This morning, I was walking down the street with my dog Daphne. It’s simply an absolutely beautiful day today, and we’re just walking down the street and I just started talking to people. When you let the weather and the environment inspire you, you get in the most interesting conversations.

So many people don’t take advantage of the beautiful days of summer and they spend all this time not talking to people and spending all this time at home. Were you one of those people this summer?

If you were, you need to start getting into more conversations. Ask people if they’re enjoying the great weather as much as you are. Relax. Go to a cafe. Sit outside and bring your work to the cafe with you. If you get stuck in traffic, roll your window down, smile and wave to the person stuck in traffic next to you. Yell something fun and lighthearted over to them, be playful have fun and keep in mind the weather is going to turn cold soon and you will wish that you took advantage of the great weather.

If you are looking to relax when you are in NYC do not stay at the Hudson Hotel. The rooms are shoebox small, the halls are dark and make you feel like you are staying in a mental facility!

But the worst part is you have to walk through all the drunken people to get to the elevator and your room which leads me to my next highlight. As we were walking through the lobby we had to avoid a guy who thought having a 3 way would be a great idea that night.

No kidding here, my girlfriend and I had to run away from him after he he tried to dance with us in the bar.

Quite a funny scene and we spent the weekend laughing about our new found friend.

Guys when a man and his girl are nice to you that is not an invitation to play in the bedroom.

Some men really need to read this blog more and learn that when a woman is nice it does not mean SEX!!

The rest of the weekend was quite relaxing walking around the city and enjoying the sights and sounds of NYC.

So lets talk about how to really connect with people.

Everyone you talk to – I don’t care if it’s a man, a woman, a child, or a dog – take away three things about them.

If you find out three things about someone, and you have emotionally connected with them and they’ve shared these things with you – the next time you see them, you can say, “so how’s your mom doing in her real estate business?” Or, “hey, look, it’s Fluffy the Golden Retriever! Is he still chewing on his foot?”

Most men are, in my opinion, walking penises. They’re just walking around with their groin leading them, and their penis says, “Oh look, hot woman” and directs their attention there.

So then when they walk over to her, their penis is the one doing the talking: “Um, hi… I’m just killing 30 seconds here because I really want to get your phone number…” And guess what? The hot woman can tell!

But if you go up to her, find three things out about her, and then leave, you can say, “It was so amazing talking to you about Italian roast coffee. See you later, Coffee Girl!”

All of a sudden, the woman is so connected to you – because you’re using your mind, and not your dick.

Men don’t realize that women do want your penis, but they want your mind first. They go for the big head first, and the little head second! And once they get your big head, they’ll adore the little one!

Let me ask you all a question: how many years have you been telling yourself that? How many years have you told yourself that, and how many years have you actually dropped the weight?

And why are you waiting?

Why are you waiting to start an exercise routine that you could have done years ago? Why are you doing this? Why are you always waiting for things?

It’s funny. If you look at life, a lot of people who tend to want to lose weight are people who put off other things in their lives as well – they are procrastinators. These people are always thinking that they’re just waiting for a good time.

I coached a guy once who wanted to lose twenty pounds. He told me, “As soon as I lose this weight, I’m going to start talking to women.” So I let him buy into his excuse for a little while. He was on an exercise plan, and I said, “Why don’t we start the coaching when you’ve lost the weight?”

So he loses the weight, and a month later he comes to me with a new excuse. He said,
“Now that I’ve lost the weight, I’m going to start talking to women as soon as I buy a new wardrobe.”

Are you one of those people who just pile one excuse on top of another? As soon as you lose the weight, you’ll start meeting people. But then you lose the weight, and you decide that you have to buy a new wardrobe before you start meeting people. Once you buy the new wardrobe, you go ahead and pile another excuse on.

But in reality, if you want to lose weight, or start meeting people of the opposite sex, you have to start doing that today! You have to start taking action today.

Why are you waiting for everything? What are you waiting for? Do you want to be a waiter in life? That’s what I call you guys – you’re waiters. You’re always just waiting for the “perfect moment.”

There is never going to be the “perfect moment.” How many times have you seen a woman that you’re attracted to and you’ve waited for the “perfect moment” to approach her?

There she was, walking to the bathroom. You decided you were going to meet her by the bathroom and casually bump into her.

Guess what? You and ten other guys have been thinking about that same perfect moment. You and ten other guys waited for that perfect moment, and you all collided like a bunch of stooges at the bathroom door, looking like fools.

There is no perfect moment. Get out and start now!

You’re always going to be full of excuses. I have found that people who procrastinate now will always procrastinate – unless they step it up and start new things every day.

Do you want to lose weight? Get out there and start losing weight TODAY.

Change your diet. So many people want to lose weight, but they refuse to change their diet. Or they don’t exercise regularly.

Or maybe you’re into the fad diets – you’re on your tenth or eleventh fad diet, but you’ve never exercised. And you just can’t figure out why you’re not losing weight. But you’ve never done a combination of diet and exercise.

It’s about making those changes. So stop the excuses and procrastination!