The Beach Advantage
February 24, 2010 
24 Comments
It’s funny. Here we are in the middle of winter, and I have so many guys who want to know about how to meet women at the beach.
I recently had someone who came in from Australia to work with me, and of course the conversation was all about how to meet women at the beach (since it’s the middle of summer there). Then there are other guys who will be traveling to Mexico, Florida or the Caribbean for vacation or spring break. All of these guys will be wondering how to meet people on the beach.
The beach is a blast. To me, it has all the best props you could possibly have.
One of the things we used to do in the Bootcamps is to go to the beach and build sand castles. I’d put the guys right near the water just like when you were a kid, and had them build sand castles.
Then when a woman would come over in our direction, I would turn to her and say “You know, we could use a woman’s finishing touch. We need a little help on the interior right now. I just don’t really know where to put the furniture.” We would just have fun and get the women to laugh.
Then I might say, “Come in here. Let me show you the master suite.” This is so they will actually bend down and look at the sand castle.
Most women will then say something like this: “Oh my God, that’s a beautiful master suite. I would put put this shell in the middle here, and put that pebble over there…I would also want to go with a different color palette – too much gray.” There are so many ways to have fun with this.
Another thing you can do to meet people at the beach is to say to someone standing near the water’s edge, “I’ll race you in.” Many women will respond and say something like, “No, it’s too cold.”
At that point, you want to challenge her. Say something like, “Are you a chicken? You’re afraid to go in the water? You are standing here in the hot sun, but you won’t go in the water? Come on, let’s go.” You make it a game. You have fun.
Another thing I always used to do to meet people at the beach is to bring a Frisbee and a ball. When a woman would walk towards me, I’d throw the ball in the air, look at them and say “Catch!”
She’ll catch the ball and then throw it back to you. Then you can say, “Why do you throw like a girl? Didn’t your father ever teach you not to throw like a girl? Come on, you can throw better than that!” Once again, challenge her and have fun.
That’s what it is all about when you’re at the beach. People go to the beach to have a good time, to relax and to swim.
So these are all great ways you can engage people in conversation and activities at the beach. If they’re having fun with you, the conversation immediately becomes a lot easier.
To hookup with a girl I met at the beach would be a dream-come-true
Anthony,
Why can’t you make your dream come true?
Man I’d love to go to the beach regularly but being in Scotland, right now it’s like -1C and freeeeeeezing!!! We’re still getting snow it’s that bad!
I like the idea though of making a fun situation. I imagine that once you get a few people together having a laugh then more people see that and start wondering “what are they up to?” then they want to join in so if you approach them then they’re more than likely to say yes.
Heh, I would have to work out first before I go to the beach. My body is flabby, and I got man boobs.
Thats a terrific beach approach I will have to write that one down and practice during spring break.
I love the way you use challenge and fun to get her to commit. Does this work all the time?
hahahha I love busting on girls so the Frisbee idea is great for me.
Great blog! I think in the end no matter which approach we do, if we don’t have fun it will not be effective? Right?
I have tried the beach approach once and it totally works the only sad part was that the girl wasn’t interested in me. But I learned something maybe next time she will be interested.
These approaches seems so natural and easy to implement. I have tried other pua methods earlier and it felt like being in the chemistry lab again:(
Anonymous
Have you ever approached a woman in the beach?
I agree some of the stuff out there can feel like chemistry lab work:)
Clint
Its fun you would totally love it.
Do you live near the beach?
Jacob: I really wish. Someday I would like to live near body of water. But as of now thinking about spending 3 weeks in Hawaii and go surfing:)
Jason X
Its all a learning process. When you can drop all that outcomes and continue to have fun, you will soon connect with someone.
What have you learned about that interaction?
Jacob- I learned that it works but I was holding on to the outcome too much, and because of that she may have lost interest. I did feel like crap towards the end of the conversation because she was a really cute girl, and I wish I could have done better. So I gotta work on more on having fun, and less on being outcome oriented. I’m amazed how you’re able to kind of see my problems to quickly.
Thank you for asking Jacob.
Yes Max,
No matter what approach you take, you have to have fun. Women want to know that you are the fun guy that makes them comfortable for them to get engaged with.
Meeting women should feel like having fun. Any of the PUA methods out there that make you feel like it’s (home)work… you should be wary of.
B/c in the end, women just want to have fun fun fun!
Khiem/Ken
I know I can make my dreams come true, but im not top level “she talker” yet(like davids previous blog says)
I have no problem apporaching a girl but right now my biggest issue is trying to engage them,I listen to everything a girl says in the conversation but i have a hard time finding those “key words” so i can keep the conversation going
thats why right now im not confident with talking to girls on the beach
Man guys.. I’m falling hard for this girl. She looks like Taylor Swift. Shes kinky and soo amazing. She is talking to other guy though. I have to stand up and be unique. Differ myself from all the other dudes. She has already told me that I’m unique, One in a million. But for some reason she doesn’t seem to flirt that much with me. I mean she already opened up by telling me shes kinky but she still doesnt trust me enough to tell me her fantasy. How could I raise the trust between us.?? Or the tension??
Khim you have already told me to share my fantasy with her. I also texted with her and we were talking about it. She told me that with her theres more than meets the eye. So how can I find out more with her?
Also theres this guy who is always cock blocking me when I’m with her. Its hard because she bearly has time to hang out. So yea what could I do guys. This girl is really amazing. She also told me that “breaking her is not going to be easy”.
So yea guys please help.
Without More,
Mario
Mario,
You don’t have to break her… that’s what guys make the mistake of. You are trying to impress her.
The thing you have to remember is… she’d be lucky to be with you!!!!
So she has to impress you… she has to do things to show you that she’s a cool girl. I know you believe she’s cool and all that … but the point I make is simple: when you interact with her, you should make her feel like she has to prove herself to you… and then when you feel she deserves you, you give yourself to her.
It’s about emotionally engaging her more and more with you… instead of you trying to convince her.
It’s about you and her having a constant exchange of yourself… exchange of favors… and really coming together.
Khiem I had class today and I couldn’t talk to her at all. It sucks man. What could I do in order for her to come to talk to me?? Or what is it that i’m doing wrong. How could I show her that she has to be the one to satisfy me? How do I transmit that signal to her? That I’m the alpha male. ?? That she has to desire me instead of me desiring her/?
This is the biggest crock of shit I’ve ever read.
It was written by an overweight neckbeard virgin.
Not a fag-Your comments make me think like you are a big overweight neckbeard virgin. Get a life.
Hey not a faggott/neckbeard virgin
Get your self a Malibu surf board and get down to your local break and I guarantee you won’t be out of place. If not, it is your loss.
lol ok then not a fag if you dont respect this advice and don’t need it then simply get youself of this website, you’re obviously here for a reason?? maybe you searched for advice but something there was just too hard for you too hear?? you have too be true to yourself then you have to love yourself : ) (which is not gay!) then when you’re around people just do whatever you want that makes you feel great and gives you that warm thrilling feeling! i learned something last weekend that if you get yourself smiling then ive noticed girls just smiling back at me and i just happened to be looking her way also doing crazy things that take you out you’re comfort zone are great like playing fishing for girls in clubs!!! ive never seen a girl laughing so hard i didnt approach her get her number or have sex with her! that doesnt matter! just take small steps at a time learning to just be comfortable in any situation with large amounts of people around you! thanks to david and his entire team of thousands for sharing they’re personal discoveries!