The Smell Of Sex
February 3, 2010 
27 Comments
The lights are dim, the candles are lit and the music is low. The smell of seduction is all around you, and you are about to have what you think is going to be great sex.
She comes out of the bathroom smelling all pretty and sexy, and the two of you embrace. Something, however, is wrong.
Why are you feeling this way right now? 
You think, “Not now! I am about to have some great sex with this hot, sexy woman. Why do I feel so not right?”
Let’s reverse the sex roles for a second. Women of the blog, picture yourself as the one who is feeling so off and strange when contact is made.
Do you want to know why this happens?
Then click here and listen to today’s podcast.
Oh, and one last thing…
No need to dim the lights when I am talking to you!
Click here to listen now:
Also, CLICK HERE to listen to what happens in the situation where this scenario I layed out in the beginning ends in that amazing sex you were anticipating.
One word NLP tools from tony robbins guys guys what’s going on here?? lol I like the guy’s point of view visual/auditory/kinesthetic. I think we are all wired all three ways (visual/auditory/kinesthetic) sexually but its the way how we wanted to be reached in all these three modes.
lol very unique podcast
different from all your previous but still very informative
What happened to TKO KNOCKOUT?? She gave a hell of a one today. Not to mention David and Larry
Thanks
GREAT JOB!!
Thanks Matt! How did I knock you out? I have some more 1-2 punches in mind for the future:)
Question: isn’t there a possibility of making the podcast also available as mp3? I sit in front of my pc way too much, and I would so prefer not having to sit in front of it more when listening to the podcast. Or else make them all videos! Then there’d be a reason to stay and watch.
Plus posting my response made the page reload and now I have to re-listen to all of it to hear the last bit. Clumsy format really.
So interesting…I love it totally. I am totally with Larry on the energetic part.
Mats, dude … what is up with you bitching and complaining about the FREE podcast david gives us every week?
It’s really a bad way to be man … try saying thank you
Its interesting to hear different perspective.
And forgot to mention, TK your words really resonated with me, and thank you!
Mats- I agree it does suck that you have to listen to everything all over again after the page refresh.
What did you like the most about the podcast?
Pete- are you a NLP coach?
Mats,
You can always download all podcasts directly as mp3 when you go to the rss feed here: http://yeshdolh.byoaudio.com/rss/david_wygants_podcast.xml
So sideway sex…. isn’t that called spooning and forking?
Oh… and great podcast!
I think communication comes down to our ability to empathize with other people.
A lot of time, we are actually communicating a lot… whether you we speak up or not. Our behaviors always say something about who we are… but the hurdle for most people is to actually empathize with their partner.
They talk to their partner as if they talk to themselves. However, if you can empathize with your partner, if you can put yourself in their shoes… you’d talk to them as if they talked to themselves…
That’s how you know that your message is being received and understood the “right” way.
Coach Khiem/Ken:
that was deep what you had to share. so are you saying that seek first to understand your partner and then you will be able to completely relate to her?
“Mats- I agree it does suck that you have to listen to everything all over again after the page refresh.
What did you like the most about the podcast?”
What I liked the most? Well the exploration of the thought that one has to try and connect to the other person’s fantasy, which was worded as two different types of sexuality. I think that is not entirely the truth though. There is inmy opinion an infinite number of types of sexuality. Some people get turned on by steel pans, a certain brand of shoe, a certain hairdo,… It’s called perversion, but we all have our own brand of it, although usually less out of the ordinary than the examples I gave.
Every person is a whole new discovery to me. Looking for a person’s turn-on… so much fun. Finding out what a person’s turn on is… priceless.
*bitching and moaning? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
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I am looking into this mp3 thing for you guys.
I hear you loud and clear:)
I enjoyed this podcast. Thank you very much David..
No David, I don’t think you do. lmao j/k
Very interesting topic!
It reminded me of a book “The 5 love languages” from Gary Chapman I read some weeks ago.
He described the model of different love types, and that they need different kinds of of things to get from their partner to “know” that their partner loves them.
The love languages he describes are:
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Gift
4. Acts of Service
5. Words of Affirmation
Maybe its a different model of what “type” a partner can be than you described in the podcast, but basically it comes to the same:
- knowing your own needs and communicating them to your partner
- have a partner that can communicate his/her needs and you having the desire to fulfill them
David…this is one of your best podcasts yet! Great advice from you and the team!
Thanks Clint! What part did you relate to?
Coach TK: It was what you said about the importance of communication between the two partners. Looking forward to more podcast and your insights. Thank you!
Thanks for looking into it, my suggestion was with the best intention, and thanks you Ken for your solution.
Michael
Its so funny that you brought up that book. I am reading it right now and its brilliant.
Simple easy to understand and you can break down just about any relationship based on the 5 languages of love.
It also helps you to understand yourself and how your language needs to be filled everyday.
We talked about this book the other day..In mondays blog actually.
What made you read the book?
thanks Clint…you got it. Pick a topic and we’ll do it!
Jimmy,
You understand me well.
I am saying to seek first to understand her. By seeking to understand her first, you can see what she sees in you or in whatever issues you are having together.
Only then can you communicate with her in a way that she will understand. Just know that I’m not saying to submit to all her will or to only accept what she wants.
I’m just saying to communicate and relate to her based on how she sees the world.
It’s really the art of listening attentively and empathizing with her. It’s understanding her on an emotional level instead of a rational one.
When you allow your own emotions and her emotions to speak up freely, there’s no ego to hold you back from truly communicating to each other.