Today, I take a trip down memory lane for you guys and tell you exactly how I lost my virginity.

 ”Nervous” is not a strong enough word for the feelings I had swirling around inside of me over that brief (but seemingly very long) two-day period in my life.

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What? you may be asking.  How does it take someone two days to lose their virginity?  Did it take me 2 days of begging, pleading, and convincing some poor teenage girl to give in to me?  Or was it due to my complete lack of sexual skill at the time that made the whole ordeal last 2 days?

Listen to todays podcast, and you will realize that stressing out so much about sex is completely not worth it.

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Why is the wet spot on the bed always in the spot that you cuddle on? Somebody is going to be spooned directly into that wet spot. It happens. The question is, if you’re the man, do you man up and say, “You know what, honey, with all my body hair, I’ll sleep in the wet spot all night long. No problem.”

Or, do you slowly push her directly into the wet spot so you don’t have to deal with the dampness all night long? You can try to use towels to cover up the wet spot, but that never seems to work. For some reason or another, the towel always starts to itch. I never understood why, but it always does. Most of us don’t have gigantic beds, so somebody WILL be touching that wet spot. The question is, who deserves it?

Here’s my wet spot rule: If you didn’t get her off a couple of times, meaning, he didn’t go down on her, didn’t give her a big orgasm, didn’t get her to come during sex, then the man deserves to lay in the wet spot. You don’t deserve to be sitting on the dry side. You didn’t work hard enough.

But if she was lazy in sex, didn’t do anything but lay there, no foreplay at all, and he just did all the work and banged her left and right, she had a great time, he went down on her but she didn’t go down on him, then what? Damn right – he should spoon her and pull her directly into that spot and you let her little soft smooth body get cold all night long. That’s my rule.

The one who does more in bed for the other person deserves the wet spot pass. The one who was lazy that night? That’s right, you get to find out how long it takes until that wet spot dries.

How much masturbation is healthy for you? How much is overboard? How many times in a day should you masturbate? That’s right, how many times per day? You know quite a number of people who actually masturbate two to three times a day, and I’m not talking about just men, I’m talking about women also.

What is a healthy balance between masturbation and actually going out and trying to have real sex?

The problem is so many people become masturbation dependent, that they don’t even try to have real sex, and when they do finally have sex, especially women, since they’ve been vibrating way too much, can’t orgasm. Because their damn clitoris is so numb from having Bob take care of it all the time. And no I’m not talking about Bob, I’m talking about “Bob,” her battery-operated boyfriend. Bob wishes he was battery operated.

So many women are in that spot that they masturbate way too much with their vibrator, that they can’t even get off with a man anymore. So, the question today is, how much masturbation is too much, and when do you stop masturbating, and start building up your sex drive again?

There’s supposedly a penis growth lotion that you rub on, and your penis gets bigger. Really? I learned that when I was 12. It’s called masturbation. Go to your mother’s shelf, get some lotion, put it on your penis, rub it on and your penis gets bigger. I should’ve sold it when I was 12. I would’ve been a huge entrepreneur because I learned the trick of that when I was 12 years old. A little bit of lotion, a little bit of movement, penis got bigger.

It’s ridiculous the stuff they sell. Really, lotion that you rub on your penis will make your penis bigger. Put some lotion on the back of your thighs and cellulite goes away. There’s cream out there. Put it on your breast and your breast will grow one breast size. It’s amazing.

Is there going to be brain cream one day? I can rub it, I can shave my hair, rub it on my scalp, my brain will get bigger. What about arm cream? Can I get bigger arms? How about chest cream for men?

Folks, there’s no such thing as a shortcut in life. But yet, the world is full of people marketing these short cuts. You can’t cheat your way to better women or a bigger penis. You get rid of cellulite when you work out and you diet. Life is about working hard and not shortcuts.

But in relationships, the sex can get monotonous. Daily life gets in the way and everything else just kind of fades into the background. Do you ever get to a point in a relationship where you just feel like you’re stuck? You’re not hearing each other. You’re not connecting each other emotionally. You always know what you need when you hit that point in relationships.

What you need to do is get away from everything. Kids. Work. Bills. Day care. Diaper care. Whatever it is. Even if you have no family, you just need to get away from work, from your friends, texting, iPhones, all the distractions in life. You need to go on a fuckation.

That’s right: a fuckation. What’s a fuckation, you ask? It’s where you do nothing for 48 hours but fuck each other. You book a nice hotel online, and you get out of town for the weekend. Actually, you can do this anywhere. You don’t even need to get on an airplane or even leave town, really. You can just do this on the other side of town. You drive a half hour away. You pick a point. Say, “Honey, we’re going to drive for 30 minutes and once that 30 minutes is up we’re going to exit the first right and we’re going to find a hotel. We’re going to check in, and we’re going to do nothing but stay in bed, fuck, order room service, and have fun.

It’s called a fuckation because sometimes you just need to leave everything else behind and reconnect on the most basic level. Sometimes you need to stop all of life’s activities and really take the time to do nothing but enjoy one another without distractions.

So here’s what you need besides a hotel and a vehicle to get yourselves there: you need to bring some body lotions, some massage oils, some candles to set the mood. Lingerie too, even though it’s all about staying naked for 48 hours. No clothing allowed. The only thing you’re packing in your overnight bag is a toothbrush and clothing that you can return in. Actually, screw that. Don’t even pack that. Just return in the same clothes you wore on the way there.

The only things you pack in your overnight bag are fuckation toys. Adult toys. Bring a vibrator along, handcuffs, whatever floats your boat. Try out something new you’ve never tried before. Scented oils, bubble bath soaps, foot lotions for foot massages. Maybe a book you can read to each other while taking a bath. Maybe some Netflix DVDs to watch while you’re resting between marathon lovemaking sessions.

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Order as much room service as you want. Really spoil yourselves. But if you order food, make sure you include food that you can eat off each other. Order strawberries. Order chocolate syrup. Maybe bring a few bottles of wine or champagne. Maybe some liquor if you guys like doing shots—but if you do shots, make sure they are body shots off of each other. Try some tequila body shots, they’re great fun. You put a lime in your partner’s mouth and sprinkle a little bit of salt on your favorite part of their body. Lick the salt off their body, take the shot, and then suck the lime right out of their mouth.

Be creative on your fuckation. It’s all about letting loose and having sex. It’s all about reconnecting, having a blast with each other, and realizing that you don’t need anything else except for each other to keep you happy and satisfied. So let your imagination run wild. And no phones! Granted, for those of you who have kids you need to check up on, you can do that. But that’s it, and you can do so only after a nice, long love session.

If you’re stressed out, your relationship isn’t going that great and you’re losing touch with each other, you need to take a break and get away. So suggest to your partner that you need to take a fuckation. Tell them what the ground rules are. Make each lovemaking session last. Better yet, think of it as one long 48-hour love session. Take the time to massage one another from head to toe. Massage each other’s toes and fingers; take the time to get to know each other’s bodies all over again. When you slow things down and dedicate the time to one another, you’re going to discover each other in brand new ways. By the time you get home—in the same clothes you came in—sex is going to be far more interesting and a lot more fun, because you will have learned so many different things about each other sexually and some new exciting ways to turn each other on.

“Wow I need to get sexual with her right now so she gets turned onto me”

So you space out for a second and you stop listening to what she is saying.

You then go into deep thought moment and think.

“How can i stop this conversation right now and start talking sexual”

So she is in the middle of a great story, sharing with you her travels across the world and all of a sudden you stop her in mid sentence and change the flow of a great conversation to something sexual.

She looks at you and thinks.

What the @$%^ is this guy talking about?

How many more questions am I going to get about “escalation”? So many of you guys are really just stuck on Pua Island–or PUA, as you call it.

I been asked this question about 10,000 times: Hey David, how do you sexually escalate on the first date?

Well, here’s an option: you can sit there across from her like Chester Chester the Child Molester and stare at her and tell her how wonderful her little titties look and how that great little sweater she picked out for the day really cups her breasts. You can recite some ridiculous made-up story that you spent 15 hours infusing with subliminal sex words to trick her into bed with you. Or when she goes to the bathroom you can look at her and tell her how you can just picture her G-string and what you would do with it, how you’re going to rip it off with your teeth and use it as dental floss later on.

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Then, as she’s calling the police or texting her friends about the freak sitting across from her, you can apologize to her and say, “Gee, I’m so sorry for being such a pathetic pervert trying to escalate with you like a typical Pua.”

Or you can do what a man would do: you can look directly in her eyes, you can listen to her because you’re actually interested in who she is and what she’s all about as a person, and you can smile confidently because you’re having an amazing time together.

When she stands up to go to the bathroom, you can give her a sly look, an intriguing little smile, and she’ll wonder what the hell is going on in your mind. When she gets back, you can give her another smile again, and she’ll wonder what that smile is all about. You can continue to listen to her and share what’s really on your mind and build on the conversation, learn a little bit more about each other, actually talk to her and connect with her like a person. You can behave like a human being, like most people, instead of a sex-starved escalation machine.

Or you can continue to be some Pua wannabe, talking about how wet and hard you are and how you want to floss your teeth with her G-string after dinner.

That’s it for today.

Well, if he’s into the woman he’s with, what he’s really thinking is, “When can we do this again? Man, that was great! I’d love to do this again, it’ll be even better next time!” They’re actually looking forward to it.
I know when I have great sex, I’ll lay next to my woman and I’ll think to myself, “Man, I really want to do this again.” Or, “I wish I had lasted just a little bit longer because it felt so good and I wanted to keep going.”

When I was younger, I used to always think about whether or not she had an orgasm: “Hmm, I think she did, but I’m not quite sure… I can ask her. But wait, if I ask her, I’m going to sound really wimpy like I don’t know what I’m doing… argh.” A lot of men will think, “Did she come? Did she enjoy it? Was I good enough for her? Was I better than her previous lovers? Did she have as much fun as I did?”
Sex really is a blast. In years and years of having sex, I’ve learned one thing: Communication is the key. It’s okay to ask her, “How was that for you?” But not like an interrogation, like a scientist taking notes. The best way to ask her is to say, “Babe, I really enjoyed that. How was it for you? Is there anything you want to do differently next time? I really wanted to last longer because it felt so good.”

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Men’s minds travel in many different directions after sex. Granted, there’s the one-night stand where the man wants to do the Coyote Ugly, where he wants chew off his arm so he can leave without waking her up, where he basically just wished she’d turn into a remote control, where he hopes and prays that she doesn’t want to spend the night. Sure, there are those moments. And in those moments, and if both of you understand that you’re having a one-night-stand, the best thing to do is look at each other after sex and just say, “All right, let’s be honest. There was a lot of passion, a lot of heat, but we don’t really know each other. Is this a one-night-stand we’re having?”

You can laugh. Talk about it. Most of all, be honest, be receptive, and tell each other where you’re at right now. Don’t promise the phone number when you know you’re never going to call her. Be a man about it.
Women: as men, our minds go so many different directions when it comes down to sex. The bottom line is that if we’re into you, we want to know if you enjoyed it as much as we did. We want to know if there’s anything else we can do to make the next experience with you even hotter and more erotic.

So what am I talking about here? What is the power of the penis?

I have a question for all the guys reading this — and I want you to be 100% honest with yourself as you answer it. How many of you guys get rock hard the second you start making out with a girl? How many of you get rock hard the minute you see a woman naked?

How many of you get hard at the drop of a hat? You might thing that is the power of the penis, i.e., the power to get hard right away. In reality, I don’t think it is.

I think the fact that a lot of guys get hard right away makes women lazy. It really does, because women get used to that and used to the fact that they don’t have to do much of anything.

A woman doesn’t really have to worry about foreplay, because technically you are ramped, amped, and ready. So now you’re spending the majority of time getting her ramped up, and you are remaining hard the entire time because you lack the power of the penis.

I have talked to a lot of women, and I’ve found that they have no issues with men being able to get hard. They even admit that this makes them a bit lazy.

The Power Of The Penis

So you need to learn how to turn the tables. Just as a woman makes you work — and a woman does make you work building up her level of passion — it is perfectly okay to make the woman do a little work as well. Women require slow foreplay and building up their desire before you even go for the clit.

It’s called the power of the clit. If you go directly for the clit, a woman doesn’t like it because she’s not ready yet for that.

It’s funny when the roles are reversed, and the man possesses what I consider to be the power of the penis. Having the power of the penis means that your penis doesn’t stand at attention for just any little boob or kiss.

You are going to have to work him. You are going to have to earn it.

Make a woman earn your erection. Make her work for it just like you work to get her turned on and wet.

Make her kiss your neck. Make her kiss your body. Make her tease you. Make her earn your erection.

It is going to make her a far better lover. It’s also going to turn her on more in the long run than having you just stand there erect 24/7 like an American Flag.

So make her earn it. Learn to have the power of the penis.

Learn to control your erection. Learn to give her centimeter by centimeter, millimeter by millimeter, and inch by inch.

Make her earn your penis and work hard at it, because a lot of women are very lazy and they don’t want to work. By doing that you are going to have longer, more erotic and more enjoyable sex.

Granted, quickies are fine. Even for a quickie, though, make her earn it just a little bit.

Make her tell you how badly she wants you instead of just being erect and ready 24/7. That is understanding the power of the penis.

Let’s go a little further today and talk about sleeping with two people at the same time. I’ve got to admit, I’m guilty of it myself. While I was dating heavily in my 20s and even a bit in my 30s, I did sleep with two people at once. No, get your mind out of the gutter-I did not have a three-way. I wasn’t sleeping with two women at the same exact time, but I was dating and sleeping with multiple partners at the same time.
At the time, I found it fun. I found it exciting. I enjoyed it, but be forewarned that it’s not something for everybody.

Some people, even if they want to, just can’t do that emotionally, mentally, physically, whatever it might be. Some people think it’s what they want, but then they have trouble being truly intimate with either of the people they’re with. A lot of people also can’t keep track of it. One client of mine began sleeping with two women because he wanted to try it out, and we talked and worked on it, worked on a lot of the mind set that’s involved in it. And of course, in the middle of sex, he called out the wrong woman’s name. Some guys just aren’t built for it. Some guys need to focus their attention on one lover at a time.
I’m a firm believer in doing whatever you want. I really am. If you want to sleep with five people at once, if you want to have an alternate lifestyle with your spouse, if you have multiple sexual partners, I don’t care. You do what makes you happy. I’m not somebody who’s judging. I’m not here to tell you what to do with your life.

I’m somebody who can advise you. So if you really want to sleep with two people at once, you’d better have that personality, you’d better be able to keep track to what you said to each of them. Because it’s not fair to your partner if you blurt out, as my client did, the wrong woman’s name in the heat of passion. You may consider yourself a player, but I certainly don’t think it’s cool at all when you can’t keep track of what one woman is about on a deep level and then, during intimate conversations, you mix her up with another woman you’re sleeping with.

So, if you are sleeping with more than one woman at a time, I think you need to really be present with each of them at that moment and give them your full attention because it’s not going to last forever. Eventually, one of them is going to win out. Eventually, we all develop more feelings for one over the other.

When I was sleeping with multiple women, I worked at really doing this. I was always present with the woman that I was with. I always enjoyed her time. I always kept my story straight, and I always remembered what she was about, I remembered our intimate conversations because I really cared about understanding her. If I was sleeping with more than one woman, I was having a good time. I was enjoying it. I also knew that there was a possibility that one of them could win out over the other in the long run. One of them would just stand out more to me, and my relationship with the other would be less meaningful. Maybe they were sleeping with more than one man as well. What does it matter?

But what really matters here is you’ve got to keep it straight. You’ve got to understand yourself and your abilities. You’ve got to remember what happened with each one and keep each a very separate, beautiful moment. And that’s the mature way to make this happen.

Got a great one from somebody the other day that I really thought was worth posting, especially where there seems to be a common theme.

As you know, I will never post e-mails that you guys send me unless I have your permission. So I e-mailed this guy back and I told him I want everybody to know and understand and learn from your own experience, and he had no problem having me post it.

Here is a shortened version of what he wrote

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“Hey David, can you explain to me why I can’t get an erection when I’m with my girlfriend? I just need physical stimulation to get it up when we’re intimate. She has a lot more experience than me and she says all her past boyfriends would get hard just at the sight of her body. Plus, my penis is only 5.3 inches. I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve probably measured it more than 10 times this week. I really need to get these thoughts out of my head and figure out what’s going on…”

10 times?

You’ve got way too much free time on your hands if you’ve measured your penis more than 10 times this week. 5.3 inches—great, you know the exact amount too. Obviously you have no problem getting hard on your own. You’ve had 10 erections on your own this week? 10 boners that you were able to measure each and every time and you were able to get 5.3 inches?

Who cares how long your penis is? It doesn’t matter. What matters is how you hit the wall. What matters is how you please her, how you grind into her, how you perform in bed. It’s not the size, the way you move your hips, and even more so, the way you perform foreplay. (You can perfect the art of foreplay no matter how long or short your penis is, but that’s another blog for another time—we’ll get there too if you ask nicely )

Here’s the deal: the reason why you can’t get an erection when you’re with her is because your EGO is freaking out. Look at what you just wrote. “She has a lot more experience than me.” It’s actually bothering you that you’re with a woman that has a lot more experience than you. Your ego can’t handle it. Your male ego is wired to be annoyed by that. Your male ego wants YOU to be the one that has the sexual experience in the relationship, and not than the woman that you’re with. A lot of guys suffer from that, and it’s ok if that’s where you’re at right now. But it can mess you up, and you need to recognize what’s going on in your head and how you should be thinking.

I could care less when I sleep with somebody how much experience they have. In fact, I want them to have a ton of experience, otherwise I’m just going to get bored with them. I want them to know what they’re doing. I want them to bring new things to the table.

I want to learn stuff! It doesn’t matter.

Just be happy that she’s got the experience and she wants to use it all on you.
Now, your girlfriend also needs to grow up a little bit. All her past boyfriends would just get hard at the sight of her body? Great, but you’re not her past boyfriend. So that puts pressure on you. But, more importantly, it shows that she’s got no compassion for you and she doesn’t understand how to get you hard. You need physical stimulation. That’s great.

She should be willing, with all of her sexual experience, to stimulate you. What you need to do in this situation is have this conversation with her. Say, “Hey babe, I don’t get hard at the sight of your body. I think you’re absolutely sexy as hell and I’m really turned on to you. But I need physical stimulation, and it’s got nothing to do with you. So why don’t you take all that great experience and why don’t you show me how hard you can get me?”

Have fun with it. Communicate with her. That is key! I know you’re just intimidated. Your ego is playing with your mind, your ego is definitely, definitely keeping you in check right now and she knows it. You’ve got to really even the playing field out, and you’ve got to embrace her experience and allow her to get you really hard and excited.

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