Comments on: The Dating Doormat http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Thu, 24 May 2012 21:46:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: terra http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-43233 terra Fri, 01 Oct 2010 16:56:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-43233 great post, i was wondering though.. how should i react when someone flakes on me? last night i had plans to get together with someone (it wouldve been our second date) and i confirmed the plans earlier that day. he seemed excited about them and mentioned he had to check on his car that was in the shop after work but that was it. he never tried to get ahold of me for the rest of the day. finally around 8pm i texted him and just said hey, what are you up to.. then around 9 i tried calling him. its not 11am the next day and i havent heard from him. should i wait for him to contact me or should i try getting ahold of him and ask what happened? i dont want to seem like im nagging him, but i also dont want it to seem like its alright for him to waste my time like that. any advice? -terra great post, i was wondering though.. how should i react when someone flakes on me?

last night i had plans to get together with someone (it wouldve been our second date) and i confirmed the plans earlier that day. he seemed excited about them and mentioned he had to check on his car that was in the shop after work but that was it. he never tried to get ahold of me for the rest of the day. finally around 8pm i texted him and just said hey, what are you up to.. then around 9 i tried calling him.
its not 11am the next day and i havent heard from him. should i wait for him to contact me or should i try getting ahold of him and ask what happened? i dont want to seem like im nagging him, but i also dont want it to seem like its alright for him to waste my time like that.

any advice?

-terra

]]> By: Greg http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37848 Greg Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:59:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37848 I appreciate it, Khiem. I need to work on being more calm and cool. I probably should have waited longer. I just don't have patience for these things. I think it says about my a) experience and b) how im not as into this girl as Id like I appreciate it, Khiem.

I need to work on being more calm and cool. I probably should have waited longer.

I just don’t have patience for these things. I think it says about my a) experience and b) how im not as into this girl as Id like

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37816 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Fri, 12 Feb 2010 21:08:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37816 Greg, I like that you took a stand! But did you have to go that harsh with her? Could you have given her 10 minutes? Could you have said something like "If someone respects my time, they don't make me wait more than 10 minutes without giving me a heads up" instead? No matter what, you'll soon find out if she respects you and if she still likes you or not :) Greg,

I like that you took a stand! But did you have to go that harsh with her?
Could you have given her 10 minutes?

Could you have said something like “If someone respects my time, they don’t make me wait more than 10 minutes without giving me a heads up” instead?

No matter what, you’ll soon find out if she respects you and if she still likes you or not :)

]]> By: Greg http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37783 Greg Fri, 12 Feb 2010 09:00:06 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37783 I'd like some perspective on my situation: A girl I've been seeing on and off for the last month had invited me over this afternoon at 4PM. I arrived on time and her mother answered the buzzer to say she was out. I hung around for about 5 minutes before leaving. This evening I recieved an email from her to the extent of: 'I was waiting, from 4-430. Where were you? You must have left before I came down' I replied to her email and said: 'Just admit you were late. I spoke with your mother and waited for 5 minutes. Then I realized, what am I waiting for? If someone respects my time, they are on time' I’d like some perspective on my situation:

A girl I’ve been seeing on and off for the last month had invited me over this afternoon at 4PM.

I arrived on time and her mother answered the buzzer to say she was out. I hung around for about 5 minutes before leaving.

This evening I recieved an email from her to the extent of: ‘I was waiting, from 4-430. Where were you? You must have left before I came down’

I replied to her email and said: ‘Just admit you were late. I spoke with your mother and waited for 5 minutes. Then I realized, what am I waiting for? If someone respects my time, they are on time’

]]> By: David Black http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37743 David Black Fri, 12 Feb 2010 01:20:39 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37743 Totally back Mr Wygant up on this one. It makes me cringe to think of all the times I put up with behaviour like this. And all the guys that must be out there doing the same thing, day in, day out. Stop taking shit from women dudes! Man up and confront it, rather than just accepting it. /rant :-) Totally back Mr Wygant up on this one. It makes me cringe to think of all the times I put up with behaviour like this. And all the guys that must be out there doing the same thing, day in, day out. Stop taking shit from women dudes! Man up and confront it, rather than just accepting it.

/rant :-)

]]> By: Lauren Sierra http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37695 Lauren Sierra Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:30:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37695 I hate to admit it but I had a relationship once in which I allowed myself to be the doormat. And I let it go on WAY too long. He was a workaholic and in the type of profession where that was the status quo. So, we would have plans and I'd get a call "I'm sorry I have to fly to D.C." blah blah...whatever. How could I not understand that, I told myself. Eventually, I realized it was his style to not really be available. What hooked me is what hooks a lot of us, I think...I'm not sure. When we were together there was a deep connection. We would lay in bed and talk until 3 am about everything and anything and we were so on the same wave length that I told myself "wow, there's no one else I can connect with like this". It was like being with my best friend. What I didn't allow myself to listen to was that little voice in my head that kept saying HE IS NOT AVAILABLE or to acknowledge that I felt disappointed and anxious. I hate to admit it but I had a relationship once in which I allowed myself to be the doormat. And I let it go on WAY too long. He was a workaholic and in the type of profession where that was the status quo. So, we would have plans and I’d get a call “I’m sorry I have to fly to D.C.” blah blah…whatever. How could I not understand that, I told myself. Eventually, I realized it was his style to not really be available.

What hooked me is what hooks a lot of us, I think…I’m not sure. When we were together there was a deep connection. We would lay in bed and talk until 3 am about everything and anything and we were so on the same wave length that I told myself “wow, there’s no one else I can connect with like this”. It was like being with my best friend. What I didn’t allow myself to listen to was that little voice in my head that kept saying HE IS NOT AVAILABLE or to acknowledge that I felt disappointed and anxious.

]]> By: Kevin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37616 Kevin Thu, 11 Feb 2010 02:27:08 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37616 Collin, women love to cook for men. Collin, women love to cook for men.

]]> By: Drew http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37612 Drew Thu, 11 Feb 2010 02:12:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37612 I do love myself a little. I'm just not likeable. I was just getting used to being normal. I'm not ugly either. Girls say I'm cute. I'm just fucking weird or something. I do love myself a little. I’m just not likeable. I was just getting used to being normal. I’m not ugly either. Girls say I’m cute. I’m just fucking weird or something.

]]> By: Collin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37603 Collin Thu, 11 Feb 2010 01:35:13 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37603 Come on Khiem, of course I add to their lives! They get to eat dinner with me! Hahaha. Come on Khiem, of course I add to their lives! They get to eat dinner with me! Hahaha.

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/the-dating-doormat/3683/#comment-37596 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Thu, 11 Feb 2010 00:59:15 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3683#comment-37596 LOL Collin! That's the mark of a man who knows how to use his seductive powers hahahah... seduce the women in adding more to your life. Yay!!! Well... I sure hope you add to the girls' lives too :) LOL Collin!

That’s the mark of a man who knows how to use his seductive powers hahahah… seduce the women in adding more to your life. Yay!!!

Well… I sure hope you add to the girls’ lives too :)

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