Would you mind reading my post directly above your last one and tell me what you think I should’ve done in that situation? It would probably help Joe too since his situation was about the same. I saw her looking up at me a few more times that day, maybe 5-6 in all, but didn’t know what to do or say at that time.

I totally get what you are saying in that is something we all strive for and want! I think what is key is not to have too high of expectations for it. Maybe you are focusing too much on that so that when it doesn’t reach your expectations it is a disappointment. Sometimes, abundance takes a while to kick in and can creep in if you allow it. Rather, I find it helpful to keep focused on the things that make me happy in a partner and what I WANT, not on how it “should” be. Does that make sense? Thanks for your response…keep on writing!!!

I hope you figured out something to say to her. Was she alone while studying? Perhaps you could’ve asked her what she was studying and if she likes that class. Or where she’s from. Is she a local or out of state? By silent study area, does that mean you’re not allowed to talk above a whisper? Was her table very far from yours?

I remember a very similar situation several years ago. I was in the library studying for a test, but bored out of my mind! There was a pretty & tall blonde who had sat down at a table to my right about 10 feet away. She was sitting on the opposite side of her table facing my direction. A guy had been talking to her who I assumed was her bf, but he walked away. I figured he would probably be back after a few minutes, but he never did.

Anyway, after several more minutes of studying over my notes, I decided to look up and around the room just to see something other than my handwriting for a change. About that time, the blonde happened to look up and towards me and smiled. She held that smile a few seconds and looked back down at her book or notes. I smiled back and thought to myself something like “Yummmm!!” And then looked back down at my notes. A few minutes later, not sure how many minutes later, maybe 10, I looked up and around the room again. And the same thing happened. That time it was like she had already been looking at me so when I met her eyes she smiled again for a few more seconds. I was very shy and was getting even more self conscious because I didn’t know what to do or say. I smiled back again, but kinda sheepishly looked down at my notes and pretended to study while getting all freaky inside.

I would have to say something but felt the need to say something funny or witty, which I wasn’t good at. And knowing that women love guys who are funny & witty has always put so much pressure on me to be that, that I simply fold under the pressure. In addition to that, I assumed her bf was going to be back at any minute and he would wonder what I was doing if I moved over to sit at her table. Was he the jealousd type? I didn’t have her in any of my classes so I couldn’t say we were comparing notes or anything like that. And even IF that guy weren’t in the picture at all, should I go over there and ask to sit down at her table? I didn’t know. Maybe she was simply smiling out of politeness or cause she was bored silly too. Maybe, maybe maybe. Maybe this, maybe that. Shoulda, coulda, woulda! So many questions. I’m still not really sure what I should’ve done to this day under those circumstances.

The last time I saw her was about a week later while walking down a hill on campus and she & her bf and another couple were walking uphill in my direction. I looked at her and she looked back at me, but kinda nervous that time, like she felt self conscious looking at me, maybe afraid her guy would see her looking and/or smiling. I never saw her again.

I know positive energy attracts more of it, and seem to have made some real changes in my life lately in other areas. But when it comes to finding a man…and keeping that energy up, im kind of puzzled?!..

Thanks for asking Kimberley, hope that made some sense…:)

carpe diem to all of you:)

Vinita, what did you mean by “abundance” in your love life? What is missing for you?