There Are No Shortcuts!
March 4, 2009 
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There is a tough thing that I’ve realized more and more as I go through my life. My journey is no different than your journey. As you guys embark on meeting men or meeting women, you need to realize that it is a process. It’s just a series of things through which you need to work and from which you need to learn.
Understanding this is why I’ve been able to do it, and it is why I am so passionate about this business. I started putting out my products because I know that without doing the foundational work, that you guys will never be truly successful in your dating lives.
Do you know how I know that? I know that because I tried to find shortcuts for things for much of my life. I’ve tried to find a shortcut for almost everything I’ve ever done in life. I tried to find a shortcut for meeting women, I tried to find shortcuts in business and I tried to find shortcuts in my relationships. What I learned, and what you need to learn, is that there are no shortcuts.
Recently, Esquire Magazine asked me for a quote to put in their May issue. While I won’t know until the issue comes out whether it will actually appear in it, the quote I gave them was “Life is a marathon, not a sprint.” Keep your pace slow, and eventually you will find yourself in front of the right path.
It’s unbelievable how many of you are all about shortcuts. You put time limits on everything. You want one certain thing to happen within one month, when in reality it may take for four or five months because there are lessons to be learned along the way.
Being willing to let things take the time needed to really learn what you need to get there is, to me, about being authentic. Â It’s being authentic in your life and authentic in who you are. It’s not looking for the shortcut.
I won’t sell you a shortcut. I will never sell you a shortcut because there are no shortcuts in life.
For any of you who approach life thinking there are shortcuts, I say go ahead and spend your money on those shortcuts. What will happen, though, is that you will keep spending and wasting money until you finally realize you have to be authentic and real to get what you really want. The real “shortcut” is to not be detoured by any so-called shortcut in the first place.
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Today’s PODCAST is must listen for anyone who wants to not take a shortcut and REALLY learn how to approach and open up women. Listen to my London coach, Adam, tell you all about it! Check it out here:
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Adam
That is an amazing podcast i just re listened to it and its great stuff…The guys in LOndon are lucky that I found you!!
Wow, awesome broadcast, podcast, etc. It never occured to me that we should use statements when approaching a girl. “Own the statement.” I like that. I’m gonna take his challenge and go out and talk to 5 people using statements.
Adam gave a scenario of what we shouldn’t do. I was hoping to hear a little skit of what a conversation with statements will go like just to get a visual.
Thanks David and Adam. Now you need Noah and Abraham and Joshua to make a podcast.
M
Adam.
Yes, I second DW… good and to the point podcast.
I liked the little role modeling on how NOT to converse w a new lady.
Heck, haven’t I made those mistakes, and wondered why the conversation started to disintegrate faster than financial institution market values.
The shortcuts issue is something I find goes much deeper than just meeting people. Our whole society is taught to seek immediate gratification, exert the least amount of effort for the greatest reward, and then never question the underlying reasoning behind their actions.
Good point MAC. About hearing a skit or demo of not only how NOT to do something, but How TO do something. As the old saying goes, “Lead by example.” There’s no more powerful lesson than a good example of the right way to do something.
He gave maybe one or two examples. “This is a great bar!” and “I’m having a great night!”
But what if you’re not at a bar? Which I don’t like going to anymore, and David doesn’t like bars either as I recall.
What are some examples of statements you could make at a restaurant or grocery store? Or gas station or gym/health club? Or the reception desk at a clinic or doctor’s office? Or while taking a walk in your neighborhood?
Got any ideas for those places Adam? We could use some help there.
Great personal life sharing here David. I myself have personally failed miserably when I look for the shortcut. Shortcuts are cheats, and you literally are cheating yourselves out of a base, foundation. Great podcast by Adam too. Love his voice, it’s so soothing and encouraging.
I think there are “short cuts” in life, but they aren’t the type of “magic pill” short cuts that the media loves to market to the masses. It’s the whole idea of not necessarily working harder, but smarter. It all starts with thinking about how to do things better, how to learn faster and how to make maximum use of available resources. That to me is “smart short cuts”. It pays to be clever in life. There is no way to avoid doing real work, but creativity and out-of-the-box-thinking can help you leverage and ease the load.
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On a complete different subject. Adam’s podcast. Got me thinking. So I wrote down the first question that came to my mind and rewrote it as a statement. The results are so much better.
Question: Do you like roof top bars/lounges?
Statement: I love roof top bars, especially during the summer time. Fresh air and you can actually have a real conversation with somebody.
Question? Boring! Statement? A lot better.
tony888,
Think back about the importance of observations. Comment on these things you observe.
Grocery store: ex, girl looking at a wall of pasta sauce, “Its hard to pick with so many options. I love this one!”
A shortcut is like saying lines that you copied off of someone else’s paper and they don’t make sense to you when you are called on to explain what you just said. It’s all just noise. But if you created it yourself, you really do own it and you sound like a genuine guy.
Adam – thanks for saving us gals from yet another interrogation!
Vlad
You are right that statement is truly better!
An east thing todo isn’t it?
Not searching or shortcuts makes the real difference. It shows that one actually cares about other people and has a life. Everybody likes people that care.
When you don’t take a shortcut you have confidnce that in the end the result will be fine anyway but you let go of it.
That’s what I like in repetitve encounters. You plant a seed and then have a base to continue next time at a much higher level. And you probably have plenty to tell each other in the meantime!
Adam
With a voice like that you can ask me all the questions in the world who cares about statements !!
Someone clap your hands Adam put me in hypnosis with his vibrating voice!!
What a great place to voice your thoughts this is !!
Wow, I found your site on Google poking around for something totally unrelated- now I’m gonna need to read through all the archives XD So long my spare time today, but this was a truly awesome find!!!