The Relationship Stand-Off
September 28, 2009 
16 Comments
Have you all met the country’s newest and hottest handicapper in football? Fresh off my Lions pick, I am now 6-0 on the season. So stay tuned for next week’s picks.
Now on today’s non-football related topic…
Let’s talk about relationships and, specifically, about being stubborn in a relationship. Let’s talk about giving in when you’re in a relationship.
When you’re in a relationship, you will have arguments. You will sometimes argue about something even when you know the other person has a valid point. Your ego wants to “win” and be right, so you’ll get into an argument instead of really thinking about what the other person was saying.
During every argument, there will come a time when someone needs to give in . . . but it seems like everyone always wants the other person to be the one to do it.
Each person will think, “I don’t want to hug them first” or “I don’t want to make the first move.”
How many nights when you’re in a relationship has your bed felt like it has an imaginary dividing line down the middle? You might accidentally touch knees or ankles in the middle of the night, and you jump because you don’t want to make the first move.
I mean, it’s crazy how many people are stubborn. I, myself, am very stubborn. I hate apologizing. I have always hated apologizing.
I have always hated making the first move. My mindset was always, “Why should I make the first move. They are the ones who brought the issue up.” The fact of the matter is that relationships tend to get very sour very quickly if both of you are being stubborn.
How many nights do you want to sleep on opposite ends of the bed? How many nights do you want to look at your lover and realize that what you’re fighting about is really ridiculous?
Saying you are sorry is really easy. Saying you are sorry and really meaning it is sometimes harder. So I think you need to really realize what your arguments are really about in your relationship, and start to see that it’s really not worth it 90% of the time.
Check out this great new in field approach video we shot last week. Its all about how to approach a group of women,
Unbelievable you are 6-0 now!
That was a great break down, can we have more of those video’s near future!!!
I got to give the high five for going up and doing what David told him to do. It takes balls to go up to 3 random girls, and it also looks like he really has done pretty good job, towards the end the girls are so into listening what he had to say.
David- what inspired you to write this wonderful blog today? I got to admit, I had a recent fight with my boyfriend lately and it’s all stupid fights, but sad part is we are both stubborn, and its makes it even more difficult.
Hi Julia- how you been?
Hope your relationship is better now, and you are not too hard on the guy.
John- Thanks! I am doing better, it’s a lot better between us now than past weekend. That’s the thing about relationship, its never constant, there is always up and down, and you learn from it.
Forgot to ask, how are you doing John?
oh I am doing great!
Just taking some notes, enjoyed today’s short clip, but its such a tease, now I want to see more infield videos.
Nice to hear your relationship is better now!
That’s why sometimes our relationship is called “relationshit” lol
Did that guy in the video get the number close? It didn’t seem like the girl was interested in him what you guys think?
Video comment- I agree with David if he stood closer with feet apart, it would have more impact with them. It’s interesting to see how David breaks this down so deep.
I don’t understand, even if you belive you’re right you should be the one to make the first move and say sorry? I’ve been trough that and I gave in a few times but just to keep up my relationship not that I really meant it. Isn’t that…fake? Don’t know what to say.
I also have a tendency to be stubborn and am learning to let go of my ego. It doesn’t just hurt relationships, but all areas of your life. Being self employed, if you have too much ego you learn your lessons the hard way.
My best friend was the bigger man and I learned from him. While roommates, we would get in these big fights about something very silly. Deep down, I admired that he was able to come around while my foolish pride held me back from making amends.
I need to practice on approaching groups of women,(hot girls are rarely alone) I’m getting better at approaching just 1, then i’ll work on 2 then 3 and so on.
Getting comfortable to approach groups takes a bit of time as you need to learn to make the approach as normal and as casual as possible.
But that’s what happens after a few months post bootcamp.. the guys get really good at just doing it
We should have more in-field footage coming up soon.
James
Its not about the PUA term number close.
I hate PUA terms by the way.
This was about a comfort building exercise in approach. Who cares about getting the number from some random women,
ITs all about connecting on a deeper level.