Comments on: Twenty-Eight Hours

By: Dallas

Dallas — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 00:28:05 +0000

RE: Junior

Just because you are attracted to white women general doesn’t mean you will have chemistry with the individual, similar to ANY woman you meet. My advice, for what it’s worth, is to take a step back and think about this before initiating conversation: What if you just went up to a white woman with the intention of getting to know her over the next 10 minutes and find out if YOU are attracted to her for more than face value. Would it be so bad to start making friends with these “elusive” white women, even if there isn’t a connection with the first 1,5, or 100? I get the feeling like you don’t think you are good enough in some way for them, which is ridiculous. Stop shooting arrows at yourself.

RE: Joe

Question 1: Is it fun to play poker with someone when you can see ALL of their cards? My guess is that she values your relationship, but you are not fulfilling her emotional needs somehow. When she sees you with other women, your body language is different than when you are professing your love for her. You are not leaving her wanting more, so she is going to turn to other things that can fulfill her needs, and not one of those needs is a whipping boy she can control and knows will call her every night before he goes to sleep. Stop being predictable and be exciting. I don’t think you intimidate her, I believe she feels she intimidates you.

Question 2: I don’t know how the psychology works exactly, but from my experience you are not being the person she wants to fall in love with. You are being the awesome friend she can always count on. Once you are in this category, it is extremely difficult to change her perception of you. The harder you try, the more likely you are going to lose her as a friend, too. It sucks, I’ve been there.

Question 3: I’m not really sure about this one… seems like everyone would want to be happy, her path may just be a little different?

DISCLAIMER: I have no relationship education other than Life.

By: joe

joe — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 03:30:16 +0000

I have known this women for over a dozen years and I’m totally in love with her and have told her so! In those years we have gone out and have had nothing but great times when we’re togather. However, everytime it looks like we may go to the next level in a relationship she runs!! We stay intouch but end up in other relationship and then we end up back seeing each other again when those end. This has happened at least 3 different times but we always stay in touch. The last time she ran we have continued to talk on the phone everyday and talk almost more then married couple’s do. The questions I have are the following; 1 do I scare her or intimadate when we’re togather or 2 is she afraid that if we take the relationship to the next level that if it fails she will loss me as a friend (will not happen from my side)-3- is she afraid that she does not deserve to be in love with someone who is totally in love with her and just’s wants to make her happy? I’m totally different then the men she has been with in the past who have abused her and miss treated her both pyshically and emotionally. I have never been so confussed and not known what to do in my entire life. All I want is to spend the rest of my life with her!!!!!!! Please someone HELP me?

By: VMG

VMG — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 23:27:34 +0000

I am in a relationship with an amazing woman, and we both feel like David described-it is absolutely incredible! I’m 52, she’s 50, we’ve been thru the good and bad of life and learned some valuable lessons along the way that are making this the best time of our lives. It feels like our spirits have known each other for a long, long time. We are so connected at every level! We both work full time and sometimes it is a challenge to get together, but we grab every moment that we can. I hope that everyone here has an opportunity to experience what we have-what a gift!

By: K

Fri, 24 Oct 2008 21:55:01 +0000

Sounds like the planets aligned for someone, DW…it just goes to show the rest of us that we have a ways to go. You can’t get that lucky until you leave yourself open to it.

and Junior – yesterday’s eye contact and SMILE plus today’s nod and smile and ‘hi’ could be tomorrow’s 28 hours for you. Stop backing away because she is involved (or white)…she’s not dead and neither are you. It will give you good practice to get through the initial stages of a new contact until you feel more comfortable doing it with anyone. You don’t have to hit on a woman to make contact and for both of you to enjoy it. And yesterday’s unavailable object of your desire could be tomorrow’s girl seeking out that guy who always smiled at her and said ‘hi’ in passing. Go with the flow and enjoy yourself and her – even for that moment! If you are too heavily invested in the outcome of every piddling contact you have, you will lose, major big-time – and you will never feel comfortable with anyone new. Try to have fun with it and enjoy ALL of it. Consider it your own personal boot camp and no one has to know except you…and all of us! Tell us what you found.

Gabrielle – maybe it would help to remember that your personal worth does not equate to your comfort zone. Being embarrassed or looking foolish is OK. When you don’t mind being perceived in that way (even for just a little while), it relieves a lot of the anxiety. Even then it doesn’t mean that you will never experience those things again. Over-thinking things makes us fearful. Don’t bet the farm on the outcome of any encounter. The journey is the fun part, not the end.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 02:27:04 +0000

OMG – I have not experienced this yet, David… I do think that there is someone in my life right now that I can experience this with but haven’t given into it yet. The reason is b/c this is a hard time in my life right now and I feel like I should wait until I am clear headed enough first. that person is on the same path but we are both experiencing the same feelings and learning the same things at the same time. I am not sure what this is exactly but it seems that we are running alongside of each other. I get those funny feelings in my stomach everytime I see him and get that feeling of joy. I even forget that people are talking around me and really just want to talk to him. We haven’t connected yet though, but I feel as if that is coming. I am just holding myself back.
I get so scared and can’t get outta my head! I’ve been practicing flirting and talking to other people and all & am doing really well at it! I just can’t let myself go totally yet! It really is aggravating – any thoughts? I listened to Deepak chopra’s Book of Secrets and it was talking about the ego being the thing that holds us back from experiencing life at times. What is a good way to let the ego go??? Meditation? Or talking to more people?

By: Jaime

Jaime — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 21:20:25 +0000

Yo, Rey, are you just thinking about sex? Think of girls as bestest bestest friends, like David, you freaking have so much fun together, just loving the funny moments and killing time.
That is the way it should be with a girl you will start feeling amazing about one, unless you are depressed. Hang 10 bra.

By: Reynold

Reynold — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 05:05:35 +0000

and again, i have yet to feel like this about any girls….. sometimes i think i know it all,

and stuff like this shove my age and immaturity right back at my throat ; )

By: DanielTheConversationalist

DanielTheConversationalist — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 03:16:23 +0000

Junior,

Regarding your statement:
“I am sort of intimidated a little at times when i would want to approach them and start a conversation. Can you help me here?”

I recommend listening to David’s Men’s Mastery Audio Series and taking his Bootcamp for Men. It will help you with your confidence.

Daniel

By: junior

junior — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 01:19:33 +0000

Is anyone out there still in the college scene? cuz whut im trying to do is do good in school but at the same time, make efficient time and efficient efforts to meet women, so i can find myself a girlfriend. Anyone out there know how to SAVE some time while in college, so i can make time to make a girlfriend?

By: revababy

revababy — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 01:11:07 +0000

Junior..

First of all, please don’t think that I’m insulting you, coz’ I’m not. I’m just being honest, I say what’s on my mind.

So, how do you get over those ideas? just get over them. They may be white but they’re still women, the only difference is their race. No matter how we all gonna encourage you, it ain’t gonna work if you’re not gonna do it yourself, seriously. Forget about the fact that they’re white. Erase it from your mind that they’re white. Relax! Don’t overthink about what they may be like or how they’re gonna react because they’re white. Remember, they’re still women. So go and talk to one of them, relax, and just be yourself. If you have no fear approaching other women, then for sure you can also approach the white women as well.