Comments on: The Road To Acceptance

By: Reece

Reece — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:58:47 +0000

Start believeing that you are a sexy and attractive man and then step back and let the women come to you, go with the flow and interact with women like you are talking to a friend… show genuine interest in her and then let her qualify herself to you.

I’ve discovered recently that if you are just open and cool and make eye contact with women that they will actually start chasing you. Once you stop making women the centre of your life and stop obesessing over them and start focusing on living your life and finding pleasure in all things other than women then you will start reaching your goals with women much faster.

By: Collin

Collin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:34:23 +0000

That’s my problem with PUAs. All I saw was a bunch of confusing acronyms and techniques that were supposed to inspire confidence down the road once you’ve had initial success hooking up with tons of girls at bars. I’m not looking for that. I know lots of guys are, but I think even more guys are looking for great long term relationships. From what I’ve seen, too many PUAs find their self value in the number of hookups they’ve had, as well as how fast they can do it. Ultimately though, their self value is still tied to the approval of women and the approval of other PUAs.

“Oh I must be a big deal because I can get a bunch of drunk chicks to have sex with me the night I meet them, and I’ve hooked up with more girls than those other guys, so they all have to respect me.” is a load of bullshit. People need their self worth to be anchored in something other than the approval of others if they want to be healthy long term.

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:06:05 +0000

Collin,

That’s a very good point you make. Knowing more about women types… doesn’t necessarily give you the proper behavior to attract her.

Just because you know her type… or the angle you should approach her with… doesn’t mean you can apply the steps with the right attitude and confidence.

By: Collin

Collin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:04:03 +0000

And I don’t mean that like I’m some sort of expert. I meant that as a normal guy who is still learning and developing my dating skills.

By: Collin

Collin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:01:09 +0000

I listened to the “webinar” and I wasn’t impressed either. While that kind of thing could be useful to someone who already had the self confidence and grounding for a solid relationship and was just looking for one night stands or brief flings, a person who isn’t in that place already isn’t going to be helped very much by being able to typecast a woman. Small success with hookups in bars might lead to confidence in the system, but it still doesn’t address the core belief issues that so many guys struggle with.

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:53:56 +0000

Bob,

You have to understand the 2 basic approaches that men use to “get women”. You:
1. learn to attract women by the sheer force of nature you are, based on your lifestyle and the conviction you have of who you are as a man
2. learn to attract women by being the hunter and making sure you can appeal to your “prey” the most effective way you know how.

Both approaches have their own merits. But who are you? Who do you want to be? It’s really up to you.

What we teach here is more oriented to the first approach. Based on what I’ve seen and heard of the Pandora Box, it’s more focused on the second approach.

If you follow approach 1, you aren’t worrying so much about women. You will attract plenty of women who will fit into your lifestyle because you are more concerned with your own life purpose than you are about attracting ALL types of women. You understand that you want 1, 2 or even 3 very specific types of women and you are happy with those kind of women. In the end, as much as we want “hot women”, we only want the RIGHT kind of women for us. You are basically “screening” for the right kind of women up front based on the very lifestyle you live. Our approach is to show you how to project the very traits and lifestyle that will appeal to the kind of women you know will make you happy.

Your sense of abundance comes from the understanding that the more you talk, the more you share yourself to the world, the more opportunities you’ll get to have the right kind of woman find you.

If you follow approach 2, you are more worried about the goal. You want a specific kind of woman and whether she’s the right kind for you or not is not the question. You want that kind of woman because you have a fantasy of dating that kind of woman. You are more interested in stroking your own ego by knowing you can get THAT kind of woman (whatever THAT kind may be). In some ways, you may not know yourself that well yet. Your sense of identity or your sense of purpose/value is not as strongly defined as a guy who likes the first approach more.

Your sense of of abundance comes from the knowledge you have on the tools you can use to appeal to all sorts of women… but by doing so, you are also wasting a lot of energy into making you do things that may be unnatural to you.

Are both approaches valid? Yes… they have their own uses and times. But understand this….

If you listened carefully to the audio you shared with us, Vin challenged you guys to understand women better with his product.

This statement assumes that all women fall into categories. How about you learn to understand YOUR woman better?

Yes, there are generalizations you can make and learn from… but what WE teach is to listen and relate and understand her upfront. If you are good at that, if you are good at seeing/feeling her when you meet her, you WILL gather enough information to guesstimate the kind of woman she is. So in essence, you ARE reading her profile by applying the very principles we teach you here.

By: Bob

Bob — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:19:44 +0000

It addresses how it is necessary to approach different personality types of women, in the best way, for each of their different personality types. It kinda goes to my remark a couple days ago about saying how “fucking” beautiful a girl is out of the blue, without knowing her, her personality type, and possibly insulting her. I haven’t seen you talk about how it may be necessary to adjust your approach for the different types of women you desire. (You will probably say, “you don’t need to “adjust” yourself to fit with what a woman likes”, but that is not really a great answer, in my opinion, if you are seeking a certain type/style of woman) Whether it be a long term, short term, sex, friendship, etc type of relationship, do you think you should respond in a manner that is appropriately different? No need to publish this, since it is off subject for today. Thanks, Bob

By: Collin

Collin — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:08:58 +0000

I’ve never seen the movie. However, I do know a thing or two about crazy women. They’re usually the most fun.

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:25:15 +0000

Collin,

Have you seen the movie Fatal Attraction? There’s a scene where Glenn Close cooks the bunny…. so that’s where the term Bunny Boiler comes from… when the girl gets so obsessed… or is so crazy that it’s just a tragedy waiting to happen.

By: Mike-Ro

Mike-Ro — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:02:27 +0000

I’m taking this very slowly… I mean to me it’s a great feeling that I could actually smile to a person and just look for 3 seconds in her eyes:).Me smilling at them really seems akward to me, dont know why.They weird part is, sometimes it’s easy, sometimes my head turs away with me having no power over it . I keep telling myself to say hello to them and take it further and further. Hope I will eventualy do it …step by step…I’m 18, I don’t think it’a an excuse if I tell myself I have time…dough I would like to do more and more every day.

Thanks for these reminders David, you talked about this stuff in older posts but keep them comming, they’re great reminders!

Mike