The Illusion Of Summer
June 13, 2009 
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Last night was one of the most exciting nights I’ve ever had in my life. You’re not going to believe what happened to me.
I bowled a 205!
I know what you’re thinking right now. I have a herniated disc. Is that what it takes to bowl a 205 — to herniate your disc and be put on steroids?
Before you think I spent last night at a bowling alley drinking beer and hanging out in a room full of guys wearing wifebeaters, let me set you straight. I was bowling on a Nintendo Wii.
It was the first time I’d used it. My girlfriend got it for me for Christmas, and it took me six months to get it set up.
According to her, I apparently said sometime I didn’t want that present (although I don’t remember ever saying that). So with my birthday coming up in a few weeks, I figured I’d better get the Christmas present set up before the birthday presents arrived.
Last night my girlfriend thought I didn’t want my birthday surprise, because when we had been walking by a jewelry store I said I didn’t want a money clip we saw in the window. I had the wrong surprise, though, and so now I am walking around all day saying “I want the money clip! I want the money clip!”
Also, before I forget, I need to thank Todd from the blog for the iPhone. Todd and I made a trade. Todd is giving me his old iPhone and I hooked him up with some great stuff.
I still, however, need one more iPhone . . . because it wouldn’t be fair if Daphne didn’t have one too. So I need one. I am willing to do potentially a lot to get it, except switch to AT&T. I really don’t need any rollover minutes; I prefer to roll over in bed.
So here’s the deal. If you have an old iPhone, let’s make a deal! I will be posting the fact that I need an iPhone on the blog until I get one. Need a date? Let’s make a deal. Maybe I’ll let you borrow Daphne for a month to serve as your constant prop and girl-attracting conversation starter. You never know . . . let’s make a deal!
Today’s blog stemmed from something I was thinking about as I was on the beach the morning with Daphne. I got up at 7:45 am this morning because one of Sonja’s instructors at her studio didn’t show up and she had to go fill in and teach the class.
So I got up this Saturday June morning with a Boom Boom in my eye (oops, that’s The Sopranos). As I stood on the beach with summer just about here, I decided to talk about something that is really going to make you think.
It’s going to be short and to the point. I’m going to get you to think about whether you suffer from weekend expectations . . . and, specifically, summer weekend expectations.
Now that it’s summer, are you putting all your eggs in one beach basket? Do you have summer weekend expectations?
Summer is about 90 days long. Are you one of those people who worked really hard to take off a few pounds so that you would look good for the summer? Did you do that because you thought that summer was the season you’d be able to meet someone?
Do you think that every summer occasion is a potential watershed moment in your dating life? Every barbecue, beach party and picnic is potentially THE one you are going to have that life-transforming moment? Do you make summer vacation plans with the same thoughts in your head?
The truth is that summer does not change your mindset. You were brainwashed as a kid. Summer would start, signaling the end of multiplication tables and the beginning of playing kick the can until 9:00 every night. Some of us spoiled kids got to go to summer camp and play with other spoiled kids all day and all night.
Really, though, summer is not like when we were kids. It’s no longer about the expectation of our first kiss and playing day and night, because as kids we didn’t have all the adult fears and excuses.
I’m not trying to poo-poo your summer. I’m trying to give you a little reality here.
Just because it’s summer doesn’t mean your belief system has changed. It’s not like the thermometer automatically warms up your mindset or your attitude. You still have your same shit. It doesn’t just “go away” with the changing of the seasons.
So if you think that summer is going to magically change how you look at things and how things are done, then you need to look at the inside instead of the outside. The beliefs you hold are all on the inside, and they come with you to every barbecue, beach party and picnic.
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Personally I miss summer as a kid. I had my first girlfriend in the summer. She was one of my first crushes. She had the coolest name too: Summer. I dated Summer in the summer. I called her “my Double Summer.”
Back to the present and it’s “June Gloom” time of the year here in Los Angeles. I live on a beach and can’t swim in the ocean because it’s polluted.
Do you know what though? It’s always summer in my mind, and I’m always enjoying my life. I don’t need a five day forecast or to be invited to the coolest barbecue, because the party is always going on in my mind and life is always amazing.
Have a great June Saturday!
Oh, and one more thing. The new iPhones come out any day now. So remember to get in touch with me if you want to part with your old one!
True Talk. I love the summer and all of the wonderful things that it brings like my birthday. However, I always try to plan vacations and do things to live up to that “wonderful” summer that I have dancing around in my head. It is now that I realized that you can have your “summer” all year around. Even if you go out in the middle of January to meet someone they might be the one. You will never know just like my friend told me.
Where I grew up you can’t plan anything during the summer, as the weather is often not quite agreeable. You get used to not having the big expectations and just make any day a great summer day. It’s about being in the moment and just enjoy what you have around.
The worst anticlimax to anything is when you have these great expectations as they are often hard to fulfill. Personally I like to enter everything with unbiased attitude and let things happen as they go along. Generally I don’t let things I can’t control get to me. No point in letting them get me down, just accept them and make it work.
At least with a Iphone Daphne can sms you all night when she misses a warm human..How could you..JK
Sorry no spare Iphones.
Oh man! Smokey would just love a date with Daphne! He’s a good ol’ horn-dog and he’s got a thing for tall, dark and beautiful bitches!
He has to stand on a chair to look into her eyes, but he’d love her as long as she doesn’t try to steal his ball!
Screw the Iphones! I got me a Palm Pre, Iphone is so old school!:-)
Someone please give him an iPhone soon so I don’t have to read about his iPhone dilemmas every day
Why didn’t you tell me you had a Wi when i was there for weeks, i could have showed you how to bowl better than 205:)
btw…I need iphone for work so i can get work done a lot faster:)
That’s very funny Justin good thing he finally got an Iphone can you imagine going through a whole month blog all about iphone:)
Todd- I don’t think David would let smokey date Daphne he is a over protected dad:)
Todd- Daphne is a DW instructer you need start teaching smokey the mastery series as much as you can so when he meets coach Dap, he will be prepared for the test and then Dap will fall in love with her prince charming:)
CJ- Lets have wi battle and see who can bowl better?
are you up for the challenge:)
without a question my friend:)
You said it yourself summer is amazing because of our childhood. I don’t get 2 months off for summertime anymore but still feel like its a time to relax even if I never get to take any time off.
Don’t whore your girlfriend out for and old iPhone. That’s just sad and pathetic. I thought this blog was supposed to be about dating and such – Not pimping. Way to set an example there Dave =/ Your blogs used to be filled with valuable information. Now they are just the mental meanderings of a declining middle aged man who is desperate enough to sell out his girlfriend for an old iPhone. Sad man SAD. I guess the dating coach business isn’t as profitable as it used to be? Oh well at least it’s summer, right!
Wavid
Where did i say i was whoring out my girl for an iphone?
You need to learn how to read before you ramble on like an idiot:)
Declining middle aged man really do you think you know me at all?
I am glad that you dont enjoy the blogs anymore because i really do not enjoy reading garbage from guys like you.
No problem voicing your opinion at all but misconceptions and insults are the signs of a very immature socially retarded person who should look deeper into his life and why he is not happy.
Wavid –
You sound very angry — why the personal attacks on David?
He joked about lending out his dog for a week…hardly whoring out of anyone, but he never even mentioned his girlfriend.
What’s sad to me is that instead of facing whatever issue David hit a nerve with in this (and/or other) posts, you instead choose to stoop to personal attacks.
If you aren’t willing to do any introspection in your life, then you know what? This blog really isn’t going to resonate with you.
You need to grow up…
My previous comment was tongue and cheek. In reality I have respect for Wygant’s observations into social relations. If I did not appreciate his work I wouldn’t waste my time reading his blogs or watching his videos. I do however feel that his blogs have become somewhat less profound. I’m raising the question of whether the quality of his posts are starting to suffer due to the quantity of blogs he publishes. I wonder if he were to cut down on the number of blogs, if they would wind up being more profound, compelling and useful. Food for thought.
I disagree with your opinion that the blogs have lessened in any respect … It sounds almost like you are complaining about the amount or the substance of the FREE content you are getting here every day.
I am sure you wouldn’t actually be complaining about all of the FREE advice, entertainment, thoughts on life and humor that you get here on that blog, are you??
If you want to get more information on a particular topic, I would suggest you think about INVESTING in the membership site or some of David’s products — you will never run out of profound!
You have a Wii and hadn’t use it for months? Meanwhile I have to go to my friends’ place and ask them to ley me play for a couple of hours!
Jacob, get David Guitar Hero for his BDay present. That’ll make him play more often (or you could borrow it).
Smokey is Mr. Personality! He needs no instruction. He’s already a father of 15 through 3 different litters! He just walks right up to a bitch with a mighty little stance, looks her straight in the eyes, immediately starts licking her ears and wagging his tail! The bitches just turn around and fold their tail to the side. And once he gets started, OMG, he’s at it for hours, 2 or 3 times a day! He and Jewel, my Ex’s dog were very sneaky about it. We tried to keep them apart for the whole 3 weeks she was in heat. Right when we thought she was just about done with it, we got careless. It took all of 2 minutes, when we let them go outside together and weren’t watching them like a hawk on a mouse, for them to sneak behind the fence and get locked for over an hour! That’s how we got litter #3!
Just 2 minutes guys! Smokey should be teaching classes and writing E-books for dogs!
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This is Smokey after sex… http://gallery.mac.com/tdesiato#100016/IMG_0006&bgcolor=black Jewel was passed out!!!!
I’ve already acquired most of David’s product’s off the internet by downloading them illegally from questionable sources. I’m pretty sure they were leaked on the internet by disgruntled former coaches. jk
Wavid
You are one sorry mother fucker.
I just read your comments and now you admit to stealing products as well.
Cheap stupid and shows no respect.
Its no wonder you are looking for dating advice there is no way any woman would find those traits attractive!
Wavid-
Real man don’t come another man’s home and tells him that he stole his product and plus trash him.
I am curious if you even put to practice any of the materials you downloaded illegally b/c if you did you would be a real man not a LOSER who have nothing better to do with your time!!!
despicable, just…. despicable.
Guys, I say stop giving Wavid any more attention because there’s no reason to waste our time with his crap. We’re wasting energy here, so let’s invest our energy into something more productive instead of getting sidetracked by some stranger who shouldn’t even have the power to influence our emotions or minds.
and David, I’ve always been a fan of your blogs, keep it up
Wavid –
Dude I can’t believe you actually admitted on here that you illegally downloaded David’s stuff. You know you can get arrested for that shit. A friend of mine got into major trouble for illegally downloading music files.
Most sites are cracking down on that stuff.
wavid
steve is right and you are an idiot of admitting you stole david’s products – especially admitting right here on his blog
they have your ip address everytime you comment here. man, i’d pay for that stuff if i were you.
a guy i work with knows someone who got prosecuted for stealing downloads. i don’t know if david checks on that stuff but i wouldn’t be surprised.
After seeing some of the recent blog posts, we want to clarify our position on illegal downloads and stealing of our products. We take very seriously the illegal downloading and theft of our products, and any and all violations of , and will not hesitate to report or prosecute anyone who violates U.S. Copyright laws and are in violation of the Digital Millenium Copyright Act (DMCA) and/or The No Electronic Theft Act (NET). Any and all violations can be traced via the infringer’s IP and/or ISP address.
When summer comes… I always think of all the pretty summer dresses and of all the fun I can have with whoever I meet at the time
i have an old iphone. my new one is arriving today. on fedex’s truck for delivery now by 3pm eastern time.
Jun 19, 2009 8:02 AM On FedEx vehicle for delivery NORTH SYRACUSE, NY
its a black 16gb iPhone 3g. Camera no longer works and wi-fi connectivity is being gay because the phone got a little wet. aside from that you would never know it got wet and been using it for months since it got wet, have original box, headphones, and receipts. has some normal usage scratches. but all other functions work. on ebay they are pulling 250 not even working.
perhaps a deal could be made. my old ones on ebay now but i could end the auction.
just read on another blog post ur looking for an unlocked one, which makes sense because reading this post i noticed you said you’d do anything other then switch to AT&T. my phone is currently not unlocked, but i can unlock it. the unlock for firmware 3.0 (which i’d recommend you get) was suppose to come out yesterday. it hasnt yet. perhaps today it will. then i can unlock it.
G Rod
I just emailed you lets talk.