The Tampon Opener…..Or Is It Tampax?
October 8, 2010 
6 Comments
People are really interesting. They are always looking for exactly the right thing to say. They are always asking me, “David, how do I talk to people?”
I had an appointment this morning. As I was walking up the steps to enter the building, there was a woman walking not five feet in front of me.
I was just enjoying the day. She was rushing and looking frantic.
All of the sudden, as she went to reach for something in her purse, out drops a tampon. So I looked down at the ground and said, “You don’t want to be without that today.”
She starts laughing. She said, “Yeah, that’s always a fun thing to drop.”
We went on to converse for about thirty seconds. Then I wished her a great day and continued on where I was going.
This example is exactly the reason I teach people to observe and communicate in the moment. Doing that allows you to talk about absolutely anything.
That woman’s tampon dropping on the ground is funny. It’s a funny thing. Most guys would look at that tampon on the ground and think, “Oh my God, what do I say? What is the RIGHT thing to say?”
There isn’t just one “right” thing to say in that (or any other) situation. The truth is that there are lots of things you could say in that situation.
If you saw that tampon fall, you could say what I said. You could also say, “Hey, you might need a tampon today. Let me get it for you” or “Now that’s embarrassing!” Say whatever is on your mind.
So many guys don’t (or can’t) say what’s on their mind, because their mind is always preoccupied with wondering what they should say. They are constantly thinking, “What do I say . . . and how do I say it?”
Those kind of thoughts occupying your mind every day is the reason you don’t make connections every single day. You are never in the moment. You are always worried, over-thinking and over-analyzing.
If I can start a conversation over a tampon, you can start a conversation anywhere, anytime and in any situation too.
It’s Tampon…
Experience is the best teacher there is. It teaches me what to say and what not to say in certain situations. Only by doing will I learn the boundaries of other people.
And yes, there is no “right thing to say”, only one stupid thing not to do and that is doing nothing out of fake fear.
Nice post
It is the best one, I will try
Yes but why did you only talk to her for 30 seconds? Was she ugly, dull etc?
I wonder if you can go back in time and or if it happens to me, if i can say after what you just said add. “Hey did you know there is a new manufacturing technology a competing tampon maker is developing to make things more – best…”
“hey why do you prefer you brand over the other brand”
Or is it wrong to do that?
joe, the woman was busy, you dork
and, i think it’s best just to leave the opener just as david did. we kinda dont like to talk about our periods or pads or tampons to the male gender
if that was me I would have ripped my bloody tampon out of my cunt and slapped you across your smug face with it.