Here is the answer: Who cares about what someone who rejects you thinks about you?

The only question that matters is asking how you feel about yourself. When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, how do you feel about yourself as a person?

We’re not in this world to please other people. Sometimes people just don’t connect with you. Sometimes people don’t resonate with what you said. Sometimes there is just no chemistry with another person.

So if you really love who you are, you practice a lot of self love, and believe in who you are as a person, then you will never feel rejected. If all you ever do is admire and respect yourself, then you will never walk away from a rejection feeling rejected.

I never feel rejected. If someone doesn’t like what I have to say or isn’t into what I have to say, then I’m fine with that.

Why am I fine with that? It is because there are so many other people with whom what I say does resonate, and I still love myself regardless.

So it all comes down to how you feel about yourself. If you are someone who spends their time trying to get approval and validation from others, it means that you do not feel secure enough about who you are as a person.

So you need to spend the time really getting to know yourself, respecting yourself, and loving and admiring yourself. Call it mental masturbation or, for those of you who are fans of Saturday Night Live, “Stuart Smalley” yourself.

What ever you call it, do it every single day. Do it and you will never be rejected again.

Hope everyone is having a fantastic Labor Day weekend! I can’t believe the summer is coming to an end. Today’s blog is great, as it is the best adventure you can have on this Labor Day.

One of the best things to do is to play tourist in your own town. Walk around your town on a Saturday and pretend that you’ve never been there before. Why? It will force you to ask for directions and recommendations and to converse with people that you haven’t talked to before.

Maybe you can make this an adventure with somebody. Pretend like you’ve never been there before. Not only will you meet interesting people, but you will also learn things about your town that you probably didn’t already know.

Just because you have lived somewhere your whole life does not mean that you know every restaurant! It doesn’t mean you’ve been to every little shop, or explored every nook and cranny.

By acting like a curious, lost tourist, you will be able to meet more people all day long. This builds your social network.

If you start connecting with a woman who lives in your town and you want to ask her out, you can say, “Give me your number. I’d love to get together with you. I live here, but I made a pact with myself today that I was going to re-explore my town. I’ve lived here my entire life and I wanted to feel like a tourist again. And since you were nice enough to share all of your information, I would like to take you out and show you one of MY favorite places.”

She’ll ask you which place is your favorite, and you can say “It’s a surprise! Give me your number and we’ll get together next week.” That is how you do it. Turn it into a game while still being honest.

At a recent Bootcamp a client asked me if I’d ever done this. I told him “Absolutely! It works really well.”

You’re not lying to them. You’re doing a social experiment on yourself. Also, it tells a woman that you are self-evolved.

You are showing her that you are a man that actually thinks outside the box. It takes a lot of guts to pretend to be a tourist.

How many times have you been with a woman who has complained that she hasn’t seen your vulnerable side? Pretending to be a tourist is a way to show a woman your vulnerability.

All right, let’s go take a walk! Enjoy your Labor Day!