The Importance Of Your Voice
April 30, 2010 
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Let’s talk about voice tone today, and the importance of voice tone. Let me give you some examples of voice tone that does not work.
Being soft-spoken when you approach a woman does not work. You know when you walk up to someone and say, “Wow, those are really great tomatoes. I’ve never seen tomatoes that good,” and then you kind of breathe and pause? That voice tone is a very insecure one.
You’re not making a powerful statement. When you walk up to somebody — and the tomato example might be the worst one in the world — you want to say whatever you’re saying in a very powerful, strong voice. You want to say, “I have never seen tomatoes that good in my life. Are they local? Are they organic?”
That, to me, is a powerful statement followed by a question she can answer. It’s amazing when you have authority in your voice, the difference you will notice in the way people act toward you.
One of the best little exercises to do is to stand on a street corner, when anyone walks by you ask them “Hey, can I ask you something?” Ask that question in a powerful voice, and everyone is going to stop. Ask it in a soft voice, like Michael Jackson, and people are going to ignore you.
Everybody responds to an authoritative voice. Everybody responds to a commanding voice. Everyone responds to a powerful voice.
One of the best things you can do is tape record yourself. You see how old I am – tape record? No one tape records anymore. They have a digital recorder.
In any case, you need to record yourself. Then listen to yourself talk and ask yourself, “Would I respond to that voice?”
Keep recording yourself asking the same question, but in different voice tones. How do you respond to the sound of each? We all respond to a very powerful voice tone because that’s what we’re trained to do.
When Obama ran for President, his voice tone was very powerful so he got elected. It builds trust in people when they feel like they’re talking to somebody who’s very authoritative.
Work on that voice, guys. If your voice is soft or quiet or can’t be heard, then you know you don’t have a powerful voice tone. Work on it. It’s so important. It’s ridiculous how important it is.
i’m the first again,haha david i ahve to correct you in a way,you remmber your video with ur gf dating after breakup?what about the girls should girls also have a high voice because th way ur gf said it was with confidense but in a low tone thats smooth?do this work for girls too?check out when yourvideo with her at the end and he voice tone.
Voice is important as part of the overall effect. As is body language. Be bold.
For either men or women, if you have a tendency to have a high voice, deliberately deepen it. Better to also learn public speaking techniques and communication skills in relation to voice such as speeding up to show excitement or slowing down and speaking softer to attract attention.
Some people do this unconsciously, for others they need to learn. If you have a tendency to go up at the end of every sentence – stop it…. Ah, so many things to remember. If you want to learn what works and doesn’t, be around kids for a while – they will soon let you know what works and what doesn’t “Why do you do that?”
Cheers (with a deep husky slow voice) – lol!
I actually dated a girl with a hearing impairment and it really reinforced this to me, she wasn’t deaf severely hearing impaired, any way one thing she liked about me was she didn’t need to wear her hearing aids all the time when we where together, she said the tone of my voice was perfect and she could hear 90% of what i was saying even with her hearing aids out.
She loved that at home she could walk around like she normally did and not worry about being able to talk to me and hear my response because of my tone.
I learned after 6 month’s dating her how crucially important tone of voice is.
We’re conditioned by school, and society in general, to respond to authority with compliance. Most people do. This is a great point about leveraging that inbuilt ‘training’ people have to maximise your success.
It’s amazing how you can influence people just with the tone of your voice aswell. I’m lucky in this respect because I work on an IT helpdesk taking calls all day. Of course doing that job you get some disgruntled customers who get all angry because their computer dosen’t work for whatever reason. Now I’m not an IT expert and sometimes I don’t have answers for their questions but by talking (as David’s said in the past) with conviction and authority they quickly calm down and become more understanding.
Definatly a key area of communication to get nailed down!
J.
Chevron, speaking with a confident and powerful voice doesn’t mean you have to go loud.
It just means you speak with utter conviction… so I don’t think David is contradicting himself here. There is a time when your voice should go lower and more sensual anyway