You don’t have to reply to all the emails you get from online women but… you could use these as opportunities to challenge them back in showing who they truly are.

If they are up for the challenge, who knows… they might be worth meeting and dating.

Justin..great comprehensive answer to Dan’s question. You must have taken our boot camp:) Actually, during the boot camps and in our community site’s teleconferences we practice conversation starters and you learn how to keep it going too. A great exercise we do is what Justin was referring to about storytelling. Practice telling stories about your life in an interesting and detailed way to really intrigue someone’s interest in you.

It’s the same way you gain confidence in anything else in life, experience.
David’s mastery series covers how to start conversations naturally.

You could start off making comments on things in your environment that is obviously affecting the person you want to talk to. Think about what is probably going through their head.. and make a comment about how it affects you or them. Eg if your bus is late: “tell me, is this bus always late?”. The first part will grab her attention so when the question comes, she’s listening. Strong eye contact and a smile will play a bit part in getting a good response.

She may reply, she may not. If she does, you’ll get a slight insight into her life. Eg she may say “Nearly always!”. In which case (if you look for the meaning behind what she’s saying) she’s telling you that she gets that particular bus regularly, and is frustrated with it. Which gives you major ammunition Dan! You can go in several directions.

Generally sharing something about you first will make her more likely to open up. Eg “I’m catching this bus today because … (tell her a brief story perhaps).
You can ask why she gets this bus – which will lead to her telling you what she does on a day-to-day basis. This open-ended question is better than “Where are you going today” – which will get a one-word answer and reveal nothing about her.

She may tell you where she works, what she does. Pick one of those and go deeper, eg you could ask her what inspired her to get into that line of work. And once again look for the meaning behind what she says. If she says “Well I chose to work at the zoo because I love animals” – what is the meaning here? She may be a caring person. Let her know you have picked up on this and you like that about her, eg “Oh really? So you must be a very caring person… I like that in a girl”. Then you may want to just chat about what it is you do, how much you like it, what aspirations you have and just let the conversation flow.

Yes Tony that was a bit harsh. These are someone for everyone. Don’t be so judgmental, just by having those thought you give out the wrong energy. That’s the one thing I will guarantee you we girls senses those things. Next time you will be in public and those thoughts will go through your head and you will give away a negative vibe that will be a turnoff.

Personally I think the right thing would be to to respond to those as you would in person if someone approaches you and you try to tell them you are not interested. In my opinion the biggest danger with the internet net is people forget to have in person manners and end up quite rude.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do, but even though you’ve deleted this blog from your reader, it wouldn’t hurt to come back & visit now & then cause there’s a wealth of information here.

But I know what you mean. I spend too much time online too. More time away from our computers will do us all good. That’s what DW wants us to do anyway; go out & meet more new people. Which is what I’m about to do now.