I got a great e-mail the other day from one of you guys, and it asked a simple question. He bought my Become Her Sexual Fantasy product. He enjoyed it, and he wrote to me, “I really enjoyed it, but I just want to know one thing: what was your sex-changing moment?”

I thought “sex-changing moment“? What do you mean sex-changing moment?! And then I started going deeper into it, and I realized I did have a life-changing moment brought on by a sexual encounter.

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When I was younger I just wanted to get laid.

I wanted to know that I can screw a woman for 45 minutes straight. Back then it was always about duration. I remember being in college, talking to my friends, saying “Man, I banged her for like an hour today!” I didn’t even realize that I was making her so raw inside, ripping her to pieces, because really it was just pounding flesh for 60 minutes!

I remember having that mentality. I thought I was a great lover because I could fuck for an hour.

How little I knew then.

I remember when my girlfriend and I were 23 and broke up. I was single, living in Manhattan and I met this incredible woman—she was 32. And she was married.

I was hanging out at a country club, one of those real posh places. This woman sees me, approaches me, and basically said that she wanted to use and abuse me because she was tired of her marriage. We exchanged numbers.

She called me. She pursued me, and she came over one day, and taught me everything I needed to know about foreplay.

See foreplay to me was always something great, fun to do, but I thought it ended with a good 60 minutes of screwing. I really thought that 60 minutes of raw pounding was what a woman wanted!

This woman told me, “Look, you are going to be my boy toy. You’re going to do everything I say because my husband does nothing for me.” And she basically guided me through the longest session I ever had in my entire life. She told me to go slow on her body. She told me when I went down on her that I had to go slow. She guided my head a different way. She came once. She told me to stay down there and let her do it again.

She really taught me the art of eating pussy and the whole erotic side of foreplay. She changed my perspective. I remember when I was done eating her. I came up to enter her and she looked at me and she said, “Please. Slow, sensual.”

I held her tight. She kissed me during it. She made me look in her eyes. She taught me eroticism. She taught me so many things that I didn’t know, so many things that I’ve never experienced before.

It was one of the best experiences in my life because it really showed me that women want a guy to pay attention to every little detail in bed. That being a good lover was not about how hard you can pound her or how long you can last—it was about everything leading up to it.

She taught me something else that day. She left me a message. And she said every woman that you’re ever with, that you ever sleep with, has to feel comfortable with you. Simply, patience.

Be patient when you’re getting to know them. If you’re patient, the sex will be even better.

Her message was great. And it was a life-changing sexual experience for me.

I’d like all of you to share your life-changing sexual experiences in the comments section below.