Comments on: The Irony Of Instant Messaging

By: Miguel

Miguel — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 13:05:52 +0000

David, this is another great blog! Actually, that’s what I’ve been thinking. I thought I was weird and left-out when I started to do less Facebook, less Yahoo Messenger, less texting. I got bored of the cyber world. Sometimes, it annoys me. I thought going old-school: having real phone calls, hanging out for real, meeting people real, not cyber etc. all the old-school hangouts were weird. But after reading this, it makes me realize that it’s okay to just go out and be REAL.

But that doesn’t mean I’m gonna put a stop to it. I just need less of it. Thanks David! Keep it up!

By: kismet

kismet — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 05:41:13 +0000

just live and be in the moment (Easier said than done). Whatever you want to do and want to say, say it, do it. Don’t hesitate except for at the most a second and then realize you need to just do it.

By: Geese Howard

Geese Howard — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 05:34:31 +0000

Thats REALLY good advice but Super hard for me to implement.

stop thinking

dont overthink at all

because I am a HUGE thinker especially when it comes to women and I really think it is my biggest enemy when I blow out a chick. I’m always trying to figure out the best strategy to get the results I want and sometimes – yes – that can and does backfire.

Good job reading into me by the way. That was right on the money. I just gotta figure out HOW to not think so much… That is the problem.

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 19:52:37 +0000

Geese

I think you are overthinking and have really dived too deep into the community.

Paul Janka is a NYC player who decided that he wanted to be a dating guru. He is just a guy who can get numbers and what he does really works for him and works for him in NYC.

He is the good looking cocky new yorker. I know that person real well because when i was in my 20s in NYC i was him.

I went out and got 15 numbers in day and played the numbers game. I had so much trouble keeping track of the women that sometimes when i called i would get all my facts messed up.

You are doing great and what you are doing is working for you!

Dont change a thing and stop thinking.

I was only challenging you and making sure that you were being authentic and not just collecting numbers of women you had no connection with at all.
A lot of guys including myself in my 20s just collected numbers from any hot woman and hoped that when i called they would call back and we would have some kind of connection.

So you are basically grabbing a number of a woman who you have some sort of spark or connection with and giving them a call and seeing what happens the next time you see them.

That to me is what dating is all about.

Keep it up and dont overthink at all

Have a great saturday and thanks for the facebook add…always like to put a face to the post.

By: Geese Howard

Geese Howard — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:57:39 +0000

ok youre right. I thought you were saying people texted you you didn’t want texting you. You’re talking about IM. My bad.

By: Geese Howard

Geese Howard — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:46:59 +0000

Let us do talk about that. 10 numbers was an example.

Tonight I got 1. 1 number. Thats it. A whole night out and only 1 number. But I can promise you I will see her for sure. I just texted her: “Don’t worry about me I got home safe ”

She said, “I’m so happy! Me too… in case you were wondering ”

Me: “I was just about to ask ;P”

and then a couple more texts where I told her I’d call her soon and she said ok talk soon! So if I got out an a few days a week and get 5 numbers a week – quality numbers – then is that bad?

I don’t get it.

There’s a guy called Paul Janka. He lives in New York and pulls around 15 numbers a day. Is that about number collecting?

Noooo. See there are different styles of game. If I get number I usually will see the chick. Simple. With Mr Janka – He is about going in, getting a number in about 1 to 2 minutes and then playing the numbers game.

Thats his way.

Thats not WRONG – Its his way.

My way is get some numbers when theres a vibe. Then I follow up. I will kiss a girl on the lips in the bar but I wont go for a makeout.

Do I screen them? Ya. As soon as I see them and probably for the first couple minutes of the interaction and then its a done deal. I am either in or I leave and move on. If there is a cool vibe and attraction right away I keep the vibe going and she does too.

If not, Well Im no dentist. I don’t like pulling teeth and to be honest I really dont know how. So I move on. You said it yourself David. Move on and find a new girl. There are plenty of them out there.

Tonights girl I didn’t make out with. I kissed her on the face several times. She kissed me on the face twice. I plow. I plow with attraction and making her feel like the most beautiful woman in the room because really – when I’m with her – I feel like she is too.

So lets talk about the 10 numbers. If I have 10 numbers in a couple weeks – I did say week or SO – I just realise that but it can be a few numbers in a few days. I only get numbers I feel there is something going on with. Mr Janka gets a ton.

But I do combine his method with pretty much everyone elses in the community as far as follow up but his followup stands out. Also theres another guy called 60yearsofchallenge and his text game follow up is great too.

Meanwhile Im all dumbfounded about this accusation that I do not prescreen. What exactly is the problem with my screening process? I would love to know? I wasn’t sure where you were going with this. Should I get more numbers or less? If more how many more? If less how many less? If I vibe with a chick should I just hope to see her again without getting her number? Should I tell her – “I don’t want your number! Just meet me at such and such a place on such and such a day – if you’re not there then too bad!”?

Should I not call girls and follow up with them if the vibe is good?

Should I be pulling them home the same night and banging them and then getting them saying ,”WTF just happened? I don’t even know that guy and we just did it!
Im going to forget it ever happened and act like he doesn’t exist!”?

Maybe I could send her smoke signals or telepathic messages to get her to come out with me.

Timebridgeing does work but getting a number of a chick I’m going to see is a necessity.

So either I am completely lost as to what you’re trying to say or you’re just disagreeing with me just to disagree – when in fact we may actually be agreeing but in different ways.

But this isn’t my website. Please enlighten me.

(interesting discussion BTW)

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 03:55:34 +0000

Did you know that when I was a child in the sixties the only games we had to play was hop scotch ride on our bicycles up and down the street. Talk to our friends or play board or card games. We did not have video games or consoles to bug our parents about. Do you remember Dave when you were a kid in the sixties? We created our own games. Only time I spend on the computer is when I come home from work or answer my email or go on the blog. Most of the time I am busy taking care of the farm. Oh I have one more thing to add is I went horseback riding when I was a teenager. I remember when my brother bought the first Sega master system and that was when I was in my twenties and I remember the Atari system as well.

By: kismet

kismet — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 03:38:43 +0000

Very true. As a young adult, I grew up probably 1/5 or 1/4 of my life using the computer and internet. And I realize how wasted away my life was. Now I see my younger sibling who’s only an upcoming middleschooler talk about DS Lite, ipods, playing videogames and already on some social networks that I frown upon.

A character from a book I read said the media targets young people, so there used to be midlife crisis, now its quarter-life crisis with all the technology. And then it’ll be half of that.

Seriously, life is better when I’m not ‘socializing’ behind the screen and actually out there doing what I need and want to do. And these little kids online these days need to stop, go out to play instead.

By: a.movie

a.movie — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 20:40:03 +0000

Wow, I go away for a month and look at the fun characters I miss out on. Where did the Great Geese Howard come from anyways?

I like to use Facebook to promote my business side of my personality and to keep in touch with people that I connect to. But I’m not a fan of im conversations.

Geese, without knowing you but from all of two posts I have a question; why is racking up the numbers on your bed post so important to you? Is it validating to think you are a cool dude, or are you compensating your ego for the years you spent not able to talk to them?

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:30:04 +0000

Geese

Never said people were texting me:)

And its just randoms feeling the need to im me on facebook. I find it very funny why strangers feel the need to im me on facebook.

But as you know and you did make it clear that the point in to get the hell out of the house.

And 10 numbers…..you are wasting your time and not doing a good enough job of pre screening.

Are you just a number collector?

And so true great way to get a ton pf people to come to a bar b que. I used match and facebook for that a lot when i was single.

But you sound like you can meet a ton of women lets talk about why you are wasting your time getting 10 numbers.