The Body Language That Turns Her Off
May 7, 2010 
16 Comments
Body language is so important. We really are animals.
80% of the way we communicate really is by body language. If you watch a movie, when the actors deliver their lines they also have to deliver the right body language. Otherwise, you don’t believe the words that are coming out of their mouth.
I can’t tell you how many times I have witnesses men walking over to women with their shoulders rolled forward, looking down at the ground, and muttering their words. When they do that, women respond with the exact same body language.
When her body language is leaning towards the door, she is telling you how uncomfortable she is even if she is interested. So sometimes body language can seem to conflict with how that person actually feels.
That is why the guys need to keep talking smiling and staying relaxed. That way, you will help her relax. People will follow your body language when you are in control of yourself.
Your body language, though, is so important. You don’t want to come across as needy, desperate, weird, or too intense. You want to come across as somebody who’s confident, secure, and self-aware.
A confident man walks with his shoulders back, his head up, and his eyes directly on the person to whom he is talking. A confident man walks slow but strong. A confident man walks into a room, looks around, decides who he wants to talk to before walking over there.
A confident man faces the person with whom he’s speaking. A confident man does not look down at the ground. A confident man does not roll his shoulders down.
Your body language is so important. It’s not just about what you say, it’s how you say it and how your body is standing.
When you’re on a date facing somebody and talking to them at a table, you want to face them directly. You want to show them that you’re a strong, confident man.
There is so much more about body language that we need to discuss.
But before we do, let me ask you a question.
Are you nervous when approaching a woman? Don’t know how to approach, stand, act, look, etc? If so, lets keep this conversation rolling by Clicking Here!
U act perfect 2hq, expecting same. We are human, and not perfect, cannot pretend it, but can only endeavour 2 balance ourself, 2 social interaction 4 rosy action 2 opendoor reaction, 2 inspire 4 rose.
No matter how hot a women is, I never get nervous when talking to them,that died out in High School. Not hitting the eject button too soon and keeping the conversation going is what I need to work on still.
That was a quick respond We all have traits, to our unique personality, to simply be relaxed and confident, when we secure in the presence of strangers, not knowing if we welcome or not, to their environment, for the first time in peace , after a bitter duel, can be fueled by fools 2 rules 4 mules.
A rose and her charm, can it really harm if arm to arm, to balm and calm, relax we humans, as long as trust inspires confidence, so does a calm rose, just to relax and not look for excuses to perplex. Optimism and positive mindset, to give and expect a rosy to best, yet we all imperfect, but desire a rosy satisfaction to rosy action, mind blowing to flowing and growing.
“keep talking smiling and staying relaxed.”
aka..being chilled.
“You want to come across as somebody who’s confident, secure, and self-aware.”
Of course the best way to come across that way, is to be that way . . . . anyway, great post. And I know you are really good at helping men find their naturally confident way of being in the world.
Lexi, don’t start thinking you ladies get off free and clear on the confident/secure/self aware front. It applies to y’all too!
Confidence is so important. Even if you feel like you are bluffing,bluff anyway. When you are already in the conversation, most likely you will become confident. If you do say something stupid – laugh – we all do say stupid things at times!!!!!
hey cathy j this is “god help me” remember me thanks a bunch for those last tips. anyways this blog is going to help my ass out on may 11 when i take that girl out. i didnt really know how to look with my body because it feels as though i did without realizing. this david wygant stuff is helping me out so much, and i thank my friend for showing me this website and his youtube vids. so if your talking to a girl thats close to you and your both sitting on a bench do u face as much her as you can with your body?
i have to say that the only thing now for me is not to be to passionate otherwise women can ber afraid as if i want to jumpo into a relationship straight away.
i am in touch with few sexy women, and you david changed my life, but i am still learnning
any advice for that?
I don’t know what do to, I don’t know who to talk to , I’m at a loss, I keep saying this, but things keep getting worse. I need to talk to SOMEONE. I need some answers. Anyone willing to help, could you please give me your email? I’m not expecting anything, I’m just asking. Please help.
I’m here because I can’t talk to the people in my life.
The one thing that makes me laugh is this new craze that guys wear summer clothes in the middle of winter. They are basically freezing themselves to look hip. They cross their arms and legs to to try and keep warm and look totally ridiculous. They may gain slightly in fashion but they lose greatly in body language.
I can say this from experience, don’t try to emulate what you think is sexy and confident body language. No matter how much you try to do it, it will never be authentic because it’s not coming from within.
Truly sexy and confident body language and presence comes from your beliefs about yourself, how you percieve the world and how you think the world percieves you.
Im not saying that you can improve your posture and mov movement by creating new positive habits but its really alot better having a ferrari with a ferrari engine rather then a fererri with a Delorean engine. Just drawing an analogy.
Say this to yourself 20x a night or more and your body language will improve like that of a natural:
I am a sexually desirable man
Try it, it works. Just believe it.
Also every time you look in the mirror give yourself a pep talk or just compliment yourself (even if you may not believe it). This exercise will improve the way you see yourself. When you change the way you see yourself, the way people see you changes.
Hey guys,
Cathy J – thanks for reinforcing that point. Sure, push through with the conversation (leaving on a high point of course with her number or sexually escalate).
Drew – have you been on this site long? Follow DW’s methodology (notice something about the situation/woman, make a statement and follow up with some intriguing questions/statement) and practice, practice, practice. Eg in front of a mirror; watch a movie and note the situational cues that you could comment on if a woman you’re interested in was there. Remember, practice builds competence; competence builds confidence. Also, believe you can; believe in yourself; believe that she’s already attracted to you mate. Now get out there and practice (without getting bogged down with too much PUA theory)…
Don’t forget that every journey starts with one small step Drew.
All the best
Fat-Albert
Mario and Fat-Albert – thanks for the warm fuzzies – it is lovely to know advice is heard and appreciated.
Body language is a big area. I wonder what David thinks about sitting on the bench together.
I used to think straight on – looking into each other’s eyes, then side by side so you are looking out at life from the same perspective. Diagonally if you are on a bench ie pointed in – anyway whatever comes natural. as the man, you must choose if you are at a restaurant if you want to change the seating arrangement – opposite or diagonal. Go with what feels right or try one then if it doesn’t work swap it – tell the young lady that you are trying it out – she will appreciate your honesty!
Drew,
Have you emailed David before? Why don’t you send him an email and talk to him about his situation? He always answer the first email free of charge. We want to help you guys more than anything else!