Comments on: The Ultimate Bar Opener http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Khiem (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26798 Khiem (DW Coach) Mon, 27 Apr 2009 17:29:28 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26798 I love this type of opener.... nothing beats having fun and having people approach you. Now that's one nice tip for the lazy man: how to get women to approach you! :) I love this type of opener…. nothing beats having fun and having people approach you.

Now that’s one nice tip for the lazy man: how to get women to approach you! :)

]]> By: Coach Kimberly http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26790 Coach Kimberly Mon, 27 Apr 2009 04:15:20 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26790 What was great about this exercise is that it exemplified how to attract what you want. It was interesting that the woman matched David's energy..the energy that was attractive to him and the conversation. You usually attract what you put out.. What was great about this exercise is that it exemplified how to attract what you want. It was interesting that the woman matched David’s energy..the energy that was attractive to him and the conversation. You usually attract what you put out..

]]> By: Markus http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26771 Markus Sun, 26 Apr 2009 15:24:12 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26771 I enjoy going to bars and not approach anyone - i let them approach me! It happens to me all the time, depending on MY mood that day. Women notice and are attracted to people who are confident about themselves in a situation and seem to have a good time. What women will do usually is not to directly "approach" you (even if this might happen sometimes) but merely to give you "approach invitations", to prepare the stage for you to open and begin the conversation. This might be a longer-than-usual glance at your eyes, dancing obviously next to you for a longer time and touching you from time to time, or making comments about you to their friends just loud enough that you can hear them. When women do this, it is your duty to approach and start the interaction. In our society it is still the man's duty to start conversations, and women manage to maintain this order beautifully by giving you these "hints" - so use them! The thing is that these things happen all the time. It's just that I wasn't aware of it for a VERY long time until I started studying all this. Call it the "elusive obvious" - but as David says, go through the world with open eyes and observe! I enjoy going to bars and not approach anyone – i let them approach me! It happens to me all the time, depending on MY mood that day. Women notice and are attracted to people who are confident about themselves in a situation and seem to have a good time.

What women will do usually is not to directly “approach” you (even if this might happen sometimes) but merely to give you “approach invitations”, to prepare the stage for you to open and begin the conversation. This might be a longer-than-usual glance at your eyes, dancing obviously next to you for a longer time and touching you from time to time, or making comments about you to their friends just loud enough that you can hear them.

When women do this, it is your duty to approach and start the interaction. In our society it is still the man’s duty to start conversations, and women manage to maintain this order beautifully by giving you these “hints” – so use them!

The thing is that these things happen all the time. It’s just that I wasn’t aware of it for a VERY long time until I started studying all this. Call it the “elusive obvious” – but as David says, go through the world with open eyes and observe!

]]> By: Chris http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26770 Chris Sun, 26 Apr 2009 11:23:50 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26770 Awesome post. You can never go wrong by having a great time with the people you are with. If people find you interesting and attractive just by observing your body language and facial expressions, so be it. Always enjoy yourself for yourself. Chris Awesome post. You can never go wrong by having a great time with the people you are with. If people find you interesting and attractive just by observing your body language and facial expressions, so be it. Always enjoy yourself for yourself.

Chris

]]> By: M http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26769 M Sun, 26 Apr 2009 10:06:42 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26769 Oh My God! David. So true... so true indeed. I had a similar encounter last year. My college friend and I were celebrating the end of the semester at a bar. The place was packed and the only available empty seats were a couple of rather comfy looking chaise longues in the center of the bar. I'm guessing the remaining chairs were too unusual in appearance from the rest and also too exposed. Nevertheless we took our seats, ordered a couple of drinks and celebrated the night away regardless. We had an animated conversation about everything. *Understand this was an evening not about talking to strangers, but for the both of us to bond, joke around, and reflect on work and college. For the five hours we were there, we noticed a crowd of 7 attractive women checking us out and giving us eye contact. I didn't think much about it, primarily because they were older women (30s to 40s) and I assumed they were looking at other men of similar age behind us. As they were about to leave 5 of them walked towards us and one of them remarked..." looks like you guys are having all the action tonight..." Another added... "we should have sat with you guys instead..." Eventually the rest of the group joined in and we had a great 10min conversation. It was very surreal - my buddy and I lying on a couple of long chairs in the middle of the bar with 7 older women 'standing' around us. It just proves that by not following the behaviour of the rest and, most importantly, having a "great time..." you will become attractive. Oh My God! David. So true… so true indeed. I had a similar encounter last year. My college friend and I were celebrating the end of the semester at a bar. The place was packed and the only available empty seats were a couple of rather comfy looking chaise longues in the center of the bar. I’m guessing the remaining chairs were too unusual in appearance from the rest and also too exposed. Nevertheless we took our seats, ordered a couple of drinks and celebrated the night away regardless. We had an animated conversation about everything.

*Understand this was an evening not about talking to strangers, but for the both of us to bond, joke around, and reflect on work and college.

For the five hours we were there, we noticed a crowd of 7 attractive women checking us out and giving us eye contact. I didn’t think much about it, primarily because they were older women (30s to 40s) and I assumed they were looking at other men of similar age behind us. As they were about to leave 5 of them walked towards us and one of them remarked…” looks like you guys are having all the action tonight…” Another added… “we should have sat with you guys instead…” Eventually the rest of the group joined in and we had a great 10min conversation. It was very surreal – my buddy and I lying on a couple of long chairs in the middle of the bar with 7 older women ‘standing’ around us.

It just proves that by not following the behaviour of the rest and, most importantly, having a “great time…” you will become attractive.

]]> By: Sandra http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26766 Sandra Sun, 26 Apr 2009 03:24:34 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26766 Hey was this a dance bar...One night I went to Zazoo's no I did not drink anything for I was the one who drive us home...Well I noticed there was a dance floor next thing I know I was dancing up a storm with this guy and then certain songs the floor became full...sorry I was married at the time so I danced with my husband. Anyone seen a pole dance... Hey was this a dance bar…One night I went to Zazoo’s no I did not drink anything for I was the one who drive us home…Well I noticed there was a dance floor next thing I know I was dancing up a storm with this guy and then certain songs the floor became full…sorry I was married at the time so I danced with my husband. Anyone seen a pole dance…

]]> By: K http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26763 K Sat, 25 Apr 2009 23:27:58 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26763 This just goes to show that it really is ALL about us and we can no longer blame others for our lack of success in making connections - even in a bar! This just goes to show that it really is ALL about us and we can no longer blame others for our lack of success in making connections – even in a bar!

]]> By: Taras http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-ultimate-bar-opener/1535/#comment-26761 Taras Sat, 25 Apr 2009 21:13:10 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1535#comment-26761 Wait, I thought you didn't like bars David? haha Does this mean you're getting tired of Whole Foods :P Wait, I thought you didn’t like bars David? haha Does this mean you’re getting tired of Whole Foods :P

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