companion app, the Icreepy. This app alerts your phone

earlier during the night randomly. It says, “Stop

staring at her. She knows it, and it creeps her out.

Make a move right now. And I mean right now.” There are

two prompt buttons, a mission accomplished one and a

snooze one, depending on what is done. The mission

accomplished rewards you with a medal of bravery, and

the snooze reminds later that you are still hovering.

When you haven’t acheived any approaches then your lower

your standards app kicks in for the drunk girl. We can

go 50 50 on this, David. What an awesome idea.

I have to disagree on one point though. I don’t think

it’s a lowering of standards. If a guy doesn’t man up

and overcome his fear of approach, then maybe he doesn’t

deserve her. I know that society is pretty tough on

people, telling us we need looks, money, power for

permission have a hot girl. Advertising is always

telling us that we are inadequate to get us to purchase

their products. They say, buy our clothes, cars, and

stuff, and you can get the girl. It’s not the things or

stuff that makes us attractive though, it’s our

attributes that allow to acquire the stuff. Confidence,

intelligence, resourcefulness, perserverance, courage to

take risks. When a guy is nervous meeting a girl, and

does it anyway, that says something about him.

A person can logically think that they have a standard,

the hot girl for example, but emotionally they feel that

they don’t deserve her, even if they actually do. The

drunk girl is like the impulse buy on time limited offer

on an infomercial. If you look a normal distribution

curve, everyone is bunched up in the middle. A guy that

steps up and in spite of feeling scared, starts applying

the stuff David teaches, can be ahead of the curve. Even

if you aren’t exceptionally good looking or rich, you

can a least be brave and confident.

I just got back from the gym two hours ago. As I was working out I was working on my social skills. It felt great. Talking to both men and women, getting to know a little about them. There is this one woman who I finally approached after like the 3rd time I saw her at the gym. I walked over and asked if she was Brazilian. Turns out she is Canadian, but she told me allot of people ask her if she is Brazilian. She asked me where I was from. I said I am half Dutch/ Half Carribean. She told me her mother is from the Carribean as well.
She then exused herself and went on, and so did I with my fitness program.

I really feel a shift taking place in me, the more and more I do this.

I think you describe not only how the fear paralyzes us sometimes… but how we really need to learn to let go of ego to really stay in the moment and have fun.

That’s personally what I think about. If I feel something paralyzing me… I try to change the perspectiv from which I perceive things from.

Most of the time, it’s my pride… or fears getting the best of me.

So I try to remember to have fun and most importantly smile. I found that by smiling (even forcing a smile for a few mins), I can’t stay in that depressed, paralyzed mood…. and I start having fun.

I think you’ll really enjoy the Mastery Series. I’ve never had any one but praise that program.

One more thing I love your enthusiasm on the blog!!!

That immense feeling in the chest is very paralyzing. What I like is that you re-gained your composure and started to have fun. I think its very important to let go of the past and just live in the moment and have fun.

Thank you for your reply! My favorite part or what I understood, is that we should never lower our standards. I have dated few guys in the past who turned out to be a jerk. It was my desperate energy that attracted them. But now I’m more enlightened and the jerks have no room in my life. SO now I expect more, accept less.

Here’s the link to the video of David:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSEmEJjWndI

Oh yeah, and if she does not respond. BIG DEAL, there are other women.
There is no such thing as rejection, only the way people react to one another. It took me some time to internalize that in my head. A good friend of mine told me this.

And when you approach her, remember you will approach her based on what you are thinking.
If you approach her with the mindset of her rejecting you, that is one sure way to get rejected. It makes you play it “safe”.

What works for me nowadays is this:

Im at the gym/wholefoods/etc, I see this cute girl. I think: Maybe she doesn’t like me talking to her/ I’m interupting her, blah blah.

I think: Whoa, is THAT really based on reality itself? —> NO!!

So I change my thought to:

She is dying to meet me. In fact, while she was playing with herself in the shower earlier today, she was thinking about me. She is such a naughty girl…

Again, is this based on reality itself? Nope, but it sure is a better mindset.

Thanks David, that mindset really helps…