The Number System By David Wygant
It’s interesting, because a lot of men – and I’m talking about MEN, I’m not talking about boys. As little boys, we used to look at girls and we used to rate them on a number system.
I remember being like 11 years old, and we’d look at women – well, at that time, girls – and go, “man, she’s cute, what would you rate her?” “Oh, she’s like a 6.8,” or “she’s like a 7.5.”
The problem is that any man over the age of, really, 22 should no longer be rating women on a number scale. The number system is just really ridiculous. Why are you rating a woman on a number? Really, it’s arbitrary anyway, because my 10 could be your 3. Your 3 could be my 7, your 6 could be my 6.18, and your 2.87 could be my 3.14 – wait, isn’t that Pi?
Anyway, I really think it’s time that men stop rating women on the number scale, and started evaluating women on a whole new system.
I am going to explain this whole new system. This new system is so revolutionary, guys, that women are not going to look at you as man-boys anymore. Women hear you say that stuff. I’ve seen guys out in a bar, and they look at a woman and they…
Come on man, wake up! It’s unbelievable. We’re doing this blog as we drive, and if any of you have not driven in Los Angeles, the horn in LA is called the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. People love to just sit at that light. There’s not much to do at a light. You have two things to do: you stop and you stare at the light, and when it turns green, you go.
But in LA, it’s amazing how many times the light turns green, and they just sit there. Being a New Yorker, I’m going to use the horn, because I love that horn. And in Los Angeles, by the way, too, the directional blinker is optional equipment, because no one ever signals here. So you can save a thousand bucks off your car.
But let’s get back to that number system. So I was in a bar one night, and these guys were standing there and rating women, and women were hearing them. “Oh man, she’s a 6.” And that’s really classless. You’re 40 years old, and you’re rating women on a scale from one to ten? You sound like an immature child!
So how would you like a covert system where you actually can go and meet a woman, and afterwards you can say words that women will hear over and over again, but will have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about? Hell, you can rate these women right in front of their faces and they’ll have no idea what you are talking about!
It’s time to grow up, and it’s time to use the new system of rating people. I’m not talking about the Nielsen ratings, I’m not talking about the Arbitron ratings for radio; I’m talking about the new system here that Khiem is so proud of that he’s thinking of patenting it.
And he hasn’t even thought it up – it isn’t even his. But he’s going to share something with you guys that you need to learn. It’s called, for you technical guys, YMN.
Khiem: Thank you, David. You’re right, you shouldn’t rate women on a scale, because truthfully, at what number is a woman attractive to you? A 6? Above a 5? How about you simplify it to yes, no, and maybe.
Let’s be honest: would you want her? Yes or no. And if you’re not sure, then maybe. Maybe can be a lot of things. Maybe could be if she has a good personality, and you just might want to do her. But if she’s really bad, then she falls quickly into the no category.
Let’s be honest here. You’re a man, and you meet a woman. We’ll put you one-on-one in a room, and assuming that there are no distractions, how much do you desire her?
It’s so much simpler. And even when you wink at each other in the bar or wherever you are, she’s like, yeah – okay, I don’t even know what you mean, David, I can see it in your eyes!
David: It’s a yes or a no!
Khiem: It’s a yes or a no, there’s no ifs ands or buts about it. It’s just yes or no. Once in a while, you’ll get the occasional maybe, and that’s why you go up and talk to her. When you’re not sure, go find out! Go find out and be curious about her.
And then you can come home and say, “you know guys, I saw a yes girl,” or “no way, I saw a no girl.” And it’s so much easier.
It doesn’t matter what your guys tell you – it’s all up to you. Either you like her or you don’t.
David: Not only that, but think about this: you might run into a woman in the street, and you might see her walking to Whole Foods, and she might actually work in Whole Foods, or whatever, and she’s a maybe. You’re not quite sure about her yet. Guess what? You met a maybe! That means you can go back in there and meet her again. She might turn into a yes; she might turn into a no.
I’ve had maybes that have turned into yeses, and I’ve had maybes that have turned into nos. Hell, I’ve had some maybes that have turned into long-term relationships! I wasn’t quite sure about her the very first time I met her. I wasn’t quite sure about her personality, and who she was. And I learned more about her the second time around.
So expand your horizons! Become a yes-no-maybe man. Lay off the number system. Numbers are great – on a calendar. Numbers are great on a phone. Let’s look at my car right now – it is 68°. Does that mean that the women around us are all 6.8s?
So let’s lay off the number system, guys, and let’s go to yes, no, and maybe. It’s going to make you sound a hell of a lot more mature in life. Really, the fact of the matter is that these numbers are just validating you anyway. Every guy wants to be with that “perfect 10.”
Really, the perfect 10 comes from inside out. And the perfect 10 is very different for each guy. You don’t need to tell your friends that she’s a 10, you don’t need to high-five, your friends don’t need to validate you; you need to validate yourself!
Go after what you want with a vengeance. If it’s a yes, go after her and ask her out! If it’s a no, then be nice to her because she may lead you to a bunch of yeses.
But, once again, be open to everything.
Alright, that’s it. I’m sitting at a green light right now, and I’m the lead car. In Los Angeles, it’s really important to be the lead car. If you’re the lead car, you don’t have to use the ‘wake the fuck up’ device. If you’re the lead car, the only you have to do is make sure that the person next to you doesn’t weave into your lane – they tend to be lane weavers here too.
Do you have lane weavers in your town?
I love this system and have been using it for at least a month or two. I think the numbers issue, though, digs into an interesting question — what are you waiting for?
I’ve flirted with so many maybes lately I’m thinking that I’m just being egotistical and waiting for the a definite yes woman. During that time, I’m torturing myself being single, but I always become more attracted to the woman I’m dating, almost to the point of being clingy. It seems like I have days with low mental abundance and high mental abundance — I see no hope and then have the world at my hands — or maybe I just connect well with people some days more than others. But I don’t want to jump into any relationship unless I see a woman who I could end up in a very long-term relationship with. What do you think, David? Is that conceited?
But wait… PUA’s use terminology like HB8, HB9, etc. With this new system I won’t be able to use PUA terminology and I’ll feel so left out.
If anyone out there need any more push than today’s entry to stop this foolishness, go listen to the country song from years ago called “The Perfect 10.” It’s one woman’s comeback to the numbers rating system…
I’m definately taking this on I always hated going out with mates ands they’d be dude 8 at 12 o’clock I’d be like ooh cool she’s not really my type and they’d be so what she’s an 8 just go for it! YMN as you called it seems just better!!
Hey guys gonna break the rules here. You may use the number system but us women can do the same. Say if I see a guy and I am attracted to him then he maybe someone that I would consider going out with. It depends on the guys nature and what attracts him to me. But if he looks like John Wayne that has been wrestling with the cows all day forget it. But when it comes to hunksters watch me drool. Especially guys in tuxes.
Sandra
That was freaking funny=> “If the guy been wrestling w cows all day forget it”. Haha!
Oh the women I have been around when we see an attractive guy. We will say hey did you see that guy then both of us are looking. Yes he is a hunkmister. But if I am not attracted to him I will say yes for you but not for me. Women will show me a picture of their husband/boyfriend I will say he is good looking for you not for me. But if I agree with the woman and I see him with another woman I may lets get rid of her and take a vote on who is the one that gets him.
The conversation between the women when they see a handsome guy hey did you see that guy hey I would not mind being with him. Me too. If it someone that we agree that we don’t want to be with I will look at her and say there’s one for you. Then she will say no way.
I have a question what attracts you to women the most each person has a fetish is it legs or bootie? Mine is looking at the man’s bootie.
some women mainly look at the bootie and see what kind of package he has.
I got into a discussion with a lady friend the other day about this … legman? assman? My answer has changed over the years and I have become a package man (no not the same package you’re talking about Sandra).If she has a that perfect combination of sarcastic wit and sweet smile , then the legs and ass really don’t some into play for me…. at least until later on .
I like the YNM system , and for sure you have to give yourself a chance to know those “maybes” …. they might be the woman you’ve been dreaming of
Too funny about the traffic, and blinkers being optional equipment in LA, so true. Not to mention the 2-3-4 car rule that means those cars are still turning even after their light has turned red. B/c of that, btw, I am one of those who waits a couple extra seconds when my light turns green to avoid any of those idiots making that turn.
As for the number system, I’ve found that the hot/confident guys don’t bother with that b/c they don’t need to; they know they can get whoever they want. It’s the insecure guys who have to rate the women to make themselves feel worthy. And often, it’s the less attractive guys rating women who -according to their own number scales, if they were rating themselves by their own same requirements- would be at the low end, but they only want the women at the high end. Pretty ridiculous.
Screw the number system! You kidding me?! There is no reference to anything but your own taste and no one can relate to your taste so it’s better you just keep it to yourself.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Every men has different taste in choosing women. What maybe good for me is not enough for some men. I think the most important thing here is men should know what criterias ( physical or non-physical) he is looking for a woman.
We all have our own fetishes and mine happen to look at the male’s bootie until I find someone and no more bootie. You guys are such strange bed fellows. The same goes for women but we do it in a different way. Give u a hint: has it ever occured to you guys that some women play hard to get.
Or put you guys to the test just to see if you are going to practice what u preach. Oh I do believe to allow the guy time to decide what kind of relationship he wants with me.
How do you tell when a woman is playing “hard or get” or just “no get”.
Personally, I don’t do the mind game thing. I’m not in f*ing High School anymore; women (and men) either grow the fuck up or go back to high school. If I like a woman, I’ll tell her; but for some reason that isn’t socially acceptable. I’m supposed to mind fuck someone to see if they like me, too? Why don’t I chase you around the monkey bars and throw sand at you while I’m at it?
A woman playing hard to get is one that will put you through tests to see if you really care about her or just bullshitting. She acts likes this for a reason. When I do this it lets me know that the guy cares enough about to stick it out. But once he has me no longer do I like to play head games. For I don’t want them to be played on me.
Sandra,
If you don’t like head games played on you; why do you play them on guys?
Darryl
Men and women don’t think alike. That is how God made us man and woman. It is our way of seeing if you care or not. In other words do we need to move onto the next guy. Just like when the guy plays the distant and withdrawal with us women. Please explain that one to me when I talk to a guy and he is not listening? I have been also studying with someone else other that David Wygant. And have learned some things from the other individual. Like Natural and Lasting Attraction, From Casual To Committed, Inside The Mind Of A Man. In which David Wygant was a guest speaker on.
Not all of us like or play head games. Personally, I get enough of that crap at work. But if you’ve got something on your mind, share it. If you want to know something, ask it. Did you ask the person in question and get a vague reply? This stuff works both ways. I appreciate a little verbal sport – thrust and parry. I may not be the type to initiate very often, but I always respond. My friends tell me that they do too. I guess you’d have to define the “hard to get” or “no get” thing and where you were trying to go. Hard to get a dance or a conversation? Hard to get a date? Hard to get serious about? Hard to get into bed? What was the goal?
I believe I need a lesson on communication skills I speak what is on my mind.