Saturday and i thought this quick thought I had would be a great mindset for the weekend.
Enjoy your day!!!
We all want something. We want the end result.
You’re dating a woman, and you want to get her to fall in love with you. Or maybe you’re dating somebody, and you want him or her to move in with you. Or you see her two days a week, but you really want to see her four days a week.
So instead of being present and enjoying that moment, you’re thinking about what you want to get out of it. And you’re not really there.
My favorite times are with my girlfriend – and every single day with her is amazing because I’m always learning something new – but one of the best times we had together was in the beginning of our relationship when we stayed on the phone all night long. We’d get on the phone at 11 p.m. intending to talk for a few minutes, but we’d still be on the phone together five or six hours later.
That was amazing. I cherish that every single day. I embrace that. I am so grateful for those moments. Those moments are what created how we feel about each other now. The way we act with each other now is based on the foundation of those moments.
But people are so caught up in not enjoying those moments and moving on to something better. Those moments are precious, and they are never going to happen again. I’m probably never going to get on the phone with her again and talk to her for five hours.
That is what makes life so intense and so amazing. You have to really think about those moments and really enjoy them. They are not going to happen again.
Accept those moments as they come up because they are truly powerful!!!
Great post! Most couples simply can’t wait to get to the next step, but the key thing is to wait! My boyfriend and I talked about moving in together, but then I thought, why rush a perfectly good thing? We’ll be ready for that when we are.
David,
I am in that stage with a girl now! Were at the beginning and we talking on the phone and online a lot. Really long conversations too. I am trying not to think ahead but just enjoy the present and what I am already enjoying. I kinda want to not over saturate myself but I love talking to her! Should I take a day or two off from her once in a while? She initates about half of the converstations with me btw, thanks!
much love, Dan
Great post! Especially in this day and age when we are all so quick to get results fast in so many areas of our lives! I learn this concept of “carpe diem” or “seize the day “with children. I see how excited they get with little things that happen throughout the day and now I really try to look at things through a child’s view. That also makes daily interactions more playful and pure.
Dan, if your girlfriend is initiating half of the conversation then it sounds pretty even and that she too is enjoying it. At the momemtum you are describing, why would you take a day off? I think that might send the wrong message, especially if things are going well…. I like your idea of just enjoying and not thinking about the end result so much:)
Kimberly
Great post David! It is inspiring to see the kind of life you live, but even more so how you know how to enjoy every minute of it
Interesting to ponder – I’ve always thought that I was doing just fine by enjoying the moment in my relationships of the past. I didn’t worry about where they were going or when but it seemed that someone was always pushing me to go faster or in another direction instead of just letting things unfold on their own. By not allowing a natural progression of things but maneuvering things (and me) to suit their own purposes, they drove me away, some faster than others. I don’t like being “herded” or manipulated in any way. If you want something, say so and stop beating around the bush. Otherwise, eat my dust because I am gone.
At one time I wanted a relationship with this one guy but I gave it some thought why rush into it before I got to know him. So I let each day come to pass as it should now today we are best friends. People have a tendency to rush into things without getting to know each other. Sometimes our hormones can speak for us. First get to know one another then see if the relationship is going to be compatable and then once the two decide together then take it from there.
Kim,
thanks so much
David,
Recently I started to consciously observe my surroundings more as you recommend. I looked at everything, I listened, I observed people, and so on. What happened by doing so was that it really helped me get out of my head. I was more in the now moment. I was enjoying the moment more and was less trying to get to the next thing. Oftentimes I found myself talking to strangers without having thought about it before. Wonderful!
Observing your surroundings say you have a crush on this guy if you watch how he is around others and especially how he treats other women. Then start talking to him then you can decide if he is the right one for you. There are times that I observe my surroundings for I am around money working as a cashier. Then I notice guys that I would not mind being with but do they want to be with me?
sometimes when i think about each moments, and how the clock is ticking by each seconds- I find life to be so amazing, and feel bad if I waste any minute of my life.
I always love learning more about our inner self, and enjoying life by the moments, and whenever i think about embracing my life, i feel good about my life and how far I have come.
Life is a great gift and your story is very inspiring D.!!
hi im a middle school student. i know this guy named justin whom i would like to get more involved with. weve been best friends for a year and i like him more than that. he tells my friends that he wants to go out with me but im not sure if that is true…. i also am afraid of ruining my reputation as a “tough girl” by going out with justin. i constantly flirt with him and he flirts back does this mean he likes me? HELP!!!!!!!
Hey Dan,
Just to back up what Kimberley mentioned. Your going about things great. Dont let your head start messing with you just because things are going so well. just enjoy living in the moment as so many people struggle with that idea. Notice how she talks, totally feel the underlying emotion when she talks, thats where that true connection comes into play. At the same time, be the man and lead..I dont mean tell her what to do and order her around but instead demonstrate to her that you have a path in life and you know where your going and make sure you stay on that path. Be that intersting guy that any women would want to orient herself around…Enjoy and let me know how you get on…