would be moving too fast to let my shy guy in AA know that I am suddenly single? I feel that is a future projection question, yet I feel the need to ask YOU. Because YOUR advice is really helpful & again I feel sooooooooo Grateful to YOU!!!

Have a Wonderful Forever One Day @ a Time
Happy,Joyous & Free
with LOTS of
LOVE,
~Kozmo~

You have a lot of doubts and you project way too far ahead of yourself. Focus on the present moment and ask yourself… what do YOU really want?

Forget all the logic in why or why you should or shouldn’t do something. Forget how your ex or the current guy you like would think or feel about you. Ask yourself: what do YOU want?

By determining what you want and really acting on that, you’ll be happier with yourself and will feel a sense of empowerment to tackle whatever may comes ahead.

That alone is a great step forward.

As far as the guy goes, just talk to him. Yes… you are both nervous around each other… but you never know how much you like each other until you find ways to connect.

As far as your ex goes, you should definitely move out if possible. There is no reason that you should tolerate abusive behaviors. It’s about respecting yourself first! It doesn’t matter how much history you have with one another or how much he provides for you. The foundation of a good relationship is respect and trust. If you can’t have both, you should change your situations.

Good luck.

The shy guy (in AA) as in my above post, actually came to an AA meeting with another girl,
whom I know took the lead with him to hang out together. He did not act at all nervous around her.
Now I feel my chances could be poofed (gone) even when I break-up with the abusive ex.
& get on my own.

I feel I need to ask if I might be brave enough to let the shy AA guy, know I am breaking up
with my kidz dad & that I feel he is ……?? geeeeezzz I don’t know what if any thing I should say to him????

What do YOU ALL think??

Thanks again & much LOVE to ALL!!!

~Kozmo~