Super Bowl For Women
February 10, 2010 
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God, it’s like football withdrawal right now. What are we going to do until next August?
Baseball is boring. Basketball really heats up soon, but who cares? Well in my personal opinion, I don’t.
Before we men mourn the end of football season, however, all the guys out there need to remember that there is one more Super Bowl coming up this Sunday. It’s called Valentine’s Day.
For those of you who have a date on this women’s Super Bowl Sunday, you had better come up with something good when you make the plans. After last Sunday, it is your turn to celebrate her day and to show her an amazing time.
For those of you who are single and who do not have a date this Valentine’s Day, this blog and today’s podcast are also for you. So let’s talk about Valentine’s Day.
In today’s podcast, I am not only going to talk about what to do if you have a date on Valentine’s Day. I am also going to talk about what to do if you do not have a date, and how to get out of that pre-Valentine’s Day funk.
If you are single and don’t have a date this Valentine’s Day, I have an idea I am going to share with you in this podcast that will make this Valentine’s Day amazing. It is something that will actually have people bringing single people to you so you can have a post-Valentine’s Day date (which is actually even better and much less pressure-filled than a Valentine’s Day date).
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Finally a super bowl for women!!
Saints 45 Women 41 I still think the Saints would beat Valentines Day
Very funny podcast David. So true men need to realize that this is our super bowl.
I prefer the real Super Bowl. Like the men in tight pants. Maybe it because its been way too long for me.
Jacob can you help me out here?
Lana
Ill help you out I am all about the game plan:)
Valentines day sucks!
Why do you hate V day Edgar.
Its so over rated and lame.
Really I need to declare my love for my woman because Hallmark told me I have to?
the bitch just got a ton of presents 6 weeks ago from me for Christmas.
You call your woman a bitch? What are you a caveman?
Lisa
I love my woman she knows that and I do not need any dumb holiday and to pay more for the same meal as I did the night before.
But I will do Davids picnic idea in the podcast brilliant!
Lisa
I was joking I always call her a bithc it gets her hot.
And one last thing. Lisa you talk a lot of shit always do you back it up?
I can back up my talk any day. Too bad your taken the snow is making me damm horny.
I bet your one of those 250 pounders. One that looks like Ray Lewis and you only have the internet as a way of feeling sexy and hot.
Edgar
So you think I am fat and ugly and look like Ray Lewis?
Funny but are you one of those nerdy guys who look like the guy from your favorite nerd show?
I am hot wet and 110 pounds of pure spinner.
You are 110 pounds of pure nerd:)
And I am a terror in bed!
All women say they are good in bed. No one ever says I suck in bed. So if your great then so am i.
And lisa.
Listen to the podcast today it is amazing and it will help you hang better with us men:)
Edgar
You are so right everyone thinks they are awesome in the sack. And most actually suck!
I see that i missed some fun. How does a thread start like this.
I know Ray Lewis would not be happy to be compared to a big ugly women.
And great podcast today. Cant wait to see that new product.
I suck in bed see I can admit it. But I did so without posting my name so you will never know who I am.
I also suck in bed. How can i get better? I am can not hold back the second I am inside of a woman I cum.
I try to think baseball and other things but it never works.
Great Valnetines ideas today. I was really tired of bing alone for this day but you really gavce me a great idea.
I cant wait to play truth or dare.
I post a blog and grab some lunch and look what I missed.
So what makes people good or bad in bed?
Great topic guys lets hear your thoughts.
Ive always thought valentines was a lame, pathetic holiday
why should i be forced to express my love for someone on valentines when I can express it all year long??
This puts unnesessary pressure on men, and women having rediculous expectations
I think people have the wrong idea of Valentine’s Day.
To me, it IS a Hallmark holiday but the point of Valentine’s Day is not to buy gifts… it’s to spend quality time together!
And if there’s an excuse to do so, why not?!?
Besides, there’s a movement that calls for “Steak and BJ Day” to go one week after Feb 14 anyway… so guys, you’ll get your turn: http://www.steakandbjday.com/
Oh… and did anyone forget? Feb 14 is also the Chinese New Year this year!!!! Red envelopes… hmmmm
Oh … I meant Steak and BJ Day is one month after Valentine’s Day
Back to what David suggested, I think anybody can be great in bed. The two have to be in sync though. If your trying to get yours and half assedly (is that a word) trying to give them what they want, no good. I think when both people’s main intent is to satisfy the other, that is when you have explosive sex literally.
How quickly a man comes for sure a factor. I would say a man is bad in bed if he come too quickly. If also acts like a panting dog, groping, over enthusiastic.
I also like a man to be strong and fit – I like to take control but to know that the tables can be turned effortlessly…well, thats just great
lol David man The agree and dislike its fucking Genious.
Thanks Mario glad you liked it.
Annon
Its all about control in bed my friend. And that takes time skill and knowledge.
Danny
That is so true.
Both of you need to learn each others bodies. The more you explore the more you learn the better the sex will be!
Anthony
Do you express love all year long?
fuck valentines day, its the worst holiday in the world.
Heres a question for you all.
What if I just met someone what do I do?
I did not listen to the podcast yet was it covered in there?
What a killer podcast David.
The idea of creating your own party is amazing. I never thought about that and it really hits women when they are most vunerable.
I agree fuck this day!
Valentines day is for women.
I have to say that spending one day making your woman feel special should not be that hard.
Why do some men act like such tools?
Actually may name is Marie and I just want to ask the men again. Why is it so hard to make our lives happy for one day?
We watch the Super Bowl we go to events with you.
Why are so many men so selfish?
Marie
Way to go I am all with you. My boyfriend has been telling me the last 4 days how much Valentines day sucks!
Its one day guys just suck it up for 24 hours not that hard at all.
Joey-
I feel so much anger from you man.
Whats going on, tell me why you hate it so much?
Lana
The only reason you like super bowl b/c of the tight pants, its a very interesting way to look at the game:) You don’t expect me to help you by wearing some tight pants do you:)
Jacob- I think Lana is totally expecting you without the tight pants:) And one more thing, if there was super bowl with women wearing the tight pants, then in one night it would become a world sport.
Okay guys so I have this girl in mind that I could take for valentines on this weekend. Theres this carnaval at my town so how could I make the asking out a playful way yet also serious.
Thanks guys.
very funny Jimmy.
I don’t think that will happen:)
Mario-well done man I have faith in you. Just ask her out casually don’t make it a big deal like most guys would do. Say you both will have a great time, and she should come along.
mario:
just ask her out honestly, say you have a surprise for her and don’t tell her about the place let her find out, when she shows up.
btw…mario, how did you meet her?
Grace and Marie,
I agree with you. Valentine’s Day is not as bad of a holiday as men make it out to be… but it’s all dependent on how you view it.
If women saw something as something nice to have without expectations, I think men would enjoy doing it more.
Some men may hate on it just b/c women make a really big deal out of it.
As David said earlier in a comment…. if a man and woman celebrate their love every day, do we really need a “special” day for it?
Just finished listening to the podcast and I love the picnic idea!
I didn’t do the whole rose petals on the floor but I did a whole picnic on my bed once. I spread out the picnic blanket, brought in some sensual foods with wine (like blackberries and strawberries and chocolate syrup and whip cream… among other things)
She was just so surprised! She loved it!!!
For the single guys, I have a little idea that works for every holiday… Christmas, Halloween, Valentine’s Day…
GO BUY SOME STICKERS!!!!
Yes, go buy some little heart stickers… and when you go out, look for cool chicks you want to talk to and walk up to them and give them a sticker if they are cool! Everyone wants to be a kid again. They can have a super cool star heart sticker for being fun and cool with you
It’s a great ice breaker!
This blog is always awesome.
Khiem
Stickers…..I would laugh in your face if you put a sticker on me.
David
Loved the picnic idea that was and will be a homerun for any woman that a guy does that for!
LOL Grace, I’d still get a laugh at you. It’s all in the way you do it. I wouldn’t give a sticker right up front… but after talking to a woman for a few minutes, it’s fun to bring something along and create that playful mood.
The idea may sound random but hey, I’ve done it… and as I said, it’s an ice breaker for the bars and parties.
David
Actually yeah I do express my love all year around..when I was in relationship, i did stuff for my girlfreind all the time because i cared about her and didnt expect nothing in return
whenever valentines day comes, us men we feel uncomfortably obligated to buy/do something for a girl
this holiday is bullshit
wow, I can’t believe people get so worked out over this holiday.
it’s just as bad as christmas time.
C-man: do you ever think about changing your name to just semen?
C-Man
Well said, I can’t believe it myself either:)
I am in Scotland UK. And I find that it’s very hard for east asian guys to hook up white chicks( not very ugly ones) or have long relationship with them. Is it similar in US? How can we overcome this?
Grace: if coach Khiem was to put the sticker on you, where would you like that to be put?
Grace-
Where have you been?
Good to see you again!
Khiem-
Do you ever celebrate steak and bj day?
I don’t know why everyone is bitching over this blog? David you mentioned the blog is free but this isn’t free, it just waste of my fucking time reading all this crap.
Anonymous-
Do you realizes what you just said?
I get the feeling you are a dating blog hopper, you just read and read, but never apply any of this information. That’s why you’re so frustrated with your life. Why are you getting your anger out on David and all the people on here. What did they really do to you?!
lol at Anonymous. Well then why do you even read it? You got to many girls to talk to is that it?? Or is it too many dates for you to handle??
Just hilarious. Jimmy I met her in my school. I just need to talk to her in person though not trough phone. It might be better that way. Just wish me luck.
David man. I met a super religious girl. There not that bad actually. What I mean is that they don’t really talk about religion as much as you think. I just don’t see them as a potential girl I might want to be with. They might not be to open to the world to new ideas. Just my two cents.
Without More,
Mario
Anonymous
And with this kind of attitude towards life you will have very hard time attracting people to your life.
anonymous- you sound like an asshole to me right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mario: that anonymous guy is just hysterical man. anyway so you met her in school, thats nice. i think it would be nice if you speak to her in person when you see her in school again. do you meet most of your girls in school?
Well Jacob, Mario, Jimmy and everyone
The reason I made that comment b/c non of the technique is working for me, and I am giving up on all these seduction stuff. I asked 10 girls out for valentines day and they all said fuckin NO to me. But I am good looking guy. Tell me what to do when 10 girls say no, that means it all doesn’t work, and i’m maybe not that good enough or something.
Jacob- yes i am blog hopper:) how did you know that man. I know a lot about dating but its not helping me man. I am giving soon man, valentines day is not for everyone.
Mario- I got lot of numbers and i thought i would ask these girls out before b-day but non of these girls respond to me the way i would like them to be. Whats wrong with these, i thought all the women want dates during valentines day but it seems to me they just like to play games or what?!
And I am sorry for leaving a nasty comment earlier I wasn’t thinking straight!
Anonymous- you better be sorry:) man you got 10 numbers but no dates, you must be doing something not right. Where are you meeting these girls?
Annonymous,
Knowing a lot about dating doesn’t mean you know how to use and implement it.
Knowledge only becomes power, only becomes wisdom if you have the know-how, the experience to back it up.
Have you considered taking any form of personal coaching?
I spent many years in the Seduction Community myself and a lot of that didn’t help me until I started putting myself out there more and really asked myself: what am I doing right and wrong? What am I doing so that it works FOR ME?
Jacob,
About steak and BJ day, I sure hope so!!! I’ll let you know when it comes close to it lol
Coach Khiem: I have taken 3 bootcamps with the seduction community, and this is not helping me man. I am worse then when i first started. I think you are right i know a lot but i am not implementing any of it the proper way.
Coach Khiem-do you think coaching is the right thing for me now? The seduction community really fucked up my head, are you sure you can help me? Did the seduction community make you really confused about meeting girls?
Jimmy- i am meeting them in clubs and bars its tough to get 10 numbers but i made it man. It took me 3 nights of going out to get those numbers but i have no dates. I just don’t get this.
Well, be honest with us.
Who did you take the bootcamp from and what did you learn from them?
I’ve seen the Seduction Community screw someone’s mind over many times. It didn’t really screw me over b/c I knew what to focus on but you can read various articles on my blog or even on David’s blog on what I’ve found to be less than ideal of a mindset… while learning to be better at this.
Shit Anonymous you are out three nights to get all these numbers, i don’t think you are even following 1 percent of what David and the coaches teach. You seem like you are chasing women man thats why they are running away from you. No offense but if i was a hot chick, i would run away from you man:)
I never thought of it that way, this is a girls superbowl! And we want to put on a big halftime show. BTW excellent podcast, their are some great idea’s in there.
Coach Khiem- To be honest with you I took one with RSD, second one with chrisma arts, and the last one with lovesystem, do you know them? They all taught me how to number close, get fuck close, kiss close and escalate on girls really fast from meeting to sex. But its all seem so unnatural but i did manage to get a girl to have sex with me for one night that was fun but next day i thought she was whore that just sleeps around.
Jimmy- they are running away from me now you guess that right man.
Annonymous,
That’s the issue here, you are learning all these systems that don’t even correlate with one another.
The biggest thing you should ask yourself is… when you are with a girl, does it feel right? Does it flow?
I don’t care if you use a system or not but if you don’t make the system flow… it won’t work.
Also, how old are you? Do you really think you can get a solid connection with a girl at a bar and club? It depends on what you want.
Most people you will meet at a bar or at a club are less likely to get back to you… period.
Oh… and you didn’t really answer my question.. you said they taught you how to kiss close and get a phone number… etc.
But what was your sticking point from the beginning? Out of all these lessons, what were your personal ah-hah moments, your big realizations?
Coach Khiem-they all sound so similar in a way, and its the system that really makes thing hard sometimes. When i am with a girl it flows sometimes and lot of times it doesn’t but i try to use different approach to see how i can improve.
it looks like that the 3 systems doesn’t really work for me because i have been trying to do them for years. I am now 27 year old. I never build big connection with women, most of my communication is just getting sexual with them fast.
You know you are right it make sense thats one of the reason why those girls don’t want to go out with me because i don’t build any connection in bars and club.
oh yea forgot to mention my biggest sticking point was i couldn’t say hello to girls, it was very nervous to start with. I didn’t know how to get number close and it was fun to get 10 numbers in 3 nights. I was proud of myself you know but now kind of sad because non of those numbers turned out to be any dates.
My biggest realizations was girls want guys to come and talk to them and if you are nervous thats ok just go anyway.
I think you just answered your own question… you go sexual too fast.
There’s nothing wrong with going sexual but there’s a time and place. If you don’t build that rapport, the connection, that comfort with you, they’ll see you as the creepy guy… who only wants them for sex.
There’s a way to do it right, and there’s a time and place to do it right.
I am glad you are helping me today coach Khiem, because it all started to make more sense, i’m way to horny with these girls, i need to work on building connection. And this is why they don’t return my call or rejected dating me.
Thank you Coach Khiem. Do you have an email address?
You are welcome. You can email me at khiem@davidwygant.com
Anonymous think what you are doing from a perspective of a girl. Just really think about it. Would you like someone to just come up to you and be Like “Hey all I want is to have sex with you”. Its not right man. If I was a girl I would not fuck you cause you are being needy and girls hate that.
Have you read any of the other blogs here?? There are really good ones man. The very first ones were really good. Also if you could afford 3 bootcamps why not invest them into something that can help you like Davids Mastery Series?? It might change your whole mindset. Also why don’t you buy some books. The book that really opened my eyes is Excuses Begone!
Anyways. Jimmy yea man most of the girls I meet are at school. I still haven’t mastered or gotten over the fear of going to the mall and talk to girls. I guess cause I havent tried it yet. Well anyways I called the girl, lets call her Indie Girl. We were talking about music, then relationships came up and we talked about that. Then valentines came up and she said she didn’t have one. So now this is my chance. Cause I was telling her about the movie I’m doing.She got into it and I told her that I would have all the Angelina Jolie’s around me and she said don’t forget about me. So then is that flirting??
Idk but I know that i’m going to ask her to be my valentines i seriously don’t know how but I know I will. I dont want to say the regular “You want to be my valentines?” if anyone has any suggestions please tell me fast.
Thank you,
Mario
Annonymous
I think the best move you can make is contacting Khiem he is one of my best coaches and will really help you with everything you want,
Mario,
Why don’t you just make it casual… instead of “would you be my Valentine’s?”
Just say… “Hey, let’s hang out on Sunday!” or “Hey, let’s hang out together on Valentine’s Day”
It won’t sound as cheesy.
MArio
What made you read Excuses Begone? Wayne is a friend of mine and the book is fantastic
Steve H,
Don’t think I’ve seen you on the blog before. Welcome!
There’s always a stereotype against certain minorities, no matter what country you live in. What do you mean by East Asians?
There is a little bit of prejudice here… but it can be overcome. It depends on how you present yourself… and how you intrigue and connect the women you are trying to date.
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this is more like it! We got Anonymous, We got Download the Podcast (thanks David.. Now I don’t have to go to the SECRET link of your podcasts) and now… Like or Dislike! Just keeps getting better and better.
I’ll take a listen to the podcast later.
I’m not paying $3000 for a PUA bootcamp for them to teach me how to tell fake stories and ask for a phone number…Can do that on my own. But I would spend about $500 less and learn how to actually have better conversations with people
kevin- i wish i knew this earlier i spend a lot of money on those seduction community bootcamps, i need something more like innergame bootcamp.
David-thanks for responding your coach very helpful and he hit the spot for me, i will need to contact him soon.
Mario-yea i shouldn’t act way too horny with these girls, thats a big mistake on my part, but i was taught the more horny i act the more they will get turned on, i guess it works the opposite. Thanks for suggesting the mastery series i am thinking about getting that one with the book you mentioned, now a quick question how did that book help you?
Anonymous
The Mastery Series is basically a bootcamp on disk,funny you mentioned to Mario about the more horny you act,the more turned on she’ll get…is this what they teach you over there in those PUA camps? If so, Geez,The woman will think…”god why doesn’t this guy just go jerk off if he’s so horny!” They all know guys do it. If I were you, I’d look into getting a refund.
Anonymous,
I don’t know if this will help you, but it helped me. I spent all my time trying to figure out what I could do to get girls to like me. I didn’t start seeing success until I gave up on trying to DO stuff to get girls to like me and decided to just BE the kind of person a girl would be attracted to. What does a magnet do to get a piece of metal to stick to it? Nothing. It doesn’t have a routine or trick to get a piece of metal to be drawn to it. It just happens because the magnet is magnetic. A lot of what PUAs teach are little tricks to get a girl in bed for the night. David, on the other hand, teaches you how to be naturally magnetic. It doesn’t just affect your dating life though. Ultimately it affects every aspect of your life, which is something that PUA just can’t do.
Kevin
It sounds like my bootcamp will be perfect for you:)
Hope to see you at one very soon!
David, I said I “would rather” not “I will” lmao
Kevin
Rather is good too:)
How much longer are you doing bootcamps David?
Kevin: I didn’t know that the mastery series is the bootcamp on a disk so thanks. And i think its too late for a refund now, even though i would like to get all my money back. Its funny they taught me to act so horny but that shit isn’t effective.
Collin: I really liked how you put it in terms of magnet, thats what i need to work on. I realized in the past i wasn’t a magnet, i was the opposite, i was trying to be the magnet, and not tap into my inner magnet. So it really helps.
Anonymous
Great to hear you are coming to some very good realizations!
You stick around you will learn the true power of being a magnet in all aspect of your life.
You’re welcome Anon. Just tryin’ to help you out!
Collin
I will be doing bootcamps as long as people keep on coming to them:)
I know my bootcamp is the best experience for guys so I want to keep on teaching and keep on passing on my brain to all others.
I really learn new things everyday and enjoy connecting with the guys for a weekend!
Are you going to come to one?
It would be great to meet you and I know Jacob would love to meet you as well.
I’d love to meet y’all too. I just wanted to make sure you weren’t retiring in the near future. I’ve got a shot at an internship which should set me up to be able to afford to come to one in the Fall sometime, especially if you come to Atlanta. Have you ever done a boot camp down here?
David I was at my local bookstore. It was closing down and I went with my friends. I was there just looking for whatever book, I had 20 bucks with me. So then I went to the self help books. And there it was the big bold guy just staring back at me. I had to have the book. Funny thing is that it feels like if the book was there for me since it was the last copy in the whole store. It’s a great book.
Anonymous the book is really good. It has helped me to not worry too much as I used to. It showed me that if I think positive the cosmos will bend to your liking and will help you get to the goal you so desperately want. However with some effort of course. It also showed me all the excuses we do, and I now recognize the excuses that I do, I no longer do some. Its a great book man just buy it I really recommend it.
I went to school today and it was great. I didn’t get to talk to the girl but I think we are going to hang out on saturday. However, she wants to bring along one of her friends. She wants to help with the movie I’m making. She is interested in it. Well anyways I could tell her to just come by herself?? I just have to tell her straight up what I feel. That I’m interested but not yet liking her. It’s better that way if not so I can talk to someone else and not waste my time.
Guys wish me luck with the movie. I will post it up as soon as I can. I’m hoping for it to be great.
Thanks,
Mario
is there ‘of who you really are as a woman’ version?
Collin
Atlanta would be awesome……get a group together and lets do it in the summer or fall.
I will do what I can, but I can’t promise a miracle. My friends are REALLY set in their “shy nice-guy” ways. I’m sure there’s other people around the South who follow your blog though and who would like to come to a boot camp. Do you think more people might be interested if it was done somewhere like Nashville or Charleston?
Atlanta may work…..i will figure out that part of my calendar before summer…..as for your friend they can stay shy and you can excel!!
It would be a lot less frustrating if they would just let me do my thing. However, while they’re super submissive and “nice” to girls, they love to give me crap about how I just don’t get it, especially when I’m talking to a girl (usually at a particularly chemistry-rich time). I can appreciate the irony of guys who don’t get it making fun of a guy for “not getting it” as much as the next guy, but it’s incredibly annoying to be loudly interrupted in the middle of a very flirty conversation.
Luckily I’m actually having a conversation with these girls. I can playfully dismiss whatever my friends say, make the girl laugh, pick up right where we left off, or start a new subject. If I were “running PUA game routines,” or whatever they call the shit they do, it would be a lot harder to recover. I can’t imagine they have a place in the script where their friends do the unexpected.
I’d like to share my idea for valentine’s day.
So there’s this girl (surprising) that I’ve had a crush on for a while, and I entered her life as a “lab partner” thinking I would be able to get her to like me on her own. Well, I haven’t been able to show my fun side and anyone that knows me well will tell you I’m a fun guy if the other person brings it out in me. All I’ve been able to talk about is boring school shit. Her friend is a cock block. She walks into class, we smile say hi, she sits with her friends, and then she leaves. That now is our only interaction.
What I just thought of doing was going to where she works, in the game room, play ping pong with a few friends, then right before I leave give her a Vday card. Her initials spell BMW, so I’m gona write Be My Valentine Valentine. I’m going for cheesy, funny, elementary schoolish card. I’ve gotten positive and negative feedback from friends, so I’m wondering what you guys think. The only problem is I might not have time to do it before Valentine’s day. I might not even be able to do it until about a week and a half after.
Also, where do I go after that? I give her the card and leave, maybe wait for a few days if she texts or calls… if she doesn’t I can just text her about grabbing lunch and telling her exactly how I feel, that she makes me doubt myself, makes me feel unconfident and just that I really want to know who she is as a person. I’m hoping she realizes how confident I am that I’m telling her I’m unconfident.
Thoughts, David?
PS (If this seems familiar, I have contacted you recently but haven’t gotten a reply yet)
TG, what age group are you and her in?
It does sound a bit too cheesy for my taste but the success of your idea depends solely on the presentation of your card… and the attitude you have with her.
Since she’s never seen your funny side, she may not think of the cheesy card as funny.
She may think of it as creepy since she doesn’t know you that well. In addition, doing a Valentine card thing is not funny if you do it a week after the actual date. It becomes irrelevant.
As far as the cock block friend, why don’t you engage her and befriend her? If you did, you could be talking to the both of them… and who knows, get into more personal interactions with the girl you like because you won’t be interrupted as much.
I do agree it’s cheesy and I actually hate cheesy romance shit.
Time is really not on my side. We are both graduating college this semester and we’re already in mid-February. I feel like by getting closer to her and her friend it would eventually be too late and she would use the fact that we’re graduating against me. So I’m finally just going to go balls out and say it.
The reason I went with the card is because I don’t want to freak her out and put her under the spot by telling her I like her out of the blue. The card, while not very subtle, will make her expect it, and I might even get an uncomfortable vibe from her so I don’t have to tell her and save myself the heartbreak and embarassment.
I have recently been friendlier with her friend, but again it’s mostly because I help her a lot with med school applications/advice. I hate myself for taking that road with them. And like I said, it’s near impossible with the interactions we have presently to show my personality. What can you say in the 10 seconds before and after class that says “I’m a fun guy”?
As for the card, like I said her initials are BMW, so I’m going to print out the BMW logo and write Be My Valentine Valentine. I will do/cut the card myself so it’s nothing generic. It’ll be written in calligraphy and I will try to have a few complementary jokes, some French words, maybe 3 stick figures of me giving her the card with an observer thinking “how cheesy is this?”, and a Reeses chocolate since she loves those.
I’m now thinking of doing this tomorrow night before Vday because like you said, later is irrelevant. The problem is I don’t know if she’ll be seeing anyone for Vday. On her facebook it doesnt list her relationship status or have any pictures with a guy.
Another problem I have is I don’t know how to follow-up if I give it to her Sat night. Should I wait for a response? Should I ask her later if she’d like to go out for Vday? Should I wait until class on Tuesday to pull her aside and tell her how I really feel?
I know I’m writing a lot, I just want you to have all the information.
TG, I’ll be honest. I don’t think this is going to work. First of all, you talk about convincing her to like you. Girls don’t get convinced to like a guy. Your personality triggers that attraction in her and it just happens.
Because you’ve been serious and “just her lab partner” for so long, it’ll probably confuse her when you go and try to be funny, cheesy, etc. I say let VD with her go and focus on getting a flirty relationship with her happening. Saying something like, “I’m gonna run by McDonald’s before I head home. You two should come,” (and then actually going there) could be enough to start that. I’ll smack you if you offer to pay for either of them though. That’s trying-to-convince-you-to-like-me behavior. If she hasn’t been flirting with you, I can pretty much guarantee that she isn’t interested in you. If you can’t get something less boring and run of the mill going with her, you may have to let her go altogether.
Well I never said that I was going to specifically try to convince her to like me. I know personality triggers that, which the problem is I’m not getting the chance to show it.
I agree she might not be interested, but I’m not going to let it go because I don’t want to wonder what if.
Plus, I feel like asking her after not doing anything for a semester to go to McDonalds is pretty much as out of the blue as the Vday card. I REALLY don’t want her friend there because I KNOW it’s gonna end up with school shit.
TG,
I’m going to have to agree with Collin here.
For a girl to like you, you have to make her feel aroused and connected to you while you are interacting.
Your Valentine’s idea is cute… ONLY IF you guys have been hanging out in more than just lab partner ways or ONLY IF you’ve been flirty while doing your lab and other medical school stuff with her.
You say that you haven’t had the chance to show her your personality but as long as you hang out with her, you can be a fun guy! How do you interact with friends when you just hang out? They can see your playful personality all the time b/c you joke around or whatever.
That’s how you need to interact with her.
And showing interest in her doesn’t take multiple months. You claim that we are already in February and you only have ’til May to do it. That’s PLENTY of time. You can be flirty with her in a week’s time.
What I’m thinking is you aren’t really going deep in the conversation with her. You aren’t getting personal with her so you have no grounds from which you can flirt on.
You just keep it school related and that’s why you haven’t had the chance to flirt with her.
If you are hanging out with her doing school stuff, it’s only natural to go eat with her. Asking her to go to McD like Collin says is a lot more natural than creating a big “Would you be my Valentine” card.
I’m not discouraging you from trying… but as mentioned previously, it will be way too off base for her to look at you favorably (unless she already secretly liked you).
Why are you so afraid of ASKING HER OUT? Why are you so afraid of just chatting her up and telling her to hang out with you?
If you haven’t yet, I can’t recommend enough that you get David’s Men’s Mastery Series. It’ll give you a solid foundation from which you can learn to flirt with girls the right way.
If not, think of taking some coaching form us… or even joining the membership site. As of right now, EVEN if you make this Valentine work for you, I don’t believe you can keep her attracted to you if you don’t know how to project and embody your own attractive behaviors.
Can anyone answer my question????
Oh and khim does that also work for teens?/ the sticker thing??
Yes Mario, you can do the stickers for teens
Mario, I think that getting her friend to like you too is important so have both of them come out, but make sure you have the girl you’re interested in’s phone number. Invite her over for something else by herself. I don’t know from experience, but I’m sure Khiem’s sticker thing works for all ages.
And TG, on an encouraging note, there was a girl I was into who had absolutely no interest in me. I couldn’t figure out how to get her interested in me because she wasn’t being flirty. Eventually, I started taking every opportunity to playfully tease her and joke around with her. It was a little bit awkward at first, but she’s cooking me dinner on Wednesday, so I must have done something right. I know it’s hard to turn serious situations around, but you can do it. Even if you just poke fun at her for spilling something in lab, it’s a step in the right direction.
David,
i liked your this post a lot. but dont you think you should have posted this yesterday so i could have little time to prepare. but still post was great….
take care
Thanks for the downloadlink! Putting it in my mp3 rightnow, so I can listen while I mp3, dawg :p.