The Definition Of A Crappy Day
July 15, 2009 
26 Comments
Did you ever have a day where you’d swear that everyone is against you? You’d swear that person who cut you off in traffic knew you were having a bad day and wanted to make it worse. You just feel like you can’t do anything right.
It’s one of those days where the mail comes and you receive a huge medical bill for treatment you got three years ago (about which you thought they forgot). You think to yourself, “Wow, am I ever having a crappy day!”
In reality, though, you are not having a crappy day. You are having a crappy moment.
The whole day isn’t ruined, just that moment is ruined. That’s it. It’s just a bad moment in the day.
So you need to be able to look at that bad moment as just that — a bad moment. Nothing more and nothing less. A lot of us think too much about the bad day we’re having.
You need to realize that it’s just a bad moment, and be able to say “Who Cares?” to yourself about it. It’s about having an abundance mindset (which so many people don’t have).
So many people’s mindset is the very definition of a scarcity mindset. I hear people tell me all the time, “David, I just can’t find someone to date.” The truth is that you can go online anytime and find an abundance of people to date.
I mean, really, pick any website — ANY one — and there’s a ton of people you can meet and date. A ton. It’s about having the right mindset.
It’s understanding what online dating is all about. It’s understanding who you are so you can find the right people to date. It’s being able to write a good profile.
It’s knowing that you can go online at any time of the day and there are people to date. It’s having an abundance mentality.
Whenever you get online, it’s like a being in a giant bar in the sky. There’s just so many people you can meet.
To meet them, however, requires an understanding of how to work the online world. You have to understand how to meet people online. You have to understand the hot buttons and how to flirt.
It’s generally no different than meeting people in the real world. The one big perk, though, is that you can do it from the comfort of your own home. Have a bad interaction with someone online? You can just go to another website and meet someone else.
It’s actually quite fun . . . IF you know what you’re doing. So I’m really proud to have just launched my first video product, which is an online dating guide for men. If you want to learn more about it, then click here. (There’s great video preview clips on here too!)
Today’s podcast is all about how to deal with the mindset of a crappy day. Are you really having a crappy day . . . or is it really just a crappy moment you are letting affect your whole day? I will tell you exactly how to deal with these kind of days, and how to adjust your mindset so you will never again let a crappy moment become a crappy day.
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And my “you’re” should be “your”. Okay, that’s enough from me.
i agreee 100% about the bad moment vs a bad day. it’s easy to get caught up in the moment
and make it the whole day. my way of dealing with it is when i recognize it, i try to let it go.
if i can’t, i wallow in it for a while ( an hour?) then i get tired of it and do something else.
watching the clock while trying to feel shitty gets pretty silly in way less than an hour.
there’re way more bad moments than bad days, just see it, & move on.
hahahhah great podcast!
the psyche thing is crazy i remember doing that too, but in basketball, people fall for that shit so eaisly LOL
If you walk around feeling it’s a crappy day it’s because you don’t live in the moment but turned a moment into something consuming you whole day. The same thing applies if something good happens and you focus on that all day, then too you don’t live in the moment and might miss out on other great things.
Being in the moment means you don’t carry things from the past or expectations for the future. Sometimes it easier said than done, but if you are present in the moment when crappy feelings come up then you are aware of them and can make a choice to let them go.
David I want pot or stoner guaranteed on all the Wednesday’s podcast or else i will not listen, they are just that “fuckin” great man:)
very funny comment Johnnylove
Thanks CJ:)
Hi Marina-
I really enjoyed what you had to say, i am curious when is the last time you had a bad day?
LMAO, thank you for this, you’ve just made my f&*ing day
… Laughing to this just cleared my throat 
(staying home because of f….. flu, so this was like a shot in the arm)
Good work
Jack
I used to have lots of “bad days.” The cure for me turned out to be a little dose of simple optemism
like you mentioned, i hate spending time with a complainer, they are so energy draining, they never get anything done in life b/c they are too busy putting their nose on everything:(
btw….anyone here try the new product?
I know Leo did
That’s it what he say about it?????
He told me yesterday that he just downloaded it, and so far listened to part 1, and he seems to really like it.
and you can ask him when he gets here.
man you write like two words at a time
anyway thanks i will ask him!
David, I just love it when you get enthusiastic about something. I’m at the shop tonight at 11 pm because I screwed up a job due for tommor.
I needed a good laugh. Hmmm! I wonder what oatmeal topped with Jack Daniels tastes like??
Oh I decided to buy your Online Dating product yesterday! That decision was a no brainer!
I have been through it once already. Terrific product.
This podcast makes so much sense…when I look back at the times where I had bad moments and let them ruin the entire day, I realize how completely ridiculous and nonsensical it is. Once again David, thanks for the fantastic advice. It’s amazing how a simple change in mindset can impact your life.
Johnny Love,
Thanks, They are few and very far btw. Truly whole bad day are less than fingers on my hands and still on those days there are moments filled with joy and positive feelings. It’s really a way of thinking and if you have not been exposed to the power of your thinking and what you can do yourself from childhood or as an adult, then all I can say get Davids stuff. This is really how this has work for you, to function in a flow and where outside influence has little to do with how you really feel like. Don’t get me wrong I love human contact, but I don’t need it to make me happy. I am happy, and I choose to be it on my own. I don’t let fear rule my life, but it will show it’s ugly face and when it does, then I make the choice to let go or if I am not ready to let go of the fear I acknowledge that it’s there and just the awareness of it will eventually make me able to let go of it.
I was raised with a grand mom who spoke naturally about death and always said to the whole family, If you don’t sit around laughing and enjoying each other at my funeral, then don’t bother show up. I am dead, I am feeling great no reason to cry for me.
I have crappy days also do I ever…When things don’t go my way sometimes but it is like the old saying done deal get over it…A quote from my friends a long time ago. I had one Tuesday I wanted to mow the yard but what happened I strained a muscle in my lower calf and I could not walk on it. I had to go to the doctor about it. It started Saturday and it still bothers me. Okay I know that you are not Dr. David Wygant. But after I get all the negative out of me then I look at it and say it must have been my selfishness and my foolish pride that got in the way. We as individuals wants things to happen our way but sometimes we are fooled when it does not happen the way we want it. Then that starts the complaining and bad hair days.
Let me tell you about crappy days… or rather a crappy night. How about not being able to sleep because you have the runs…. and need to go to the bathroom every 20 mins… from 1 am til the next night?
Ouch!
Haha excellent podcast! Very very funny and equally insightful. I couldn’t stop laughing after the part “I’m having a BAAAD DOG DAY!” Whenever something bad happens to me, I just think about that part & I immediately start cracking up.
I took your advice yesterday and kept treating bad moments as just that… bad moments and nothing else. And the amazing thing was, as a result, I didn’t let little things get to me! Even when my girlfriend & I got in a fight last night, I kept my cool the whole time holding that thought. And so later on as a result, she really warmed up to me. Holding my own & letting go of what could’ve been a crappy day allowed her to do the same.
David, you rock!
I just heard the podcast. Thank you Dave. You brighten my bad day LOL
Yes, I totally agree David! You’ve just got to realise that there are millions of other ppl out there having a bad moment too. I always think to myself, things could be a lot worse. I could find out I have cancer or be in a car accident and get paralysed etc.
I think your dating life is what you make of it. I moved to a new city 8 mths ago and was complaining to my gfs that I hadn’t me anyone. So I jumped onto an online dating site and have been on a few dates. Yeah they weren’t my type but it was fun nevertheless. Just when I though I was sick of the online dating thing, I logged on today and started chatting to two nice fellas. We exchanged nos and I’m going to catch up with them sometime this week. It amazes me how it’s that easy!! So there’s no excuse really.
Even the internet is becoming a way of meeting new friends too. I have a couple of friends here who are foreigners and wanted to expand their social circle. They’ve met up with other people recently who are in the same boat as them in a new city and they were all really cool and NORMAL. Don’t get freaked out that the internet is full of weirdos. Sure there are some on there but in the dating sense, you just have to weed out the bad ones from the good ones. No different to meeting guys in a bar I think.