take care

And TG, on an encouraging note, there was a girl I was into who had absolutely no interest in me. I couldn’t figure out how to get her interested in me because she wasn’t being flirty. Eventually, I started taking every opportunity to playfully tease her and joke around with her. It was a little bit awkward at first, but she’s cooking me dinner on Wednesday, so I must have done something right. I know it’s hard to turn serious situations around, but you can do it. Even if you just poke fun at her for spilling something in lab, it’s a step in the right direction.

I’m going to have to agree with Collin here.

For a girl to like you, you have to make her feel aroused and connected to you while you are interacting.
Your Valentine’s idea is cute… ONLY IF you guys have been hanging out in more than just lab partner ways or ONLY IF you’ve been flirty while doing your lab and other medical school stuff with her.

You say that you haven’t had the chance to show her your personality but as long as you hang out with her, you can be a fun guy! How do you interact with friends when you just hang out? They can see your playful personality all the time b/c you joke around or whatever.

That’s how you need to interact with her.

And showing interest in her doesn’t take multiple months. You claim that we are already in February and you only have ’til May to do it. That’s PLENTY of time. You can be flirty with her in a week’s time.

What I’m thinking is you aren’t really going deep in the conversation with her. You aren’t getting personal with her so you have no grounds from which you can flirt on.

You just keep it school related and that’s why you haven’t had the chance to flirt with her.

If you are hanging out with her doing school stuff, it’s only natural to go eat with her. Asking her to go to McD like Collin says is a lot more natural than creating a big “Would you be my Valentine” card.

I’m not discouraging you from trying… but as mentioned previously, it will be way too off base for her to look at you favorably (unless she already secretly liked you).

Why are you so afraid of ASKING HER OUT? Why are you so afraid of just chatting her up and telling her to hang out with you?

If you haven’t yet, I can’t recommend enough that you get David’s Men’s Mastery Series. It’ll give you a solid foundation from which you can learn to flirt with girls the right way.

If not, think of taking some coaching form us… or even joining the membership site. As of right now, EVEN if you make this Valentine work for you, I don’t believe you can keep her attracted to you if you don’t know how to project and embody your own attractive behaviors.

I agree she might not be interested, but I’m not going to let it go because I don’t want to wonder what if.

Plus, I feel like asking her after not doing anything for a semester to go to McDonalds is pretty much as out of the blue as the Vday card. I REALLY don’t want her friend there because I KNOW it’s gonna end up with school shit.

Because you’ve been serious and “just her lab partner” for so long, it’ll probably confuse her when you go and try to be funny, cheesy, etc. I say let VD with her go and focus on getting a flirty relationship with her happening. Saying something like, “I’m gonna run by McDonald’s before I head home. You two should come,” (and then actually going there) could be enough to start that. I’ll smack you if you offer to pay for either of them though. That’s trying-to-convince-you-to-like-me behavior. If she hasn’t been flirting with you, I can pretty much guarantee that she isn’t interested in you. If you can’t get something less boring and run of the mill going with her, you may have to let her go altogether.

Time is really not on my side. We are both graduating college this semester and we’re already in mid-February. I feel like by getting closer to her and her friend it would eventually be too late and she would use the fact that we’re graduating against me. So I’m finally just going to go balls out and say it.

The reason I went with the card is because I don’t want to freak her out and put her under the spot by telling her I like her out of the blue. The card, while not very subtle, will make her expect it, and I might even get an uncomfortable vibe from her so I don’t have to tell her and save myself the heartbreak and embarassment.

I have recently been friendlier with her friend, but again it’s mostly because I help her a lot with med school applications/advice. I hate myself for taking that road with them. And like I said, it’s near impossible with the interactions we have presently to show my personality. What can you say in the 10 seconds before and after class that says “I’m a fun guy”?

As for the card, like I said her initials are BMW, so I’m going to print out the BMW logo and write Be My Valentine Valentine. I will do/cut the card myself so it’s nothing generic. It’ll be written in calligraphy and I will try to have a few complementary jokes, some French words, maybe 3 stick figures of me giving her the card with an observer thinking “how cheesy is this?”, and a Reeses chocolate since she loves those.

I’m now thinking of doing this tomorrow night before Vday because like you said, later is irrelevant. The problem is I don’t know if she’ll be seeing anyone for Vday. On her facebook it doesnt list her relationship status or have any pictures with a guy.

Another problem I have is I don’t know how to follow-up if I give it to her Sat night. Should I wait for a response? Should I ask her later if she’d like to go out for Vday? Should I wait until class on Tuesday to pull her aside and tell her how I really feel?

I know I’m writing a lot, I just want you to have all the information.