I get the “you are cute” all the time… and usually it’s a good sign that she likes me.

It really depends on the context in which you get that compliment. If you aren’t unsure what she means by it, assume that she’s telling you she likes you… and make something happen out of it!

It’s better to be bold, be playful and have fun with her than wonder whether there was potential or not.

Your advice sounds good, but really, i feel that in theory it sounds all good. It’s easier said than done. An example would be useful, although I like Kelly’s tip on talking to the entire group as opposed to the one girl you’re interested in.

Let me give two examples of where I failed at approaching a group of women.

1. I was at a dive bar in Long Beach (Belmont Shore) and a group of 5 girls were standing next to my friend and I. One of them was making eye contact with us but without the smile, so my friend approaches them and immediately 4 heads turn away. The one girl who didn’t turn away was polite enough to hear what he had to say. We were right next to them for goodness’ sake! I backed him up and asked what the occasion was for them. The one girl said they were celebrating one of their friends’ b-day. And by that time we just realized that it was going no where so we left them alone and went back to where we were: right next to them. LOL.

One thing to note, however, is that these were Hispanic girls. Hispanic girls are known to not talk to any guys when it’s girls night out. And when it’s not girls night out, they usually go out with a group of guys and talk to them only. It must be a culture thing. I’m mexican-american and I have noticed this. White girls and Asian girls are usually more receptive to letting a guy come and talk to them.

2. I went to a 50th anniversary reception Saturday and my friend wanted me to talk to one of the single girls sitting at a table. There were 4 girls, 3 of them had dates and the 3rd was the single one. I didn’t go because it would seem obvious that I was going for the single one and I would inevitably intrude on any conversation they had going because they were all into themselves. I would have to come up with some kind of hail mary approach that would succeed in that setting which is nearly impossible, so I obviously just hung out at my table and talked to the mom and pop and their high school aged kids.

Perhaps the females who have gone out in a group and had a guy approach them in a non-bar setting can enlighten us with what that guy did or even better: tell us what you think when you see a guy you want to come talk to you….do you girls ever think, “If he would just come over and say this ________fill in the blank_________, I would totally think that was awesome.

Women, I must oblige.

MAC

What we don;t like, though, is when a guy talks to just one woman, ignoring the group dynamic, and then tries to isolate her physically away from the rest of us. his intentions may be fine, but it looks like trying to take advantage of someone by isolating them and we will always move to protect our friend.

Think of it in reverse, wouldn’t you like it if a women came and struck up a conversation with a group of guys???

I have to agree with Barrett. If there is a table full of girls in a restaurant and you’re there alone or with a friend, you have no reason to go over there and say anything unless you’re trying to hit on them. If you happen to have the table right next to them, and can just eavesdrop in on their conversation and chime in at an opportune moment, that’s different. I’ve done this recently and it worked great! But if you’re sitting half way across the room, then it’s pretty obvious to those girls that you went over to hit on them. On the other hand, if you approach with confidence and say something intriguing, it might work no matter how obvious it is why you did it. Maybe in that case, you would use a direct approach. Don’t send a drink over, that’s a cowardly approach. Just walk over to the one you want to talk to and ask for her number or see if you can excuse her from her friends for a minute, and then ask her. Say you’d like to talk to her sometime when it’s more appropriate. If she’s single and interested, she might be flattered that you asked!

Stop being so nice and cute, and start busting on these girls and just having fun with them. Pick on them a little and make them laugh. Then the “cute” turns into a feeling, and that is what will attract them. Women don’t care if you look cute and the nice guys are not very exciting because they don’t stir up their emotions. You need to let them know you’re comfortable, confident and not afraid to say something off the wall that most nice guys wouldn’t dare say!