Comments on: The Local Time Is Now http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Thu, 24 May 2012 21:46:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: DanTheOriginal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22654 DanTheOriginal Wed, 04 Feb 2009 13:07:28 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22654 Dyan, I always hate it too when the sex stops at 6 pm on Sundays:-) I still think you are expecting too much and want to move this much faster than he wants...If the sex is good, enjoy yourself and leave the romantic endings alone...if they happen, good...if not, maybe even better:-) Dyan,

I always hate it too when the sex stops at 6 pm on Sundays:-)

I still think you are expecting too much and want to move this much faster than he wants…If the sex is good, enjoy yourself and leave the romantic endings alone…if they happen, good…if not, maybe even better:-)

]]> By: Marina http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22648 Marina Wed, 04 Feb 2009 07:33:11 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22648 Dyan, Chance to be in NYC if just for a couple of hours, what can be better than that. Lived in Down Town for 8 years, always took the Subway with kids and everything. Enjoy your trip. Dyan,

Chance to be in NYC if just for a couple of hours, what can be better than that. Lived in Down Town for 8 years, always took the Subway with kids and everything. Enjoy your trip.

]]> By: K http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22647 K Wed, 04 Feb 2009 06:41:36 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22647 Dyan Mai - I thought that the idea was that you were going to visit the guy on his turf...take a chance, a trip, leave your comfortable self at home. At least he said that he had some plans that he was planning on keeping - it's better than finding out AFTER you arrive, true? It's also important that you know that he HAS a life and friends and plans rather than arriving and finding otherwise. Not everyone is willing or able to drop everything when someone comes to visit. While I understand the uncertainty of taking public transit in a strange city, that IS what it's for and if you're really creeped out by it, take a cab. My parents always told us girls to keep some "mad money" in our little undershirts..meaning phone change and cab fare - just in case! It's only a contingency plan, not a plan for failure. And you can figure out what else you can do AFTER your time together by surfing the internet BEFORE you go, then check out stuff in the airport when you arrive as well. Are you staying with him or in a hotel? And while you might be taken aback by his surprise at your sign off of "love", it doesn't hurt to dial it back with a relative stranger, regardless of how you REALLY mean it. At least then there is no misinterpretation to have to explain later. If you expect the moon and the stars, then don't go because you will surely be disappointed. If you are just returning a nice visit that he made to see you, then take it for what it is and stay in the moment and quit getting ahead of yourself and the situation. You could have a very good time with AND without him! Dyan Mai – I thought that the idea was that you were going to visit the guy on his turf…take a chance, a trip, leave your comfortable self at home. At least he said that he had some plans that he was planning on keeping – it’s better than finding out AFTER you arrive, true? It’s also important that you know that he HAS a life and friends and plans rather than arriving and finding otherwise. Not everyone is willing or able to drop everything when someone comes to visit.

While I understand the uncertainty of taking public transit in a strange city, that IS what it’s for and if you’re really creeped out by it, take a cab. My parents always told us girls to keep some “mad money” in our little undershirts..meaning phone change and cab fare – just in case! It’s only a contingency plan, not a plan for failure. And you can figure out what else you can do AFTER your time together by surfing the internet BEFORE you go, then check out stuff in the airport when you arrive as well. Are you staying with him or in a hotel?

And while you might be taken aback by his surprise at your sign off of “love”, it doesn’t hurt to dial it back with a relative stranger, regardless of how you REALLY mean it. At least then there is no misinterpretation to have to explain later. If you expect the moon and the stars, then don’t go because you will surely be disappointed. If you are just returning a nice visit that he made to see you, then take it for what it is and stay in the moment and quit getting ahead of yourself and the situation. You could have a very good time with AND without him!

]]> By: Dyan Mai http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22642 Dyan Mai Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:13:17 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22642 Thanks so much Dan! Sometimes I wish I had never met this person. The mental grief sometimes feels it isn't worth it. Yes, I have the same pet peeve you do. Either talk to me or fix dinner not both. There has been a few other things like this... I can tell he really wants me to come and visit but...he shows no emotions in his emails. He is also scared when I sign my name love, Dyan Gosh, there is a ton of different types of love. I tell my friends I love them all the time. I explained this to him. He is making me someone I am not. I show love to who ever crosses my path. Anyway, I will follow my ass and see what happens. I think I know what the future will bring between us anyway. He is in PA I am in western NC he has a lot of thing going on in his life so....... I guess I need to take a trip and get away for a few days anyway. Lets see if this will help. When he said I had to leave by 6PM on Sunday I thought gosh it is a lot of money to fly up there and I have never been to NY before. So I thought I should find something neat to do while I am all the way up there. All this snow doesn't help either. His relpy is he will show me a map of the subway turminals and tell me where to go. That was nice but gosh its like.... come visit then I have to leave so here is a map for you. Have fun there is a lot to see. Greeeer! I don't want to be in NY by myself. Maybe what I should do.. is just wait a few weeks and just forget this whole thing and get my life back. Then think about going up there. Something just doesn't feel right. Maybe it is just me. Never in my life have I cared for a person like I feel for him. We made love for three days and it was totally awesome. It wasn't sex it was making love. Everthing was like a fairy tale. Maybe it is? Thanks again Dan........ Thanks so much Dan! Sometimes I wish I had never met this person. The mental grief sometimes feels it isn’t worth it.

Yes, I have the same pet peeve you do. Either talk to me or fix dinner not both. There has been a few other things like this…

I can tell he really wants me to come and visit but…he shows no emotions in his emails. He is also scared when I sign my name love, Dyan Gosh, there is a ton of different types of love. I tell my friends I love them all the time. I explained this to him.

He is making me someone I am not. I show love to who ever crosses my path.
Anyway, I will follow my ass and see what happens.

I think I know what the future will bring between us anyway. He is in PA I am in western NC he has a lot of thing going on in his life so…….

I guess I need to take a trip and get away for a few days anyway.

Lets see if this will help. When he said I had to leave by 6PM on Sunday I thought gosh it is a lot of money to fly up there and I have never been to NY before. So I thought I should find something neat to do while I am all the way up there. All this snow doesn’t help either.

His relpy is he will show me a map of the subway turminals and tell me where to go. That was nice but gosh its like…. come visit then I have to leave so here is a map for you. Have fun there is a lot to see. Greeeer!

I don’t want to be in NY by myself.
Maybe what I should do.. is just wait a few weeks and just forget this whole thing and get my life back.

Then think about going up there. Something just doesn’t feel right. Maybe it is just me.
Never in my life have I cared for a person like I feel for him. We made love for three days and it was totally awesome. It wasn’t sex it was making love. Everthing was like a fairy tale. Maybe it is?

Thanks again Dan……..

]]> By: DanTheOriginal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22639 DanTheOriginal Wed, 04 Feb 2009 03:27:06 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22639 Dyan: If someone spoke to me while fixing dinner (it's okay) and on the speaker phone (that is NOT okay with, kind of a pet peeve of mine) I would not speak to them again:-) As they said, a whole weekend is fine even if it ends at 6 pm. If your gut says you want to see him, go for it. But please LOWER your expectations!!! >>>>>>I am a real romantic! Looks like he is not and that's perfectly fine as long as you are okay with it...Some men are just not romantic at all, in fact most of them are not lol! >>>>>....believe I expected too much from this person whom came and visited a few days in the begining of January. You EXPECT Too Much!!!!! Don't expect anything, let if flow, free your mind and your ass will follow:-) If he came over to visit you in January he is definitely interested....Just do your best to be in the moment and enjoy yourself and don't expect too much allright? Dyan:

If someone spoke to me while fixing dinner (it’s okay) and on the speaker phone (that is NOT okay with, kind of a pet peeve of mine) I would not speak to them again:-)

As they said, a whole weekend is fine even if it ends at 6 pm. If your gut says you want to see him, go for it. But please LOWER your expectations!!!

>>>>>>I am a real romantic!

Looks like he is not and that’s perfectly fine as long as you are okay with it…Some men are just not romantic at all, in fact most of them are not lol!

>>>>>….believe I expected too much from this person whom came and visited a few days in the begining of January.

You EXPECT Too Much!!!!! Don’t expect anything, let if flow, free your mind and your ass will follow:-)

If he came over to visit you in January he is definitely interested….Just do your best to be in the moment and enjoy yourself and don’t expect too much allright?

]]> By: Dyan Mai http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22625 Dyan Mai Tue, 03 Feb 2009 20:27:08 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22625 Thanks so much!!! I listened last time I posted so I will fly up there and see what goes from there! I can't thank-you enough! I will let you all know how it goes.... Sending love you to all.... Dyan Thanks so much!!! I listened last time I posted so I will fly up there and see what goes from there!

I can’t thank-you enough!
I will let you all know how it goes….

Sending love you to all….
Dyan

]]> By: Marina http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22622 Marina Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:05:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22622 Dyan, Just get it over with, get up there and give it a last chance, I would. If I felt this way for someone I would go up there and take it from there. Just look at it as a great weekend that could give you some more answers weather he really is worth you. You sound like a great girl and if your first instinct says he might be worth you, what do you got to loose. Go, take a chance..he might just need some TLC to begin with. Refreshing answer J-dude..LOL Dyan,
Just get it over with, get up there and give it a last chance, I would. If I felt this way for someone I would go up there and take it from there. Just look at it as a great weekend that could give you some more answers weather he really is worth you. You sound like a great girl and if your first instinct says he might be worth you, what do you got to loose. Go, take a chance..he might just need some TLC to begin with.

Refreshing answer J-dude..LOL

]]> By: j-dude http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22621 j-dude Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:00:01 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22621 Dyan, Fri night, Sat and part of Sunday. Geez, that's enough time for wild love making, go out to a nice restaurant or two and sneaking some "feelings chit-chat". What am I missing? p.s. I'm not qualified to give any advice, other than advise women to do me... Dyan,

Fri night, Sat and part of Sunday. Geez, that’s enough time for wild love making, go out to a nice restaurant or two and sneaking some “feelings chit-chat”.

What am I missing?

p.s. I’m not qualified to give any advice, other than advise women to do me…

]]> By: Tariq http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22620 Tariq Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:14:35 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22620 hey yakub, Yea I'm the guy from Chicago. Glad you remember me :) hey yakub,

Yea I’m the guy from Chicago. Glad you remember me :)

]]> By: Dyan Mai http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-local-time-is-now/1265/#comment-22619 Dyan Mai Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:12:49 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1265#comment-22619 When I opened this and read the topic for today I though how perfect it is for me at this moment. Thank-you David! For me....Living in the "Now" is very easy for me to do. After years of training my brain to react to a difficult situation I have learn to quickly give it over to God and let him take care of it. But...being human I recently didn't follow my own brain training. Instead of taking care of myself because I know that there is no one on this earth that can take care of me but me.... I messed up! It has to do with a love for a man.....the one I talked about a few weeks ago in my posts. I let myself get totally off balance by not living in the "Now". This topic has now put me back in living in the moment. Now, I don't care that he doesn't call me or show any emotions of a possible future with him. I let myself get over whelmed with things like when he did call he was on his speaker phone talking to me while he was fixing himself dinner. When I care for someone I take time out of my life to be one on one with a person I am talking with. Not cleaning house while taking to him on the phone. Ya' know what I mean? He also lives in another state and we have been making plans together for me to come to visit him. He looked at his calendar and said: OK what about Friday, Saturday but on Sunday I need to leave at 6PM to go visit friends that I had already planned on. Geeeez, I'm flying up there to visit but he gives me a time limit to leave his house. It doesn't feel very good. In fact it hurts my feelings. He is now wondering how I can open my heart to him and then close it so quickly. He has no clue how women are senitive and for me.... I am a real romantic! So, I believe I expected too much from this person whom came and visited a few days in the begining of January. My problem is I have never felt this kind of love while he was here. So I stupidly expect that when he left to go home he would call often and maybe send little surprise emails like: I'm think of you! Not!!! Please someone respond....I don't want to fly all the way up there when he can't express his feelings to me in a phone call or email. I'm not a mind reader. If I didn't have the feelings that I have for him.... I would have dumped this whole thing weeks ago. Suggestions Please.............?????? Sending Love... Dyan..... When I opened this and read the topic for today I though how perfect it is for me at this moment. Thank-you David!
For me….Living in the “Now” is very easy for me to do. After years of training my brain to react to a difficult situation I have learn to quickly give it over to God and let him take care of it.

But…being human I recently didn’t follow my own brain training. Instead of taking care of myself because I know that there is no one on this earth that can take care of me but me…. I messed up!

It has to do with a love for a man…..the one I talked about a few weeks ago in my posts. I let myself get totally off balance by not living in the “Now”.

This topic has now put me back in living in the moment. Now, I don’t care that he doesn’t call me or show any emotions of a possible future with him. I let myself get over whelmed with things like when he did call he was on his speaker phone talking to me while he was fixing himself dinner.

When I care for someone I take time out of my life to be one on one with a person I am talking with. Not cleaning house while taking to him on the phone. Ya’ know what I mean?

He also lives in another state and we have been making plans together for me to come to visit him. He looked at his calendar and said: OK what about Friday, Saturday but on Sunday I need to leave at 6PM to go visit friends that I had already planned on.

Geeeez, I’m flying up there to visit but he gives me a time limit to leave his house. It doesn’t feel very good. In fact it hurts my feelings.

He is now wondering how I can open my heart to him and then close it so quickly. He has no clue how women are senitive and for me…. I am a real romantic! So, I believe I expected too much from this person whom came and visited a few days in the begining of January.

My problem is I have never felt this kind of love while he was here. So I stupidly expect that when he left to go home he would call often and maybe send little surprise emails like: I’m think of you! Not!!!

Please someone respond….I don’t want to fly all the way up there when he can’t express his feelings to me in a phone call or email. I’m not a mind reader.

If I didn’t have the feelings that I have for him…. I would have dumped this whole thing weeks ago.

Suggestions Please………….??????
Sending Love…
Dyan…..

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