The New Year’s Day Of Love
February 5, 2009 
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Today’s blog is going to be the first of three different Valentine’s Day related topics . . . but each with a very unique perspective on this “love holiday.” So enjoy today’s firsts installment!
It’s so interesting to me how everyone thinks they need to find some super-special way to celebrate their love on Valentine’s Day, then the thought of how to celebrate their love doesn’t cross their mind again until the following year’s Valentine’s Day. That whole concept is so strange to me.
Here is my view on this. If you have a wonderful love in your life, then every single day should be a day to celebrate your love. You should wake up every single day and find a way to embrace, respect and honor your love.
So this year on Valentine’s Day, I want you to try looking at it as the New Year’s Day of love. Make some Valentine’s Day resolutions.
Look at Valentine’s Day as the first day you will start honoring your love every day. Resolve to start doing something special for your love every single day – even if it’s something as small (but significant) as expressing your love every day.
So let’s start thinking of February 14th as Lovers’ New Year’s Day. This is really the only right way to look at Valentine’s Day, cause celebrating love just one day a year really is not going to cut it in any relationship. Celebrating your love every single day will cultivate and take your relationship to new levels you never imagined.
Well put, David. I completely agree. Now I just have to find someone I can do this with.
The Skype talk with you was really helpful. I think about everyday.
Best, René
I am not a fan of this commercialized holiday. I got on new year that’s enough, but that said the whole notion of putting so much pressure on one holiday for often the men to go out and have to come up with something elaborate is just plain crazy. Poor guys having this nonsense pressure on them. It’s really bad when it come to the teen years only certain kids get something and always someone is left sad.
I prefer that you through the year surprise each other with little things. It’s really about everyday to think what would make your partner happy. It could be sending a loving sms while you were apart, I loved it when out of the blue my husband would put a great tennis match up for me. See when you really understand what makes a great relationship work it’s the small things. After 16 years still looking at each others as you did when you first meet were amazing. But it was the little things we did everyday that told you that the person cared as much as when you first meet.
Valentines Day Cupid’s Day I will spend it thinking about someone that I can be with. Then the next 10 days I will be 49 years old. One of my uncles was born on this day.
Love is when you look up to the heavens
And see his face smiling back at you
When he is not there you miss him
Until you can see him again
Then you wonder can this be
Will there be an us
Only time will tell
Or Until We Meet Again
In the Heavens Above.
Just Curious
Hey guys I do write poetry and I am apart of Poetry.com I thought I would share this one with my friends on the blog.
Sandra, have you ever read the poem titled “Letter from my wife” by Nakzim Hikmet? It’s my ALL TIME FAVORITE love poem. Since Sandra is sharing a poem, I’m going to reciprocate and share a cute poem a friend of mine gave to me in High School. It’s so funny I still remember it by heart to his very day. Well i’m not that old only 29
Here goes
Beware
Beware of boys with eyes of blue
They’ll kiss you once and won’t be true
Beware of boys with eyes of grey
They’ll kiss you once and say they’re gay
Beware of boys with eyes of green
They’ll kiss you once and treat you mean
Beware of boys with eyes of brown
They’ll kiss you once and then turn you down
So to choose the best man
Choose the one that holds your hand
I liked that one Just Adjust It
I never really saw the point to Valentine’s day. Perhaps my views will change with time, but right now it all just seems like something that greeting card companies made up and little else.
Taras
One day we both may have a Valentine that we can call our own. Who knows what tomorrow may bring.
I think that the commercialization of Valentine’s Day was really about a reminder to the men who never remembered to tell the women in their lives that they loved or appreciated them, whatever. Unfortunately, mass media advertising in America would not be what it is without running every reasonable sentiment into the ground and cheapening it for the rest of us.
In a family business like I grew up in, we rarely celebrated birthdays or holidays on the actual day but on whatever was convenient for everyone involved to get together. It made us less rigid in our expectations of others performance to ad-crazy holidays and more understanding when significant others had work or family obligations that needed attention (with or without our presence). It also made us very popular with our friends whenever they needed a reality check over a so-called snub by a special someone.
Please – Life is waaaay too short to perform on command to an arbitrary over-commercialized “love” holiday. Be yourself and enjoy each other every day. It’s far more meaningful than an artificial once-a-year tribute. And if you are without a special one right now, do something to show yourself how much you love yourself – not necessarily by breaking the bank or tying one on but really doing something that only you would understand and appreciate. If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
David,
We are waiting for your GF friends to say, “DW went to Jared” on V-day. And spend lots of cheddar on bling bling for her. And her to go to Victoria Secret, but some sexy lingerie and ask you “does this lingerie makes me look fat?”. But whatever you do David, for your own good, never answer “no, the lingerie does not make you look fat, your fat makes you look fat”.
I have to disagree w your post, only so many holidays a year… celebrate them! Enjoy them!
I like that poetry Just Adjust It! Valentine’s Day is just another day to remind myself to practice, practice, practice and work on myself.
Every day is day of celebration and reflection, today right now make this your greatest day of celebration….to put so much emphasis on a certain day is like chasing the big payoff and not savor the little things in life..
Hi. I haven’t posted in awhile since the “blog entry that would not die” posting awhile back but I have a question/scenario tangentially related. I posted that I have a boyfriend but met someone else that I really liked and while my boyfriend was basically open to an “open relationship” I wasn’t sure how I felt about it. Some people suggested that I take some time away from my bf which I’d been considering previously because I felt so strongly about this other guy. (Like, really, almost too strongly and it just felt sort of ‘wrong.’) I implemented sort of a ‘break’ but not necessarily a ‘break up’ with my boyfriend. I wanted to walk through the world a bit differently and see what I thought. It might actually help me figure out whether I should be with him. My bf didn’t understand why I couldn’t explore any questions I had about our relationship from within the relationship. I was curious what you all thought about that. Any advice on how I should have explained this? I didn’t think it was fair to mention the other guy because it felt hurtful and, truthfully, it’s not just about the other guy. It’s about the questions I have. And since this post is about honoring your love, it felt relevant. I feel sort of ill about the whole thing now because my bf doesn’t believe in the idea of a break and considers this a break-up. The other guy seems to have his own issues but there’s something that’s drawing me to him or to this idea. Anyway, thanks. (Should I have posted this at ‘the blog entry that won’t die’ instead?) And yes if this sounds confusing, it’s because I’m confused.
Flor,
Sound as if you need to take time off from both and really figure out what you want. Of course your BF will think it’s a break up/ any kind of break it’s really what it is. I have to agree with him if you can’t discuss/explore question about your relationship it’s it’s because one of the parties really does not want to work on it. You already seem to know what you don’t want. What are the questions that you have.. Do yourself a favor figure out what you really want in a man and maybe you will find out either has what you really are looking for but bits and pieces of what you want.
Hi Marina, Thanks for your response. It’s not that I don’t want to work on the relationship but I’ve thought about this for two months – the idea of a ‘break’ – and I really think I have to step away from it in light of my strong feelings for this other man. Otherwise, I just feel like I’m not being honest – or fair – with my boyfriend until I come to terms with that.
…Maybe, flor can handle both men, at the same time, I have been told, women can do that, at a certain stage in their lives…
Back to the Valentine’s Day vs Showing Your Love Daily…my dad sent my mom flowers all the time, and brought home flowers on each of our birthdays. My dad wrote us all poems on Valentine’s Day and wrapped them in violets, laying them on our dinner plates…so I grew up thinking all men did those things! I’ve never even met a man even as remotely romantic as my dad. What do you guys think…are you romantic? Is it a lost art?
Elle, I think most of us on this site, had no role models, in our early years,, isn’t that why most of us are on this site?
Good point. I really didn’t mean to be insensitive.
You weren’t insensitive, I learned from your post…
Elle that was a cute story you gave about your dad, the effort he put into them is just beautiful. My grandma really taught me to savor the little things in life, everyday she would have make cookies or bread ready for us when we came back horseback riding. I will get my own act together and remember to do these little things for my kids again. Thanks for reminding me Elle.
When I meet my husband we both worked on Wall Street and all the time if he dropped orders off, he would write these little crazy notes to me. It’s the little things you do that makes the magic. To a degree I think it’s a lost art, we have all gotten so busy with everything. As a parent I try to instill these little thing in my kids but I too get caught up in being busy. I should know better I had great role models in my life, I am in here for the great company throwing in a how to give a guy a hand job for dummies for added enjoyment.
Girls if you are on facebook you are more that welcome to add me Marina Rosasco.