There are No Miracles
January 25, 2009 
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Coaching is not a miracle. There is no miracle out there. Miracle drugs, diets and solutions are really just quick-fix illusions, like that grilled cheese sandwich in 2004 that had the image of the Virgin Mary burned into it. Someone paid $28,000 on eBay for that! Seriously, I’m not making this shit up! (link the last two words of this sentence with http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/4034787.stm)
The point of life is realizing every single day that life itself is actually a miracle.
To get really Zen in your thinking, you need to accept everything that comes into your life and learn from the lessons you are presented with. You need to embrace those lessons and move forward.
It’s important to realize that when you receive coaching of any kind – whether it is a dating bootcamp or coaching on a physical sport – you have to practice.
Think about yoga. Yoga is practice, right? Why is yoga called practice? Because you’ll never be good at it unless you practice. And there is always room for improvement; there is always something new to learn.
I’ve been doing yoga for three years, and while I’m much better now than I was when I started, I’m still not as good as I’m going to be. Even when I get to the point where I’m really good, I’m still going to have to improve and get somewhere else.
That’s what life is about: a constant evolution, trying to get somewhere. And more important than this evolution is your acceptance of it. The more you accept, the more you will evolve. This is where that Zen-like feeling comes in, which we all want to feel, right?
So if you are able to have total acceptance of everything that goes on in your life, you’ll be able to enjoy the gift. You will be able to enjoy what is happening each and every day. You’ll be able to extract the value of whatever is going on in your life.
Coaching is just the start – the tip of the iceberg. My interns could tell you, whenever I go out; I’m constantly being coached. I’m constantly talking to people, I’m always learning, and I’m constantly writing things down.
I’m always communicating with my girlfriend and learning ways to be a better man. I’m constantly investing in myself.
I’ve referred to this before, and the movie Defending Your Life goes into this: the worst thing in the world is to be cheap with yourself. If you’re cheap with yourself, then you will die cheating yourself.
So even though some people decide to make that initial investment in themselves and take a bootcamp, they still have to continue to make that personal investment and continue to learn.
I’m investing something in myself every single day. When I threw my back out, I invested in my healing – a lot of money! Was it a waste of money? No way. I learned how to heal my body, and I learned to listen better to how my body communicates with me.
This is your one body, and your one chance. I don’t know about you, but I want to get it right. I don’t know what your religious beliefs are, but I believe that your soul passes on to a better place, and I think that if you haven’t learned all of your lessons then your soul comes back as another tortured individual. That’s my belief system.
So I really want to get all of my lessons in this lifetime. I want to make this life as fulfilling as possible. Whenever I pass, I want to make sure that I really embraced the ride. That’s really all you can do for yourself.
It really is about investing in yourself every single day. It’s very powerful, and it’s fun!
David, as always, you speak from the heart and experience.
What confuses me, is when you have what you percieve as a problem, or something you feel a need to fix, and the forces that be seem to direct you in the right direction towards someone who might provide insight into what ails you, and then a year passes and you ask yourself, what did I do wrong?
Perhaps my thinking is what is wrong. Why am I looking for a problem when there is none? Why I am a seeking out help when I can find the answers on my own, which is what I like doing and is what I am used to anyways? I only percieve my problem as such because I listen to closely to what the pulse of society wants me to think. I can be free to be who I am and I don’t have to be ashamed by it. I also don’t have to worry about what other people think, because I am the one who chose to have this type of life.
Thanks David,
Mike
I think many people fail to realize that a bootcamp is only the beginning of the journey. Having taken multiple such programs myself, one thing I learned is that the most important lessons await you afterwards.
Practice Practice Practice
as my tenniscoach tells me, everyday if only for 10 min you must practice. Everything good in life does not come easy it’s hard work but it will reward you 1000 fold in the end. If you write goals reread them sometimes we forget and just have to remind ourselves what we wish to accomplish in life and then go out there and
Practice Practice Practice
everyone enjoy,
I can second you David. I took your bootcamp over a year ago, and I am much better person for it. Still though I have LOTS more to improve as a man and as a person. We all need to evolve. That is life. Change = Growth. I’m a buddhist myself, and buddha taught people that suffering stems from our attachment to desire. So we all have to let go of the bullshit, our attachments, our egos, our desires for instant gratification to trully reach that place where we can be genuinely happy.
Awesome blog David.
David
I liked that part about the fool who bought the burned up grill cheese sandwich with Virgin Mary. I can tell u some that would make u think.
Now to the blog.
I plan on living my life each day and dealing with things that come about and wanting to live in the moment. Sometimes it is hard when distractions come in. Thoughts of something that was said or done. These can be negative or positive and the way the person perceived them in the beginning. Life is what each individual makes of it. Whether it be good or bad. Sometimes in relationships we have to take the good with bad and go on. Even the best of friends argue but it is the better friend that says I am sorry for what I did and admits they are wrong.
If they can come up with a pill or magic wand to bring Mr. Handsome in my life let me know? Just a little humor in all this. There are no guarantees in life.
David
I just joined ur community and this better be good lol…….:)
Taras- just wanted add to your comments…..
Yes totally agree, bootcamp is the beginning of a journey, also- beginning of your new self, beginning of a new goals, beginning of a complete change in lifestyle- and the end results are nothing if we don’t enjoy every bit of that journey which makes life even more fulfilling.
Sandra,
good to hear that I will see you at the community!
btw..how are you doing?!
Yakub
Go check out the community site where I posted about introducing myself u will find it fascinating. Oh the family issue was solved hopefully. Our family holds secrets that I don’t want to discuss on the internet. Let me know what u think of my post. Tell David this better be good if u see him. lol
a.movie – it seems a little harsh to me when you refer to what you may be doing or thinking as “wrong” – only because it sounds like an “either-or” proposition. Perhaps you’re not “wrong” per se but you might consider it like art or a composition where it is a work in-progress, at your disposal to tweak as you see fit from day to day or from one experience to the next. A change of mood or participant or location can inspire you to make changes suited to the next new moment. Perhaps something you tried in one situation that did not work well may work very well in another.
While it’s a good thing to learn from your own mistakes (or actions), there may be things that will suit you very well with a little variation, so don’t give up! Sometimes the only way to know is to field-test it and make changes as you see fit. But you have to make a lot of attempts if you don’t have a trusted friend to observe and help you out. I bet you’re closer than you think.
love these short phrases, have coaster with them written on just to refresh my memory all the time. You never stop learning..
Watch your thoughts
they become words
Watch your words
they become actions
Watch you actions
they become habits
watch you habits
they become character
watch you character
it becomes you destiny
You choose where you want to go in this life you are your own miracle.
Sandra-
I just read it , and left a comment for you in the forum, check it out when you get a chance.
Marian-
love that short phrases- did you write that?
Yakub
I wish, have written some in the past, but not this good. These are from http://www.clayspirit.com great as coaster as you always have them around, but you can do it by yourself with regular coaster just write your sayings on the back and when you fell like it turn them around.
Filler comment for the blog, this one is
K, life at its core, can be broken down into positive or negative experiences, imho. I am quite versed in living life as an artist, both in my actual craft and my personality and outlook on life.
Wrong was perhaps the “wrong” choice of words there. I think I meant to say, that I have been a person who took the negative approach quite often in my younger years, and now that I am older I tend to focus on positive things. I’m still trying to work out the difference between the two.
Thanks for your insight!
I think a bootcamp is always a great foundation because people get to learn the basics.
A bootcamp give them a direction into where to grow… however, even though our bootcamps are 3 days, it’s still not long enough to really make the clients internalize all the important themes.
We can only cover so much and that’s why it’s important for them to either practice on their own… or do some follow-up coaching.
Marina
I checked out the site u mentioned and I really like it. I even book marked it. I myself like to write poetry I have some copyrighted through Poetry.com. They even made it to the semi finalist but I was not able to go could not afford it at the time.
Kheim
You still like to ignore me do u? We will see if u ignore me on the community. Be nice and I might include u as a friend. lol
Hmmmm…I wonder how much a carved pumpkin would go for with Jesus’ face on there…maybe I should try it!
Anyway….I have definitely learned a lot of lessons in my life along the way, DW. I do learn everyday from people and it is amazing! I am constantly trying to improve myself. I have learned recently to really grab the opportunities that come everyday with people! To grab the moment and TALK especially to get to know someone and what is going on in their life, to enjoy conversation with them in that moment and to SHARE something with them. I did that today as a matter of fact and it was truly awesome, I believe. If just happened but I did grab the moment and got to know someone better! AND I celebrated that victory too, DW, because it really was one for me! To ask deeper questions and share a story. I DID IT! Thanks to you!
Sandra,
I don’t think I have ignored you… unless you addressed me in some comments and I didn’t see it. I don’t read EVERY single comment therefore, if I missed a comment to me, I’m sorry.
Kheim
That is ok.
Marina;
that’s cool site. I will have to order one, or maybe get a coaster myself.
Sandra: I didn’t know you write poetry, btw…congratulations for being semi-finalist, sorry to hear that it didn’t workout for you in the end. And there is always next time.
Would you like to share some of your poetry sometimes?
Yakub
You can find my poetry that is copyrighted on Poetry.com under Sandra Wilhelm. Hutchens is my maiden name.
Sandra
Great for BJ though
thanks I will check it out.. You got the dentures fixed
Marina
I wear partials and take them out when I give head. I love oral sex and the way a guy cleans house. We both know how to keep the guy coming back for more don’t we?
Sandra,
What kind of skunky smells have you ever smelled down there, we have already covered fishy female smells.
Marina
Mine stays clean if I have an odor then I go see a gynecologists. Not into females.
>>>>>>>>>I wear partials and take them out when I give head.
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Dan The Original
nanannono u cant find me i am in the island of information. I know u miss me but one thing I don’t miss u.