Well, the first weekend of 2012 is officially here.  Have you made plans yet to set things into action and go out and meet people this weekend?  Have you made resolutions to master your communication skills, go on more dates, get laid more often?  Have you started seeing somebody new and now you’re looking to turn this into something real instead of just another failed relationship

Whatever it is your goals are, the only way to get it done is by starting off on the right foot and actually taking action.  Start off the New Year with the right positive energy by setting goals for yourself and then following through with baby steps.

Maybe you want to go out for 5 hours each day this weekend and talk to as many people as you can instead of staring at your computer or watching the football games and wasting away your weekend.  Maybe you want to go out and approach three beautiful women and start a conversation with each of them this Saturday, and then do the same thing again on Sunday.  Maybe you’ve had your eye set on the cute Starbucks girl that you’ve never had the guts to ask out and now you’re ready to say, “Fuck it” and tell her you think she’s cute.

Maybe you already have an exact picture of how you expect it to go down all planned out in your head.  Maybe you can picture right now exactly the way it’s supposed to happen.

Momentum Is Everything

Whatever your vision is, whatever your goals are, right now is the time to set the tone for the rest of the year.  Your goals may just be in your head as dreams, desires, or New Years resolutions right now.  But the only way to make them a reality is by making a commitment to yourself to put your internal goals into action.  Make that internal decision to go out this weekend and follow though on your plans.

Take little baby steps if your need to.  Tone it down.  Maybe you don’t have the skillset right now to go out on Saturday and randomly approach five women.  Start off by approaching one woman and see what happens.  Then the day after, approach two women.  Maybe you don’t have the confidence right now to ask out the Starbucks girl.  That’s fine.  Start off by engaging her in a 15 second conversation.  Start off just by smiling and saying, “Hi.”  It’s all part of a much bigger picture, and that picture is how you envision your social life to look like this year.

The main thing right now is to make a commitment to yourself to take action.  Give yourself your word, and then keep your own word.  Put one foot in front of the other and just start doing something.  Momentum is the name of the game.  Get a start on something, even if it’s just a little tiny baby step, because that is the first step in following through on the bigger picture of your commitments.

By following through on your commitments right now, this weekend, you are setting the tone for the rest of the year.  You are rolling the ball into action and it’s going to start gaining momentum.  Then the next day, you take another step and put your goals even further into action.  And further.

The last thing you want to do right now is sit at the office, think about doing something, and then go home, order Chinese food and watch  YouTube videos or read some pick-up e-book until midnight.

You need to do whatever it takes to get your ass into gear.  o get that one foot even just a few inches in front of the other.  Think about it—how do you want to set the tone for 2012?  Do you want to start off with a bang?  Do you want to start off with the great feeling of actually getting one step closer to your commitments?  Or do you want to start off the year by sitting around thinking about how you’re going to plan your strategy?  Because that’s a waiting game you can play with yourself forever.  And yes, you will be playing with yourself…forever.

If you need a pep talk, email me with where you’re at and what your goals are to shogo@davidwygant.com and I will personally hold you accountable to me and kick your ass into gear.

It’s all about momentum, so get that ball rolling guys.  Because once you’re in gear, you will be unstoppable.

I was at a friend’s house for a BBQ recently, and a few of them were planning on going out to bars that night. I started talking to two guys, really cool guys, who were asking me for tips on where to go out and meet women. One of them was in a relationship, so it was the other guy who wanted to meet somebody that night, maybe get some phone numbers.

I suggested some places for them to go out, and the two of them decided that the relationship guy was going to play the role of the wingman for the single guy. So we talked a bit about the “wingman” concept, and I told them some of my thoughts on what the wingman is for why I think having a wingman when you go out is a pretty goofy idea in first place.

For a lot of guys, having a wingman is necessary. They couldn’t imagine the thought of going out by themselves and having to meet people when they’re out alone.

When you rely on having a wingman when you go out at night, you’re basically treating your night out like a sport. It’s like a game, and the goal of the game is to meet some women, get a phone number, maybe hook up that night, whatever it is that you’re into. So in order to accomplish your goal, you need a teammate, a partner in crime, a like-minded cat who’s going to help you get there. In short, your wingman.

How To Find A Good Wingman

A wingman can serve several different purposes. He’ll hype you up to the person you’re talking to and make you look good. He’ll distract other people for you so that you can focus in on the woman you want to get to know. He’ll make it look like you actually have friends when you’re out meeting people and that you’re not a social outcast–social proof, as some like to call it. He’ll make you feel less awkward as you’re standing around scanning the room thinking about all the women you’d like to be talking to.

For all of you guys who are going out trying to meet women at night time, here are my thoughts on wingmen: get rid of the whole concept.

Try going out by yourself for once and see what happens. Why? Because it shows that you have confidence. You have the confidfence to go out at night by yourself, talk to and get to know whoever you want, and have a great time without the help of anyone else. You don’t worry about looking awkward. You don’t need someone to cover your ass, talk you up, or someone to stand there next to you so that you don’t feel so self-conscious.

Going out by yourself is ballsy. It shows that you don’t have to rely on the wolfpack to go out and have a good time, that you do whatever you want, and that don’t really care what other people think about you. Not only that, if you’re out without a wingman or without a group of guys, you HAVE to meet people. It’s like traveling by yourself–which is the only way I travel these days. When you walk through the world on your own, you’re forced to interact with others. You don’t have the excuse of huddling in the corner with the people you know, looking around all self-conscious and never talking to anyone new all night long.

Try it out this weekend. And let’s hear from you guys about what you think about wingmen.

And if you absolutely MUST have someone with you when you go out, if you’re not at the level yet where you feel comfortable by yourself, then go out with a person who you’re going to be able to have fun with. It doesn’t have to be the coolest person, or the guy who is really connected, or the one with the best pick up lines, or the best looking of all your friends–make it someone who you’re going to be able to really enjoy spending time with, someone who you feel good around and you can let loose and just have a blast with. That person is going to be your best bet for a wingman!

To me, I see comedies that are re-formulated as sequels as basically
trying to have a one-night stand with a woman you’re no longer dating.
The first movie was a relationship. The second movie just doesn’t
work. It’s just not as exciting, not as unpredictable and not as fresh
as it was the first time. Or the other way: Ever try to turn a
one-night stand into a relationship or into a regular booty call? It
just doesn’t work. That’s the reason why they’re called one-night
stands. That’s the reason why movies are called movies. They’re not
called sequels; they’re movies for a reason, a one-shot, one-deal
movie is far better. Show me new gags. Don’t show me the same stuff
all over again.

Hangover Part 2

“The Hangover Part Two” sounds awful. I won’t be seeing that nor, if I
were single again, would I turn any one-night stands into trilogies.
Can you imagine that? “One-Night Stand, the Sequel.”

It is called one night stand for a reason. Not two-night stand, not
three-night. And the only comparison to “The Hangover” is that most of
the time you are left with a bad hangover the next day!

Let me ask you a question. Let’s say that this weekend, you had two options.

Option one is hanging out with your usual group of friends — talking the usual talk, dissing each other’s relationships, talking about frustrations in trying to meet people, and really just having the same old conversations over and over.

Option two is to spend 48 hours with someone you were really attracted to — emotionally and physically — and really desire. The catch is that this person is someone you’ve never met. Let me explain further.

This person would be someone you’ve not only never met, but the type of person you always dreamed of meeting. They would be the type of person who turns you on in every way — sexually, emotionally, mentally — and gives you goosebumps. They are the type of person you would want to keep forever and ever.

Of course, like many things, option two has a catch…

That person is going to be moving permanently to Siberia after they spend that 48 hours with you. They need to disappear in the wilderness and never be seen or heard from again.

Flight 40 To Siberia

You of course would be disappointed, because over the course of that weekend you would get super attached. You met the perfect person and you wanted more.

So what would you do? Which option would you pick?

You would be able to spend a weekend with that perfect person and experience all the amazing feelings you’d be open to feeling, but would you be okay with the ending?

What would you really do?

I’ve asked this question to a lot of people, and their answer is always the same. Of course they would pick option two, but they are going to be devastated at the end.

The reality is, though, that they would not be devastated at the end — and neither would you. The reality is that you would grow from that experience. You would learn so much from that experience.

You’re going to experience something you’ve never experienced before. You’re finally going to have that “benchmark” where you know what it feels like to truly let go with no expectations, no issues and no outcome driving you.

For those of you who chose option one, you’re living your life full of fear. The point of life is to experience and to be present every day. The more you experience, the more you feel and the more open you become. The more you do this, the greater your life is going to be.

You either became a total mute paralyzed by fear or you teased her so no one knew about your secret crush.

Well some of you still suffer from the extreme mental paralysis that we call monkey chatter.

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The weekend is an illusion. Boy, this blog is going to put all of you in another mode of thinking…

I’m going to tell you something that is absolutely going to blow you away: 52 weekends a year. 104 days. (Well actually, it’s probably more than 104 days because there are a few three-day weekends thrown in.) So what does that give us? 107 days.

107 days of the year are pure illusion. 99.99% of the world only tries to meet people on the weekends. I totally made that percentage up, but the sentiment is true: the majority of the people in the world live for the weekend.

And what they do on the weekend is the same thing every time – they expect, they want, they desire, and they wish to meet somebody. They think to themselves that this weekend will be different than the last one.

A lot of you even plan out your weekend the Monday before. Do you know why you start planning next weekend by Monday? Because last weekend was yet another disappointment. Last weekend was yet another weekend where you didn’t meet somebody.

So what are you doing? You’re plotting out the following weekend, thinking that things will be different.

Do you know why the weekend is an illusion? Because you’ve never done anything different to change your way of thinking! You haven’t plugged yourself into anything – you haven’t even TRIED to plug yourself into anything.

I believe you can meet people during the week – any time, any place. It doesn’t matter where it is. For those of you who have dug into my products, you know it’s 100% true. For those of you who have attended a bootcamp, you’re out there every day meeting people left and right.

But so many of you still think that the weekend is going to deliver. You believe in the TV show Friday Night Lights – Friday night is going to come… and go. Most Friday nights come and go with the same results. And then you wake up on Saturday and go on the hunt. You become a hunter on the weekends.

Men are hunters, women are deniers. Men will go out there and try to chase women all weekend, because the illusion is that they will find a woman with the same skills they have always had.

Women are in denial. So they pretend that they don’t want to meet men. “Oh, we’re going to this bar right now because we don’t want to meet men. We’re just going here to hang out with friends.”

Really? You like loud bars with annoying guys drooling on you like wolves? That’s where you want to go to hang out with your friends? I don’t buy it. The fact of the matter is this: you can deny it all you want, but you go out and wish that a man would rescue you from your singledom.

So the weekend is an illusion because you don’t do anything during the week. You have to start doing things during the week. You have to start doing things 15 minutes per day to meet somebody.

I meet more people during the week than I ever do on the weekends. The weekend is just like New Year’s Eve – it’s Amateur Night. When you go out on Friday and Saturday nights, you’re hanging out with all of the amateurs. The majority of people who go to bars on Friday and Saturday nights have no clue how to meet people in a bar. That’s the illusion of the bar.

There’s a blog I wrote a while ago, and I said, tell me your age, and then tell me the number of people you’ve met in a bar and then dated. Which number is greater? Is your bar age greater than your real age?

You have to wake up from this weekend illusion. Wake up and realize that in order to meet somebody spectacular, you have to work for it every day.

You can’t just have a career on the weekends. “I’m just not going to do anything all week and have my career on the weekends. Just on Saturdays and Sundays, that’s it. And not even really Saturdays and Sundays – actually, just Friday nights and Saturday nights. So I’ll work four hours per week, and develop this great career.”

Do you know where you would be if you only worked four hours a week? You’d be living under a bridge in a cardboard box. You wouldn’t be in the house that you’re in right now.

So you’d better start rethinking things, because the weekend is just an illusion.

Today we are going to talk about how to keep the conversation going. Its friday and heres a hint.

Have you ever had anyone say cool to you in the middle of a conversation?

Wait till you see what cool really means.