Last night we saw Coldplay at the Home Depot Center in Carson. Never again will I see anything at the Home Depot Center in Carson.
There is not a good seat in the house, and it’s the most poorly run place I’ve ever seen. It took an hour to get the car out of the parking lot. An hour! I pulled out of the parking space and could see the exit, but we just couldn’t get to it. They just had no clue how to move traffic.
The show itself was great! There was the Internet rumor that they were doing a fifteen minute cover of Michael Jackson’s “Billy Jean” at all of their shows. You’ve got to love the Internet. The song “Billy Jean” is three minutes long . . . and so was the cover version that Coldplay did last night.
I love how rumors start. So let’s start our own rumor today. I don’t know what I want to start, but there’s got to be something we can start. Give me some time, I’ll come up with something during the day (and maybe I’ll post it in the comments).
Otherwise, let’s get into today’s truth . . .
In a recent blog, I discussed how women can know if a man is attracted to them on a date. Now let’s talk about how a woman can keep that attraction going.
Men love to be teased. If a man touches your arm during the course of a date, touch him a few times back. That will drive him crazy. When you go to the bathroom, get up and on the way to the bathroom touch his shoulder and whisper “I’ll be right back” in his ear. That will really drive him crazy!
When he’s talking and leaning into you, lean into him so he can feel your closeness. When he goes to kiss you on the cheek, give him a quick kiss on the lips, a quick smile, and then walk away. As you’re walking away, turn around and give him another smile.
Also, compliment a man during a date. Tell him you’re having a good time. Laugh at his silly jokes. This will keep him intrigued.
These are some simple techniques that you can use to flirt and let a man know that you’re interested
Dammit, I thought men hated a tease..I’ve been doing it all wrong!
Shit! That’s what my girls are doing to me… Hahaha~ It works!
No man likes a ‘tease’, however, being teased a bit by the woman that he has feelings for just drives him nuts in a good way.
In my definition, a tease is someone that takes a man that is interested and does tease to get him interested, with absolutely no intention of ever delivering on the things that he wants.
Basically, a woman that uses the man for her own interests.
David!
DId you see the opening act of the three siblings, Kitty, Daisy and Lewis???? They are part of the 50’s scene which I am much a part of!!! They are so awesome too! If you saw them, what did you think?
Speaking of scooby doo guys this one guy that I am interested in he will touch me I will do the same back. In the meantime I will tell him something encouraging and off we go…That is what I call good communication and letting each other hey I am still interested.
I have a few tips for women as well. I’ve met a couple girls that I feel are MASTERS at having guys in their lives… and after careful observation, I can confidently say this:
- when you touch a man, make him feel like you are really excited to see him. Every time I meet up with this girl, she either kisses me on the cheek or hug me so excitingly that I’d really feel her lips smack loudly against my cheek… or her boobs would really squish tightly against my chest. Every time she does it, even though I know she does it with all her guy friends, it makes me feel like she really likes me.
- Have a genuine interesting in a guy’s life. The girl I’m currently dating always shows genuine interest in what I do. Not only she asks me about the things I do, she also always asks me how she can support me or help me…. or participate in the things that I do. It shows real care and love… and it makes me more attracted to her. It also makes me want to do things more for her…. buy her little gifts for appreciations… etc. So if you feel a man never buy you gifts… maybe that’s why! Show him that you are just as interested in him as he is in you.
- I think this last one is a bit obvious… but learn to insinuate sexy/sexual things. I know women don’t want to come off as sluts… but a woman who knows how to “innocently” insinuate sexy or sexual activities through normal conversations will always get a man’s attention. Men are horny!!! If you can get him mind thinking or imagining about naughty things…. well, guess what? He’ll definitely pay attention…. and who knows… he might pull off some even more charming moves back on you!
Really good advice, Khiem! Some of my girls act these ways you mentioned and I feel myself drawn towards them.
Khiem – you make excellent, valid points. However, I do all those things, especially showing interest, supporting and doing things to attempt to make my guy’s life easier, etc. I always ask about his day/work, offer to do things for him while he’s working out of town (which he does 3 – 4 days per week almost every week) if I can see he is getting behind/stressed about something from being gone from home so much. I encourage him to share about hopes, dreams and just his general interests. I have become interested in and enjoy college football since I have started seeing him and have really enjoyed saltwater fishing with him. All for naught – he doesn’t want more than to date for 3 years —– ????
Horsegirl,
I like what you are doing. I can tell you care about him and are supportive of him… but do you also have a life of your own or does your life solely revolve around his?
Make sure to keep a balance. You don’t want to lose your own self while in the relationship.
On a different note, how serious is he truly with you? If after 3 years, you both don’t seem to share similar goals… maybe he’s either 1. not seeing how great you are and therefore not truly appreciating you enough. or 2. not ready because he really doesn’t know what he wants.
In either case, time to move on!
Khiem – Thank you for your reply. Yes, I do have my own life – I have a stable career, my own home, 2 pro-level competition horses, my own friends, etc. I so tend to center most weekends around he & I though, since Fri – Sun/early Mon are usually our only time to spend together. Even when he is in town all week, I work 12-hour nights, so those days/nights we aren’t together. Our time is pretty equally spent between what each of us likes to do.
He has said he thinks we are on the same path, but at different speeds. (?) This does tend to make me agree with you that he really doesn’t know what he wants and/or when he wants it. He doesn’t want to live together (that’s okay with me-it’s too precarious in alot of ways.), but he says he doesn’t want to lose me. He says he loves me, but just wants his life like it is for now…… Any suggestions on how I can make it easier for me to move on? I agree with you that it probably would be best, but I love him, too, & of course don’t want to make a huge mistake. (Why is it always easier to give advice than to take it??? I’d probably be suggesting the same things you are!)
Khiem – Once again – you are pretty much right on with your comments.
Yes, I do have my own, very fulfilling, life – I have a stable, professional career, two awesome pro-level competition horses, my own friends, etc.
We do make time for each other most all of each weekend as we don’t see each other during most weeks. Even when he is in town, I work 12 hour nights, so we just stay at our own place during those weeks.
His reply to going further than just exclusive dating after 3 years is that we ‘are on the same path, just going at different speeds.’ I am beginning to think that is guy-speak for ‘I don’t know what I really want/don’t want and I don’t know if I would want it with you.’ He says he doesn’t want to lose me, but he doesn’t want to change things ‘right now’.
It seems that it is always the girl that has to say, ‘I’m not hanging around to wait for you, but you can try calling someday if you ever decide what you want – maybe I’ll still be available.’ That’s horrendously hard to do when you love someone.
Guys, it would be to your benefit to take the responsibility for making that move sometimes. Otherwise, it looks like ya’ll enjoy leading us on until we either wise up or get tired of the ‘game’. I have seen women get ‘crazy’, ‘dramatic’, irrational,etc when this happens – while I don’t approve, I can certainly understand the feeling. If you don’t like it when women act this way, then be careful how you treat us. Be honest with us – it’s not that hard! (BTW – he has been married previously,so he is familiar with committment.)
Horsegirl,
I think your situation is a prime example of what guys need to learn.
Most guys know how to lead a woman into wanting to date them. They WANT to get laid, so they do everything they know to attract and seduce the woman in all the right ways. They try to create magic out of the interaction but once in the relationship, they really don’t give a second thought to what they want to make out of the relationship.
Just like anything in life, you got to give your relationship a direction.
Horsegirl, if you are still happy with your relationship, don’t change anything… but consider pulling back from him a bit. Don’t chase after him constantly in telling him what you want out of the relationship, don’t pressure him to choose anything.
Slowly pull back the desire you have been showing in wanting to be in his life.
If he’s smart, he’ll feel that something is wrong. He’ll get worried that maybe you’re starting to see someone else on the side.
That little pinch in the heart may give him enough of a kick in the ass for him to truly evaluate if he wants something more serious with you.
If he doesn’t, there’s no reason to continue your relationship with him.
A relationship is a 2 way effort. It sounds like you want to work things with him to accommodate his life and his personal sense of timing… but does he do anything to accommodate your needs and desires as well?
On a different note, I’d want you to take some time to really be honest with yourself: Do you just love him as a person… or are you in love with him?
Loving someone just means you care for them… and you can love a lot of people… but you don’t have to be in a relationship with a person you aren’t in love with.
Think about it.
Khiem – thanks so much for your insight and comments – it’s obvious you are very wise and insightful. And, yes, I am in love with him – fortunately or unfortunately for me! This will work out how God has planned it too, I know. We (as people) seem to get in our own way alot though. ~ Karen ~