I faced a similar dilemma this past week. I’ve been able to easily get numbers and have good conversation starters. But it seems like I can seal the deal for a meeting. I truly feel a lot has to do with living in a small town that’s almost like a high school click. People here don’t have a big city mentality where they constantly meet new people.

There must be some way around this social dynamic. Any suggestions?

Also, Khiem, you contribute really great stuff on here too man, thanks!

Dan

Thank you for the great advice. I guess the main stuff I took from daves teachings is be fun, and when I saw a glance I took it. I also wasnt afraid to walk away and come back later. I guess I would like to chalk this one up to chemistry… But you all are very helpful

~J~

I think you did a great job with approaching that girl in the bar! Don’t start to question yourself, be confident and continue to meet and interact with the ladies. Forget her and move on!

Patrick has some great advice for you there.

I’m going to add a bit more to what he said. Attracting women is about who you are. What you say and do with the woman is a reflection of who you are.

So following David’s advice and tips will steer you in the right path… but you have to OWN the techniques he gives you. Are you using his tips as just techniques or as something you would say yourself?

People in general, and women in particular, look very closely for genuineness and authenticity. When you used some of David’s techniques, were they congruent with your vibe? Was they congruent with the identity you have?

Assuming that you really made the techniques your own, then do you know enough about her situation to really understand why she wouldn’t be receptive to your advances?

And assuming you didn’t do anything wrong, sometimes, there is just no chemistry. You are both at different places in life, you have different motivations and goals, or… it’s just the right time/place for either of you.

So don’t beat yourself up on this one encounter, but see what you can learn from it. Maybe you’ll notice that you didn’t do something as well as you thought.

Thanks for posting. First, the good news. Whoever posted that comment had it backwards. Most guys are not attractive UNTIL they open their mouths.
Attracting women is about what you say and do, as well as what you look like.

The bad news is there is no magic pill, there are no magic techniques — not even David’s techniques. Practice makes this work over time.

If you’re doing your best to follow David’s advice, you’re not one of the unattractive guys, and with practice you will become one of the attractive guys.
You’re in a tough spot, and I’ve been there… not striking out completely, but not finding complete success either. Maybe coming out for a bootcamp would help.

Until then, please try posting a bit more detail. Think about what went wrong and what went right. What were the turning points in the interaction? Did you ask about a boyfriend? What were the barriers in her mind that made her think texting back was bad? What made you think she was attracted to you in the first place?

– Patrick

To start from the top, Ill take this weekend. I went to the bar with my friends (guys and girl in the group) and I genuinely met a girl (I was sober cab, she was sober, so no liquid courage, pick up lines, etc). I was following the Wygant way of just having a good time and trying not to talk about myself alot. She had friends too, so I also engaged with her friends in conversation so they didnt rip her away form me. After a night of dacing and having a good time, I got her number (the Wygant way, not asking for it).

I texted her within 24 hours following the format that was in one of your videos (tic tac toe), I had a nickname for her and attempted to bring her back to the moment in a text. She didnt text back. After talking to one of her friends I was informed that she probably wasnt going to ever text back…

This is just one instance but similar scenarios have happened to me in my interactions with beautiful women, and I am not sure whats wrong. I feel I have the approach down, so I think there is an issue with my inner game or my texting…

Someone on this blog at one point said something along the lines of “Guys are attractive until they open their mouth.” I am beginning to believe I am one of these guys… any advice?