There’s No Such Thing As Picking Up Women
By David Wygant
As you all know, I am not about teaching people how to “pick people up” . . . because really, there is no such thing as “picking up women.” Think about how ridiculous that terminology is: Two guys are heading to the mall and one guy says to the other “Hey Eric, Let’s pick up some women today.”
First of all, a lot of you aren’t even in good enough shape to pick up women. Think about this for a second. Let’s say a woman weighs 130 pounds. You have to walk over, pick her up and then you have to hold her in your arms and carry her. That is what “picking up women” really means.
Most of us really don’t want to go and lift total strangers over our head. “Picking up women” is very childish terminology. You don’t want to be known as a pickup artist – it sounds like you’re 13 years-old when you call yourself a ‘master pickup artist.’
Plus, women really don’t like to be picked up. If you pick them up, you may mess up their hair or you may drop them. Nobody likes to be picked up and dropped.
So before I tell you the mature way to meet women, let’s go through a few things that actually can be picked up:
1. groceries
2. dry cleaning
3. pet food
4. beer
5. wine
6. dinner
These are all things that you actually go pick up and carry to your car. When is the last time you had a woman whom you physically picked up and put in your car?
Women do not want to be picked up. They want you to connect with them. They want to be able to meet you and tell a story about how you met each other.
They want the story to go something like this: “I was shopping in Whole Foods and I reached for the last pint of chocolate ice cream. All of a sudden, this man was reaching for the same pint of ice cream. So he looked at me and said ‘I’ll flip you for that pint of ice cream.’ Then he got out a quarter and asked me if I wanted heads or tails. We proceeded to talk, and I think he let me win the pint of ice cream. Anyway, I gave him my number and I can’t wait for ice cream man to call me.”
Women believe that life should be a fun, romantic comedy. They want to be able to tell their friends about how they met you. You want to be “ice cream man.” You do not want to be “pickup artist man.”
Not only that, but meeting a women under natural settings gives you a running inside joke right from the beginning. If you are a man and you don’t understand what I’m talking about, I suggest you rent any Hugh Grant movie.
You want to be able to be that lead in the romantic comedy. If you go in with a pickup line, you become the comedy.
Women are looking to connect . . . not to be picked up like your takeout dinner. So the next time you see a woman standing in line at the supermarket, think about how you can connect with her in a natural way and become the lead in that romantic comedy.
For those of you who really want to learn to live this life every day, I suggest you look at my Men’s Audio Mastery Series. Click here for details.
Todays video will go deeper into this issue of the non pickup.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=uuITVfz0aY4
Once again you have enlightened us into the art of being human.
This subtle nature of meeting new people is not about possession, but rather about connection, and the more that we get this the easier it is to meet people. The more one starts to release the need to possess or capture or an individual, the floodgates open up into the liberation of just being. The need to “do something” relaxes, and communication becomes effortless.
Great Blog today, Thanks!
Shawn
OOOOO David
The story of the begining of the relationship or even just some casual date is the best thing! With my ex girlfriend we used to make fun of each other how we met and proceded to hmm…other things
But yeah, such stories are funny like hell because you have wonderful memories and also want to remember that..
In this case I was “some stranger guy that isn’t able to speak english” when I met her…:-)
First off…..I think that if you pick up enough dinners, you don’t have to worry much about picking up the groceries. Well maybe milk and cereal. I haven’t owned a dry clean only garment since bk….(before kids) I was cured during that curdled milk phase they all go through where the shoulder area of all your blouses and dresses have an odd sour milk smell.
Beer and wine…
Well I only drink a good microbrew stout and only with a nice man and a good football game. So not too damn often. I like a good champagne and a little red wine, but not enough to go buy it unless its a planned event.
Pet food….gotta buy this stuff in bulk and the glucosamine spray because Kitty hates the pills. Its always nice when you have a nice burly man to put it away for you.
Hey David– Just FYI, the redesigned site keeps giving me error messages as I navagate it. Says something like “Out of Memory: Line 56″ in Internet Explorer 6. But after I click OK it still goes to the right pages.
Yes, good point David, but…
I do like to pick up a woman and toss her about here and there…Its kinda fun if they let you. It’s not so fun to have to chase after them, and the slim ones are harder to catch (but easier to throw), so finding agreeably girls is always better.
I’m just saying the art picking up a girl should not be lost, besides they make funny noises when they land too!
What a great post. I’m totally with you on that point – in my opinion it’s actually not about picking up women, it’s about getting to be a better person. I mean not getting a “nice guy”, but being a guy that is clear about himself, and able to go for what he’s decided to do. The women thing is a nice side effect, i guess.
I noticed today that my whole mindset about talking to other people/approaching is wrong because I only thought about it from MY perspective (=what do I have to tell these women?) and making myself crazy. But in reality, it
Chick Tosser
When tossing women do not forget the dressing:)
Markus
That was a great relevation!!!
Dave
I sent that to my web guy and we will see what the issue is.
Thanks for the heads up
The other problem with pick-up artists is they use language strangely when it comes to talking about women. . . like “closing her” or “opening her” we’re not doors either.
So true Lexi woman are not doors…If you were a door your name would be Lexus:) and not Lexi
And in the weather we’re having at the top of the state ya can’t be leaving your “door” open….For the first time in ages I had on a sweater and a coat…..
DAVID;
lol You are full of it today. So if I were a door, what would my name be??
Shawn;
Great start on the comments today;) I read yours over about four times saying in my head, “This is so true, soo true.” I was going to copy and paste the clincher of your post, but I would have the entire post documented again, which might not be such a bad idea.:)
Markus;
Hello to you today;) Well, I could just copy and paste the comment I just gave Sawn as a ditto for you. LOL This would be my longest post in history—and there have been some doozies–David??? Shhhhhhhhh lol
Picking up a woman? Sure once you know her, you are alone wrestling around on the floor playing and want to take the play to say…mmm..the bedroom? Very fun to be picked up and swept away in the arms of a man who is ready to be passionate after play. VERY sexy!!!!!!!!
Try it—she’ll like it;)) If she doesn’t?? Hugh–drop her on the floor! lol
Yes, picking up women is enough work, but if you’re strong, picking up women is easy. Actually women get turned on if you can pick them up and carry them off to bedland lmao..
If you’re strong period, can lift some things for her or do some kind of work for them, they seem to like when you can put something somewhere they had trouble picking up themselves. Or if you can move furniture. They get a kick off that too. and who said chivalry was dead lmao
I don’t know about that JR…When I’m with a man the last thing I’m thinking about is moving furniture. Unless of course making a nice soft warm bed move counts….
exactly………