Same thing with this blog.
As people we should stop judging each other. Give everyone a chance. Don’t turn her down because she is not the adventurous type. Don’t turn him dowm because he is a “virgin”. We all nead to lead the other person to get the best out of them and fullfil ourselves.

You don’t exactly “interview” a potential partner to see how experienced they are, until you get to know them otherwise.. first..

But some people actually do have that talk. I had it, before I even considered a serious relationship, or the guy who liked me started asking me questions as to my sexual status etc. However, that may’ve been because we work together and are friends, so he obviously felt comfortable enough asking me…

I think if i’m not mistaken, that the label or the stamp that she’s talking about, is the point here..
when guys (or girls) acknowledge the kind of experience a girl has based on past “adventures” (or lack of them), they seem to label the girl..
so it’s hard for the girl to get rid of that label. that’s how i interpreted the essence of her blog:)

Are you flirting with me again? ;p

However, I agree and disagree with you Sultry Brunette, because I’ve experienced the experience catch 22 (I was a virgin till I turned 18, and am now soon 20) and there was this guy at my work who really liked me, and… OH! I just realized something for the first time =O (i’ll get to that), but we never got together, because he didn’t want a girlfriend he couldnt (what’s couldn’t anyway, I mean, when a guy says that?) have sex with. He knew that at that time I was a virgin. Since then I feel that he sort of labelled me a virgin, you know, the kind of girl that stays a virgin till she’s married. It really opened my eyes, as to how I myself wanted to be preceived, but then I started to really not care what he thought about me at all.. no wonder I didn’t “chase” him
Now, I know why he didn’t think it was such a good idea for us to get together, I mean, he loves sex, and he even told me he considered virgins (or girls inexperienced with sex) to be conservative! I never thought of it then, that that might’ve been the reason for him backing off slowly..
He still flirts with me though, and looks at me as “wife material”.. (?!)
But he’s moved on and has a girlfriend, about 4 years older than him… probably more experienced, or atleast at his “Level” if there is such a thing in the field

As to my personal opinion, I realized once I had sex for the first time, that it was all about how I myself preceived myself.. I didn’t want to brag about having had sex with my ex, and letting people know that I had some experience.. I wanted to keep it to myself, and show it in bed with someone special..

As for how to get experienced, well, we all know how..don’t we?
I mean, virgins have sex in the end, and some have “adventorous personalitites”, some are “catholic schoolgirls” in bed, some even become “dominatrix”es (=P) in bed.. etc etc. Same with the job market, you start off at some point, and some day you realize that, wow.. you have all this experience! To me, it’s about being humble… with where and how you start..

I started working when I was 15/16, as a newspaper delieverer..(to subscribers), and then I was lucky to work with my stepmother at her school, as an assistant to those who take care of children after school, and then I worked at this foodstore owned by the parents of a friend of mine, and then at a clothing store, and then at our local foodstore etc etc.
I took all the “chances” I got and worked them out to my advantage, now my resume definately says “experienced” (in the job market that is!)

In the job market, when you don’t have experience but you show a strong will to do something, people will still hire you. Your strong desire to do well will inspire people to give you a chance.

It’s the same thing in the “sexual experience” market. Men say they would prefer a woman who knows what she’s doing but realistically, they won’t disregard you if you are less than adequately experienced as long as you allow yourself to experience new things with them.

The idea here is… if you feel inadequate, talk openly about what you’d LOVE to experience with the man… how much it’d turn you on if this or that happen… how excited you’d be to do this or that. By the way you describe your excitement and considering that the man may like the pride in being the one to help you gain that experience, he may get so turned on so much that he’ll just JUMP at the first opportunity to show you what you’ve been missing out on.

And worse comes to worse, you can always “prepare” yourself by reading more about sex. Obviously experience is the most valued asset in any “position” but by just expanding your knowledge on the topic of sex (what turns a man on, what techniques you can use… etc), you will be better prepared to act on instinct, immerse yourself in the moment by letting go any insecurities so that you can truly enjoy the new experience when it comes. [all puns intended ]

Or…

Ignore everything I just wrote and “act as if” you knew what you were doing!

Most people wouldn’t know any better anyway ;p

Thanks again Kevin for the great comment!