When you really learn how to communicate, you can read someone’s energy. Keep this in mind as I relay this story about something that happened the other day to my girlfriend.

So the other night my girlfriend went to pick up dinner from a little health food place. She was sitting outside, relaxing while she waited for her order to be ready when “he” appeared. “He” is the guy I don’t ever want any of you guys to be.

Just so there’s no misunderstanding, this has nothing to do with this guy hitting on my girlfriend. I couldn’t care less about that, because whenever guys do she always comes home and tells me all about it (so that I can see if all you guys are paying attention to what I teach).

Here’s my message to all you guys: Wake up! It’s all about reading energy when it comes to communicating with women. Let me tell you more of the story to show you what I mean.

So this guy walked over to my girlfriend while she was waiting for her dinner takeout to be ready. First he lingered by the menu. Okay, no problem here yet. Then he opened her with an observation “Hows the food here.” That’s fine too. He’s doing alright so far.

What he didn’t pay attention to, though, was that she responded to his observation with a one word answer and she didn’t give him any positive body language. She even got up and went back inside the restaurant to check and see if her food was ready yet. He stayed outside because all he was thinking about was how he could ask her out on a date.

He didn’t pay attention to anything that was going on in that interaction. First of all, she was not answering his questions. When a woman gives you one word answers to your questions, she is not interested. You don’t keep re-engaging her, because all that you achieve by doing that is to become annoying. He in fact did become annoying, which is why she went inside to wait for her food.

As she comes out with her food ready to leave, he was still out there staring at the menu. What he was really doing is so obvious here. She knew exactly why he was still standing out there. He wasn’t really looking at the menu at all and he wasn’t there to actually buy any food. He was still standing there solely because he was waiting for her to come back out of the restaurant.

What he was really doing was waiting for someone to come out of that restaurant who wasn’t interested in him. He did this because men are objective minded, i.e., he had one objective in his mind that he focused on without listening or paying attention to what was going on around him. By being solely objective minded, he becomes the annoying guy women have to avoid when they are leaving a restaurant with their takeout dinner.

So what happened next? When she exited the restaurant with her dinner in hand, he comes up with another pickup line and uses it on her. He says “You know, you look really familiar to me.” What does he figure? If at first you don’t succeed, try try again?

Guys, you need to read a woman’s energy. This is something I’ve talked about over and over again. Read her energy. If it didn’t work the first time, it certainly isn’t going to work with an even worse pickup line.

So in response to this guy’s “You know, you look really familiar to me” line, she says “Well, maybe.” Then they started talking a little bit. Then he says “I’ve seen you in yoga class. I teach yoga. My name is Fish Kadabubababadabuba.” It’s so funny, by the way, how when guys named Bill and Tom become yoga teachers they always seem to change their name to things like Odawanda Dickawanda Masatuba (and become “scary yoga guy”).

After he makes his introduction, she said “Okay, well it was nice meeting you. I’ve got to go.” So what does he do? After having no conversation with her and totally failing to read her energy, he decides to act like a typical guy and ask her out (all because he had thrown out two pickup lines at her).

He looks at her and says “Why don’t we get together and go out for some soy mocha lattes.” At that point she said, laughing really hard, “Okay, I’ve really got to go. I’m in a relationship.” He responded to that by saying “Well maybe we’ll see each other in the universe sometime.”

Guys, you really need to read women’s energy. Stop being so obsessed by the way a woman looks, and stop trying to claim her. Women will tell you if you they are interested by not running away like she did in this story.

If a woman’s body language is not facing you or if they are giving you one word answers, they are not doing it to encourage you to work harder. If a woman is interested, they will talk to you.

Believe me, if my girlfriend was interested in that guy she would have talked to him. She would have asked him what he was having for dinner. She knew he was lingering there. She knew he wasn’t going to eat there.

It is time you guys really started paying attention to women. Stop thinking about what to say all the time. Stop trying to pick them up and start reading their energy.

So what was my solution to this situation with my girlfriend? I put 1,000 of my business cards in her car. So, the next time a guy named Fish Kadabubababadabuba comes over, she can pass along the my business card and he can start reading the blog and realizing what he has been doing wrong the whole time.
And if he is really serious about meeting women he would buy my mens mastery series.

Hint hint to all of you that think you are going to learn this without investing in yourself.

So here’s what you need to do to perform excellent sexiovascular activities. There are a couple of different positions that you need to know, and a few different training exercises.

One is man on top, woman on bottom.

Alright – yeah, we’re talking about sex! If you want to get a great SEX-pack, listen up!

So what you do is get the woman on the bottom. What you do at that point is that get on top of her, you climb in and insert yourself into her – we need to get technical here for all of you work-out junkies – you then need to lift your body off of hers.

At this point, your elbows are locked, your chest is in a bit of an Upward Dog position in yoga – if you don’t know what that is, go to www.yoga.com and look up the position “Upward Dog.”

Then, at that point, you’re actually curling your spine – this is a great spinal thing – and while you’re curling your spine, you need to suck your back ribs in. If you suck your back ribs in, you’re just going to be moving directly from your hips and stomach.

At this point you start curling into her. You should do ten sets of ten.

She will cum before then, because it’s going to hit the clit really hard! But you need to do at least ten sets of ten.

It’s going to be a great workout for you. It will work the following muscles: your chest, your back, your shoulders, your hip flexors, and it will also build up your sex-pack (your stomach.)

Another great exercise is to lie on top of her, and put all of your body weight on top of her. Then you take your arms and put them underneath her shoulders. At this point, you should start curling your body into her.

Take your hips and move them; curl them directly into her. At the same time, you need to take your arms and start jamming her – start moving her and pushing her down. As you’re pushing her down, your hips are curling into her.

Not only is she going to have a huge orgasm, you’re going to build up great shoulders, arms, and abs. Not to mention that it’s a great sexiovascular workout because you’ll be breathing heavy and panting during the whole thing.

Another great sexiovascular exericise is to lay on the bottom with the woman on top. Get your woman on top and start curling those hips into her. She’s on top, and she’s riding you, and this is a great exercise for her inner thighs at this point – if she’s riding you correctly, you want her to straddle your penis and jump up and down on your penis using the power of her inner thighs and quad muscles.

But at the same time, don’t just lie there like a dead sack of wood. You want to curl your body into her. Curling your body into her uses a couple of different muscles. For one, you’re using your hips again, and you’re also working on your sex-pack.

Another great exercise when you’re on the bottom is to pull her close to you – of course, give her a good kiss at the same time – but then pull her close, hold her really tight, and just rock her back and forth. That’s an intense ab workout. Make sure you breathe at the same time.

Another great one when she’s on top is to dead lift her – this is a great chest workout. So while she’s on top of you, using her quads, you want to guide her body up and down. You’re going to get some good shoulder work there, and chest work; you’ll get a little bit of arm work at the same time.

Take your hands, grip around her waist and start lifting her up and down. Do ten sets of ten. Count to ten. Not only will she have a nice orgasm, but you’re also going to build your body up.

Now what’s the best part of sex? It’s after sex, when you’re done. You get to go to the bathroom, look in the mirror, and see how pumped up your body is.

One of my favorite things to do all of the time is to check out how pumped up my body gets after sex. I like to just check out every single muscle, everything else.

And there are a few other things you can do. If you’ve got good gripping, you can put her up against the wall and you can start doing leg lifts into her. It’s very simple – you need to insert your penis into her vagina, and you need to thrust it upwards. At the same time, you’re holding her against the wall – that’s going to take a lot of chest and shoulder work.

At that same time, you’re basically balancing her hips on your dick. When you’re balancing her hips, you’re basically thrusting up into her, working on your quads, but you’re absolutely blowing out your buttocks muscles. By doing that up and down, you’re doing some great dead lifting.

Another great exercise when you have her hanging out over the side of the bed – she’s on the bed, lying flat and her legs are down on the ground, and you’re entering her from behind – no, you’re not anally pounding her to death, you’re entering her pussy.

A woman can get a great wrist exercise during this position by playing with her own clitoris – this will build her wrist muscles up so she doesn’t get Carpal Tunnel Syndrome – this is a great Carpal Tunnel exercise.

While she’s playing with her pussy, you’re going from behind and entering her in and out. You’re standing up, so you’re getting some leg work; you’re also getting some good ab work.

But you need to thrust her really hard and fast during this so it’s a sexiovascular workout at the same time.

Those are some fantastic ways to work out when you are having sex.

So the next time you go to work out: forget Pilates, forget yoga, forget cardiovascular – join us in a sexiovascular workout!

You know, I was just on the phone with a client of mine and we had an interesting conversation about how to deal with assholes. There is no other way to put it, right?

My client wanted to figure out how to get a particular asshole (“Mr. Asshole”) to like him. No matter how nice my client was to him, Mr. Asshole still acted like an asshole. That is, Mr. Asshole was still confrontational and disagreeable about almost everything. I told my client that an asshole is one because there is always shit coming out of their mouth.

There is no reason to befriend everybody. If you are nice to someone and they are an asshole to you or are just plain old rude to you, then you have done nothing to them to warrant their behavior. You’ve been nice, self-aware, non-confrontational, and you haven’t challenged them. You’ve killed them with kindness. Yet they still choose to be an asshole.

So what’s the point? You need to understand and accept the fact that you can’t make everybody like you and respond favorably to you.

The way I look at it is if someone is being an asshole, it’s really your ego that doesn’t like it. Your ego may not like that you can’t succeed in getting this person to think the way that you are thinking. Your ego may not like that you can’t get this person to respond favorably to you.

It’s also your ego that doesn’t allow you to just walk away from someone like this. If I have to deal with an asshole, then I will kill them with kindness during the one or two obligatory minutes I must spend talking to them. When I then walk away, I will just mutter “asshole” under my breath and walk away . . . because I just don’t care.

I don’t really care if somebody doesn’t like me or doesn’t respond favorably to me. All I care about is that I treat everyone with respect, kindness and integrity. That is the kind of person I am.

So if you are dealing with an asshole, you need to remember that it’s just your ego that is affected by them. Then drop the ego, and just walk away.

You know, it’s funny. Let me share with you a perfect story about needing to drop the ego. When I was recently in Hawaii, I surfed for four days. On three of those days I kicked ass – I got up on the board, I surfed and I had a great time.

I was there with my ex, Alison. She just started surfing not too long ago, but she’s already good at it. She’s one of those naturals. So on surfing day number four, I knew I felt a little stiff. I do yoga on a regular basis, so I went into a lot of yoga poses to try and unlock my body and get rid of some of the stiffness I was feeling.

I was still stiff after I did that though, and my intuition and my gut told me to just go out in the water and swim. Because I used to be a competitive swimmer as a kid and used to be a lifeguard, I should have just had a great time swimming the day away in the Pacific Ocean . . . but of course my ego wouldn’t allow that.

My ego made me get up on that surfboard because I wanted to surf one more day and because I wanted to prove that I could do a good job at it four days. So, what happened? My lower back jammed on my left hand side, and I spent the last couple days rehabilitating it.

By the time I post this blog, my back will be fine. The question is: Will I learn from my experience? That is, the next time will I trust my instincts and honor my body, or will I allow my ego to rule once again?

The analysis is no different when it comes down to dealing with assholes. You have to trust yourself. You have to be open, and you have to drop that ego. The more you keep that ego, the more hurt you will experience. So remember that not everyone is going to like you and you can’t catch every wave.

Todays video is all about how to find great single people online. Match.com would never want you to know what I am about to share.