The Best Place To Meet Women Is “On Line”
September 7, 2007 
32 Comments
The Best Place To Meet Women Is “On Line” by David Wygant
The best place to meet women is on line. No, not online on match.com or on Yahoo! Personals . . . but rather while you’re waiting on a line.
We spend so much of our lives waiting on a line. We’re waiting for coffee. We’re waiting at the bank. We’re waiting at the grocery store. We’re always waiting on a line . . . sometimes for one minute and sometimes for two hours.
Do you talk to people while you’re waiting on a line? If the answer is no, then read on because what I’m about to tell you is one of the best time management tools you will ever learn.
As a matter of fact, Microsoft Outlook was thinking of adding this tool to their software for Blackberries. Alright maybe not . . . but you get my point.
The other night I was out with a large group of students doing a bootcamp. We walked by this trendy Hollyweird nightclub. I looked at the line waiting to get in, and I asked my students:
DW: “What do you notice about what people are doing in that line . . .
besides looking pissed off that they have to wait?”
S1: “No one is talking to each other.”
DW: “Exactly! No one is talking to each other while waiting on line to get
into a bar or nightclub . . . waiting to get into a loud, crowded, place
so they can potentially scream in each other’s ears.”
The best conversations you’re going to have are when you’re waiting on line to get into the bar. They will be far better than any you’ll have while you’re inside the bar.
To prove my point, we got on line there and we proceeded to have a conversation with the group in front of us and the group behind us. When it was time to enter the club, the doorman asked me how many we were, and I said that we were seven but that we wanted to wait on line for awhile before going inside.
As each group behind us got to where we were at the front of of the line, we met a whole new group of people. By the time we left that line about twenty minutes later, we’d met and spoken with about forty people! In light of this, let me ask you a few questions:
• How many of you speak to forty people when you’re IN a nightclub?
• How many of you get phone numbers when you’re IN the nightclub?
• How many of you get people to text you as soon as they leave a nightclub to see where you’re hanging out and what line is cool right now?
These are just some of the things that happened to my students and I when we were waiting on line at a trendy Hollywood nightclub.
Since you’re able to speak about the obvious while you’re waiting on line, how silly is it to wait to get inside a loud club before you start talking to people? Whatever your approach is, when you speak to someone while your on line you can always state it with humor. You can always say something like:
“Aren’t we getting too old to hang out on line to get into a crowded nightclub?
This is the best conversation we’re going to have all night. If we met in there,
I’d have to scream in your ear.”
It doesn’t matter what you say. It’s stating the obvious.
I also told my students that if you like someone you meet on line, just close them with this:
Man: “Let’s exchange numbers. If the loud music gets on your nerves,
text me and I’ll let you know where we’re at.”
What you’re doing here is playing the odds. Most women when they go to a nightclub think they’re going to have fun. After about an hour in the nightclub, however, most of them tend to get annoyed. So after about an hour and a half, what you do is text her.
You: “Are you ready to continue our conversation? I enjoyed
speaking with you on line about [fill in the topic you were
discussing].”
That’s it! Short . To the point. All my students did this, and it worked.
It’s called being different. It’s called seizing the moment.
In addition, when you send this text at this time, you’re most likely going to be texting her when she’s at her breaking point. She’ll remember what a great conversation she had with you while hanging out on line. She’ll already have fended off a slew of drunken horny men who had no rap. So what you’re doing is rescuing her from another 90 minutes of thump-thump music and drunken horny men.
It’s all about being different and taking chances. So the next time when someone asks you if you’ve tried online dating, you’re answer is going to be: “Not on the Internet . . . but on line at a club.”
This weekend, go hang out outside a bar . . . and don’t go inside. You’ll have far less competition and have far better conversations than you would have if you went in the place. Oh and by the way, you don’t need a cheesy picture for this form of “on line” dating.
This “on line” dating also goes for all the “on lines” in you life. This is not just for bars . . . this goes for any line on which you find yourself waiting. Welcome to David Wygant’s world of “on line” dating! Welcome to the www of your life.
David,
I’ve always enjoyed waiting in line, but more as a watcher than a talker. I am however changing that. The trouble is that the lines are not outside of clubs. They are inside the WalMart, the Home Depot, and the DMV. The wally is filled with men who don’t wear shirts with sleeves which thanks to a tid bit of interesting advice from a younger man, I’ve come to realize that he was correct when he told me not to trust guys who wear sleeveless t-shirts anywhere but the gym and the beach (with the beach being somewhat suspect) The DMV and the Home Depot aren’t exactly what you’d call hot hangouts of unattached men. This is a pretty small town and I’ve never had to wait in line to get into a bar. So any other ideas aside from the Safeway during tourist season? You know a woman can only buy so many provocative veggies…you know?
I believe it’s considered waiting “IN” line and not “ON” line.
Kind of a related story ….a few weeks ago I was waiting in line at Love(formally known as Dream) in DC…
There was this girl in line in front of me…I thought I could easily have her…she was an average looking asian girl, no makeup, cheap shoes, crap dress, hair up in a pony(held with a rubber band…yes at a night club)…but anyways
We started talking and she started talking about her soy sauce company that she inherited and all the millions of dollars she had. We started talking about the athletes who might show up tonite at the club. She began talking about how her friends were cheerleaders for the lakers and that they would sleep with Allen Iverson after practice sometimes and how he simply didn’t “measure up”. No matter how poorly she was dressed she convinced me she was a multi millionaire business women who hangs out with glamorous women that dates guys who are high up in the world and how these guys are losers in her world.
Its amazing the power of the shit test….She threw me way off balance and turned herself into a 10 right in front of my face….the whole story was BS…Allen Iverson never even played for the Lakers. It amazes how a woman can change your whole perspective on her just by her use of words. I entered thinking damn…she’s nobody and left feeling like…damn I’m nobody…it was about a week after this I discovered all this material on women and dating, David D, RSD, David W…etc etc
Crazy how women can flip the script on you….Just out of curiosity do any women on her do shit tests like this? If so, how do you want a guy to respond?
Aw, c’mon Shannon … I thought the play on words with meeting someone “on line” in the real world instead of online (on the internet) was cute and clever!
Shannon
Its a play on words…..I know you have something more interesting to say then that!!!
Kate
Thanks for getting the play on words. Shannon are you a teacher of English or an Editor??
Anyone else not get the humor behind the play on words?
David – This is such a great meeting concept. For those of us who are maybe a little less than comfortable with a “cold approach” starting a conversation with someone of the opposite sex, this seems like a much less pressure way to try it. After all, I guess when you’re waiting … it would seem perfectly normal to say SOMETHING to the people standing near you. I’m definitely going to try this one!
Gracie
If we play it on words can we call it a meating concept??
We can get really goofy around hear on a fryday…look another play on words. we can do a play on words blog and have a lot of fun.
Its all good and its all fun!!!
This IS fun today … uh, I mean “twoday”
Who knew talking about “weighting” in line could revive old memories of rebuses, synonyms, homonyms and all that great 5th grade vocabulary and spelling stuff
David, you’re cracking me up! Loving that we’re keeping it light today as we try to decompress from the work “weak” and gear up for the weekend
(I couldn’t resist one more!)
Being 6’4 i’m easy to spot in line. BTW, has anyone seen Faryn? If you she her, tell her Jim says hey!!
Jim,
Faryn is gone! I would like to know her opinion about this article, but I am afraid she is history… at least for now…
Regarding meeting people waiting in line…..
It is a great idea, David!
Now, I need to find a line!
LUv the 3rd grade vocab…and its playful and fun like flriting should be
Jim, get on line, pick my number and we’ll sea. I mizspelled on porpoise.
Even I have a scent of humour.
Did you enjoy my carz?
More importantly; forget about me – all – my concern is for the wounded one. I’ve received no reply from my missive and my priorities – Bin Laden takes a back seat – is for our fallen angel. If any of you have heard from her, inform me.
Joan?
Jessica……. I would talk with you in line.
Luv awll the bad grammar…we need to thank Shannon for this one!!!
Faryn………. I knew you were out there. Those were beautiful rides. Thats what i’m talking about! But for me, I’m simple, I like my American muscle…….. But you get what ever you want!!!!! Faryn!
BTW: I think you are not high maint, but self maint. Smart and sexy too. HEY!
High everyone.
I had two make sure the war zone waz clear be four I posted. Good to sea all is piece full. (How’m I doin sew far on the miss-spelling,lol)
I luv two talk two people in line. Anywhere I will talk to sum one.
The cable guy was fixing sum thing the other day by my door. I came n from the jim, walked up the step and his pretty green i’s caught my attention. Sew, I asked, “you are not turning me off are you (did not even think that way–he did–but thats ok–it was fun!) With a big grin and a wink he said, “well, are you late with your payment?” I laughed and told him no, no I am never late on my bills. He said, “well good then. I can gladly tell you, I am not here to turn you off.” By that point, eye contact between us was anything but “turning me off!” Now, no I did knot screw the cable man, but we sure had fun with the flirt. No harm done. Little post gym ego boost;)
Faryn,
I like the “scent of humor.”
As for been lauden—he is one crazy individual.
Well, as for the wounded one, Taleda, the last I heard from her was last nights email after the bashing session. Very hurtful to say the least. I have sent her two emails today with no response, so I am sure she is licking many wounds. I usually hear back pretty quick from her. Nothing as of yet so I hope she is ok? I don’t know. You are a sweet lady to care. I feel comfortable to say nice, now that i know we are lady liking men sort of friends. lol If I hear I will let you know. Time for an overdo hot bubble bath with sented candles on the garden tub;) Nuttin like it!
dave!
I walk into the store, wearing a yellow t-shirt, and I hear someone say, “where is the yellow hat?” I look around see no one I know, and continue walking. Again, I hear the same question. It was the cashier standing next to me………I responded, I don’t have one!……..instead of having fun, I continued shopping…any pointers?
Eye’m heaDeaD oot the Door two Dyne wyth my laytest marq … graytfullee eye aDD.
Huntar, is this rally the byst ewe oar able two cum up wyth? SirPrysyng.
Leo (Jul 23 – Aug 22)
The pace of your daily life has been too intense for too long. You are tired of trying to keep up with all the responsibility. Even though Saturn has finally left your sign, Venus lags behind to hold you to your past. Stay in touch with the most significant people in your life, but be willing to let go of those whose paths have diverged from yours.
Ryst ye faythful Joan of Blog. Agaynst my ewesal lack of kare, I let fly a Ditto Dove too hour wounDeD one. The aDove myssyve has lanDeD anD forthwith the Dove has returneD with one four Me.
All is peaceful inn the kingDom of DaviD. I musk away ….
Faryn,
How funny!………….
Hi, Joan,
I still looking for the line…
I missed a great opportunity when they were selling the very first Apple iPhone and the latest Harry Potter book…
Faryn,
Where would be your favorite line to meet new people? LOL
Hey Jessica;
lol You will hit the right line,(well that came out SOO misleading in connotation–”hit the line” AND NO I have never hit a line of any drug in my life to knowthis lingo.) I am sure of it.
For everthing there is a season and a time, and your time is is about to “fall” right in “line!” LOL I don’t know where that came from, but I have these moments? lol Fall is SUPPOSED to be upon us. Texas is not familiar with such a thing as seasons. We have 3 seasons—hot, hotter, and hottest!
Just stay in line Jessica. Your turn awaits around the corner;)
Joan,
I think it is also a lot of fun to stand in line for a long time. Naturally, to start talking to strangers
I don’t do lines. Waste of my valuable time and precious energy. I find lines to be non-user friendly. Most of the time, someone does that for me anyway. When I travel I am unapproachable; I read, do paperwork (yes, paperwork!), schedule my calendar with appointments, travel, work and pleasure, or get some much needed rest.
I am not fond of listening to people’s one-sided conversations using cell phones; I find it rude and annoying. I don’t talk on my cell while driving. When with my driver, that is another matter, I speak with family, friends and marks. My cell isn’t on when I am “on”.
I’m rather focused in all manner of day-to-day life; when I shop I shop, when I dine I dine, when I play I play, errands are done crisply and orderly, my time on my computer is for research, work and creativity, and idle chit-chat doesn’t interest me.
I drop in here out of curiosity. At first it was fascinating to read a few Blogs and the replies, the banter was refreshing and I was amused by all that was taking place but then I found supreme aggrevation. I don’t do aggrevation either. What side-interests have developed from my time spent here will stay with me long after I’ve departed. When I get bored, I’ll be gone, on to something else that interests me.
Faryn,
I agree with you 100 percent – when I get bored, I am gone. Not only with blogs! Can’t stand boring people and boring conversations! This blog is a lot of fun! Everyone has a personal story to tell!
Jim,
Tell us, what do you think about standing in line? Would you talk to people or just listen?
Actually, about listening
Hunter,
Next time someone asks where a matching accessory is at, just give a big smile and say “I was going to wear it, but I didn’t want to be mistaken for a large tulip.” Or you could say “I was going to wear it, but I didn’t want anyone mistaking me for the Sun or Butter God and didn’t want people to start worshipping me.” Something out of the ordinary would throw the other person off and give both of you a big smile.
,,,,,,,thanx, Kelly…
i love talking to strangers, but only when i get extremely bored because im a naturally shy person.
i have one for hunter! you shouldve say something like, ” i was just coming to pick one up, do you know what aisle i can find one?” or shouldve had her help you find one.lol. just ideas…i love flirting, but i think i lead some guys on.
Hey, for those of you who think that crowds and long lines are fun way to meet new people…
There will be March on Washington on September 15. People will be coming by buses from all over the country to participate. And I am going
thanks, Marissa…
anytime hunter, but usually flirting comes easily 4 me…so it was kinda hard to think of thinks to say..