The Worst Time To Meet The Opposite Sex
August 1, 2008 
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Weekend is an Illusion By David Wygant
The weekend is an illusion. Boy, this blog is going to put all of you in another mode of thinking…
I’m going to tell you something that is absolutely going to blow you away: 52 weekends a year. 104 days. (Well actually, it’s probably more than 104 days because there are a few three-day weekends thrown in.) So what does that give us? 107 days.
107 days of the year are pure illusion. 99.99% of the world only tries to meet people on the weekends. I totally made that percentage up, but the sentiment is true: the majority of the people in the world live for the weekend.
And what they do on the weekend is the same thing every time – they expect, they want, they desire, and they wish to meet somebody. They think to themselves that this weekend will be different than the last one.
A lot of you even plan out your weekend the Monday before. Do you know why you start planning next weekend by Monday? Because last weekend was yet another disappointment. Last weekend was yet another weekend where you didn’t meet somebody.
So what are you doing? You’re plotting out the following weekend, thinking that things will be different.
Do you know why the weekend is an illusion? Because you’ve never done anything different to change your way of thinking! You haven’t plugged yourself into anything – you haven’t even TRIED to plug yourself into anything.
I believe you can meet people during the week – any time, any place. It doesn’t matter where it is. For those of you who have dug into my products, you know it’s 100% true. For those of you who have attended a bootcamp, you’re out there every day meeting people left and right.
But so many of you still think that the weekend is going to deliver. You believe in the TV show Friday Night Lights – Friday night is going to come… and go. Most Friday nights come and go with the same results. And then you wake up on Saturday and go on the hunt. You become a hunter on the weekends.
Men are hunters, women are deniers. Men will go out there and try to chase women all weekend, because the illusion is that they will find a woman with the same skills they have always had.
Women are in denial. So they pretend that they don’t want to meet men. “Oh, we’re going to this bar right now because we don’t want to meet men. We’re just going here to hang out with friends.”
Really? You like loud bars with annoying guys drooling on you like wolves? That’s where you want to go to hang out with your friends? I don’t buy it. The fact of the matter is this: you can deny it all you want, but you go out and wish that a man would rescue you from your singledom.
So the weekend is an illusion because you don’t do anything during the week. You have to start doing things during the week. You have to start doing things 15 minutes per day to meet somebody.
I meet more people during the week than I ever do on the weekends. The weekend is just like New Year’s Eve – it’s Amateur Night. When you go out on Friday and Saturday nights, you’re hanging out with all of the amateurs. The majority of people who go to bars on Friday and Saturday nights have no clue how to meet people in a bar. That’s the illusion of the bar.
There’s a blog I wrote a while ago, and I said, tell me your age, and then tell me the number of people you’ve met in a bar and then dated. Which number is greater? Is your bar age greater than your real age?
You have to wake up from this weekend illusion. Wake up and realize that in order to meet somebody spectacular, you have to work for it every day.
You can’t just have a career on the weekends. “I’m just not going to do anything all week and have my career on the weekends. Just on Saturdays and Sundays, that’s it. And not even really Saturdays and Sundays – actually, just Friday nights and Saturday nights. So I’ll work four hours per week, and develop this great career.”
Do you know where you would be if you only worked four hours a week? You’d be living under a bridge in a cardboard box. You wouldn’t be in the house that you’re in right now.
So you’d better start rethinking things, because the weekend is just an illusion.
Today we are going to talk about how to keep the conversation going. Its friday and heres a hint.
Have you ever had anyone say cool to you in the middle of a conversation?
Wait till you see what cool really means.
Cool!…
Some very good points here! To me the weekend has always been convenient simply because of the time off away from school and other instances I’m in focused work mode, but I realized a long time ago that wasting the time in between is ridiculous. People are literally everywhere! Being social should be a constant in life, not a variable.
Plus, even if you tend to prefer the night time club/bar scene as I sometimes do, there are still plenty of place to go on the weekdays if you look around hard enough.
My 2 cents.
cool…… i don’t know how many times i shoot myself in the foot with this word. I will see the interaction going somewhat decent, and wham the “cool” word comes out, than follows the awkward silence…..
David Wygant is like the James Bond of Pick up, Sean Connery style. Ive researched a few others and he is really the one most like James Bond with his quickness and then using his quickness to become sexual along with the walk, eye contact, and smile. Mr. Wygant, what is your plan of action for college game/ on campus especially a relatively small one of about 2,500?
I use to say that word “cool” when talking to anyone basically, haha thats so true, i say it to buy time so i can think of something next to say, rather than actually listen to them & it does KILL the talk, I now listen to what they say & the conversation flows better & it’s more enjoyable, monkey chatter- 0 , 1 point to me.
Haha, what a hilarious video. I couldn’t keep from cracking up holding the camera.
Recently I went out with a woman who used the “cool”. I asked questions of her that I believed to be thought-provoking and showed that I was, in fact, paying attention to what she was saying. However, when I shared things about myself she threw “cool” at me. What does one do if the other person hits you with “cool”? For me I find it frustrating as it tends to kill momentum and I’ve always thought that there should be a reciprocal give-and-take during the course of a conversation…
this is nothing new to me
i’ve had dates right after school in a cafe sharing cakes.. 
i’ve had dates from 09.00 a.m til before noon… on a wednesday!
i don’t hang out in bars.. it’s as you say; amateur.. ish! why complain about there being no real connections made in places like that on weekends, when you have SO many other chances and opportunities to make real/genuine connections?!
hahahahaha… damn! i ought to stop saying cool! done my share of that
oh, not only cool.. but “hey, what’s up?” (not as in “what’s up in your life” but the casual one) cause i’ve nothing else to ask about.. and i can SEE what is going on.. such an obvious, silly question! the other person’s like “hmm, do i have so say something like.. really funny right now, cause she just asked me what is up, and she can see i’m just sitting here at work”
Totally offbase on most issues. A recent article on’trust’ is a prime example– there is EVERY reason to ‘snoop’, play PI, and generally check-up on your SO when a woman has an inutitive ‘hunch’, because 999.99% of the time, that woman’s ‘hunch’ is right on the money.
Hilarious and so true! So many guys that I’ve seen trying to “listen” to women fall in that trap!
OMG! I am so bad about saying cool. For me though, it has nothing to do with not knowing what to say, its more on being a habit, albeit a bad one.
This is a great subject you brought up…
First off, I believe that women are not in denial. When they have a night out at the bar/club, it’s not because they are secretly hoping some man will swoop them up. Women like to go to these rowdy bar/clubs full of hungry men, because having men hit on them will boosts their ego. You can even say that they go to compete with each other on who gets the most attention. It’s annoying, but it feels darn good to get hit on twice as much as all your friends put together. For women, going to the bar/club is not about getting drunk and meeting men. It’s a fashion show, beauty contest, or a simple “I had a tough day at work, and I need to get effed up”
But this statement also proves what David was saying: Give up the weekend hunting. You will not find your dream woman, unless she’s some easy drunk that’s been ran through several times by the entire city. Sorry to be negative…but it’s true. You can pick women up during the weekends, but I think instead of having that one agenda, my personal advice would be to try to expand your circle of friends. There’s no better way then meeting someone through someone you already know. Most women DO NOT like to be approached by strange men. My first thought would be “Ew, what am I, your fifth try tonight?”
Adam,
Your plan of action in a college town is to make friends and become the guy who knows everyone. Uses the fact that it’s a small town to be friendly, fun and social with everyone.
When you do that, you start harnessing the power of social networking and you’ll meet and attract even more women to your life.
All girls in college wants to have fun. By the sheer fact that you know everyone, you can connect them to the right people and you’ll know where the coolest gigs in town are. So guess what, you become the “it” man.
In that position, you now have the choice to pursue ANY woman you want.
What is your understanding of women who engage men with (incredible) sex early in the relationship, only to determine the relationship isn’t right and want to continue to be “friends”……..minus the sex ?
Personally, I find the attempt to be mostly frustrating !
Thanks for your thoughts….
Donald,
The question you should ask yourself is:
1. Were you good in bed?
2. Did she sleep with you because she was just horny and needed a willing partner? or did she actually like you?