Now before you jam my in-box with emails for next week. I want to set the record straight.

If you want your email to be the one that is turned into the podcast, it would make my life easier if you posted on the blog.

That way everyone can see the posting and get involved in the conversation as well.

Here is today’s winning email.

“I have been listening to your podcasts and I wanted to bring up something that has hurt my dating life for years. I was raised by a overprotective mother and I was a chunky little girl as a child with very little fashion sense. I didn’t know how to talk back to people and defend myself and I was subsequently harrassed and bullied for much of my childhood up to high school. Safe to say that this took a huge toll on my self esteem and self image. Much of the problem today stems from the fact that the ones who teased me the most were the handsome jock types. While I find these men very attractive today I have the hardest time making eye contact with them. If I see a attractive man walking towards me it takes a extreme amount of will power and mental proding to look at them and attempt to smile. I know this is a defense mechanism from when I wanted to avoid the bullies attention when I was little but this has stuck with me today and it is extremely hard to stop doing it.

I am almost 27 now and in better physical shape than when I was 16, I figure skate and attend regular exercise classes but I still have a hard time thinking that I am attractive. I can still hear the bullies voices in my head sometimes and it is extremely difficult to overcome. I know I am much older and have a very thick skin because of my childhood but after awhile the behavior of looking away became so ingrained I don’t know if I will really ever get rid of it. I know body language is extremely important when trying to talk to someone you find attractive but aside from tripping and falling on the person I find attractive I am not sure how to break this habit and show that I want to talk to them. I am not sure I can manage to smile at them once let alone 3 times. Is there any advice you could give me to break this lifelong habit?

Erin, Cleveland, Ohio”

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David Wygant’s “Self Love” For Women

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Did this year work out the way you wanted it to?

Or are you ready to quit, pack it in, and start all over with some ridiculous New Year’s Resolution?

Let me be upfront with you.

Nothing is going to change when the New Year hits. You’re going to be the same person and if you desire to make a change than that time is now!

I call this end of year momentum.

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Are you somebody who sits around and talks about what you need? You’re in a bad financial situation so you need money, but yet you’re the one who put yourself in that situation in the first place with the energy you project.

Yes, we all need money. Money is great — it buys freedom, the “things” we want, it allows us to take vacations and it pays the bills. When you walk around needing it, wanting it and desperate for it, however, you won’t get it.

Are you a woman who is really tired of dating, and just wants to be able to settle down and start a family? Your energy’s vibe is want, want, want, need, need, need. Your energy is projecting your desperation for marriage and a family.

So when you go out on a date, you will project that energy. You might notice you are getting a lot of first dates, but not a lot of second dates.

On dates, do you talk about need, need, need and want, want, want, want? Do you talk about what you lack in your life right now? Do you talk about how you want marriage and children?

That will scare any man away. It will scare any person away. If you’re a man doing that to a woman, it would scare her away too.

Are you somebody who just really wants to get laid? Are you constantly thinking, “I want to get laid. I need to get laid. I just have to get laid.” When you have this energy, you will notice that you never seem to have sex and you never seem to meet anybody.

When you go out are you just so desperate that you want to meet someone — anyone — today? That energy you are bringing out with you is desperate energy.

No one wants to be around desperate energy. It is a turn off. Period.

There are so many people out there who, instead of spending time focusing on the things they have in life, are completely desperate for the things that they lack.

Granted, you might be a 40 year old woman who isn’t currently married and doesn’t yet have any children. There may not be anyone “on the horizon” at the moment. What do you have in your life right now though?

Maybe you don’t have children, but think about all the amazing things that you have accomplished as a person. Think about all the people and the other relationships you have in your life.

Are you a 28 year old guy who hasn’t ever had much success with women? Maybe you have gone to an occasional hooker to get laid.

Do you think about what you’re lacking or missing in your life, or do you think about what you have and what you have accomplished in your life.

To attract people in life — whether it’s romantically, in business, as friends or in any other way — you have to have an open energy. Having desperate energy won’t ever attract anyone.

To learn how to have open energy, you have to start somewhere. You have to start with the basics.

So many people walk around with desperate or angry energy. That kind of person is the last person with whom I ever want to hang out.

So change your focus. Stop thinking about what you lack, and start focusing what you have.

We started talking about life, women and all the things about which guys usually talk. Then we started talking about sex.

Specifically, we started talking about the differences between how men and women view and react to sex. For example, a man can leave the house at 7:00 am, go off to work for twelve hours, come home and mow the lawn. If at 11:00 pm his partner says she wants sex, what will the man do?

Even if he’s had a long day, the man is going to rally. He’s going to have sex, because a man never turns down sex.

A woman can have the same twelve hour day — whether it’s working outside the home or taking care of the kids. She will put the kids to bed at 7:00 pm, and her partner may try to initiate sex at 9:00 pm.

Many woman in that situation will say that it’s been a long day and she’s too tired to have sex. A woman will turn down sex. Men will never turn down sex.

What I find so funny about this is that women have multiple orgasms. Why would you ever turn down sex if you can have multiple orgasms?

Men have one orgasm. Women can have two, three, four and even five orgasms.

If men had multiple orgasms, they wouldn’t get anything else done. They’d be orgasming the day away and enjoying themselves, and they’d never be able to get any work done.

Forget about household chores. Forget about going to work. Forget about getting the kids off to school. A man would be having sex 24/7.

It is kind of unfair how things are. That’s life though.

When a woman is tired, she tends to say no to having sex. If a woman asks a man for sex, he will never turn down sex no matter how tired he is. We really need to line up the sexes a little better.

You’re out in public and you hear a loud bang, or you hear someone yell “Hey!” and it startles you. You’re just always on edge, and you always feel like you’re on edge. You just feel like you can’t relax no matter what.

The reason why you can’t relax is because you’re in your head so much. You’re always thinking.

You’re always thinking about what you don’t have in life. You’re always thinking that other people are judging you or criticizing you. This makes you jumpy because you feel like the world is against you.

For some odd reason, you feel like it’s you against the rest of the world. That is so wrong because, in truth, the rest of the world doesn’t give a shit about you at all. The rest of the world is not thinking about you, obsessing about you or talking about you. Nobody is talking about you . . . ever.

Despite what you have conjured up in your mind, when you walk into a college classroom, all of the girls don’t start talking about you. They don’t start whispering to each other, “Look who’s here – jumpy boy.” When you walk into your office, everyone is not talking and whispering about you saying, “Look who’s here, insecure man.” When you walk into Starbucks, the barista behind doesn’t turn to the barista next to him and say, “Oh my God, there’s the guy girls always blow off.”

Do you know why people THINK any of these things are actually happening? It is because people are so self-absorbed and they only think about themselves.

Other people are not thinking about you or worrying about what is happening in your life. They are thinking about themselves just like you are thinking about yourself.

So if you are jumpy and cannot relax, you need to get a physical outlet. Go dancing, do a yoga class, go for a run or go workout. Do something to calm yourself down. Go for a long hike or walk. Get a cat or a dog.

Do something that will relax you. That way, when you go out you will always have a feeling of relaxation about you and your energy will be much better.

Stop being jumpy. The world is not after you, and the world is not against you. The world is actually there for you to conquer and to enjoy.

This weekend you are going to encounter large groups of women hanging at the beach, BBQ, Mall, Lake and anywhere else but at your home!

So this weekend is a great 3 day weekend to get out of the house and meet some fun sexy smart women.

So how do you do this.

You watch this.

Then you go out and apply what you just learned while it is still fresh in your mind!

Now if you are really serious about meeting great women and you are tired of all the excuses.

Then the next step is to click here and check this out!

My response is this: It’s very easy, because I am not censored. I don’t censor myself.

I basically see something and I walk right over to it. It’s almost like when you were a little kid and you first learned how to catch a ball.

Your dad would be standing there, you would be standing there holding out the glove. Your dad would wind up, and your legs would be shaking as the ball came toward you.

What would you do? You would essentially put the mitt out in front of the ball to try and catch it, or you would cover your face and let the ball hit you in the head (depending on your athletic ability).

In reality, though, all you had to do was allow yourself to react to each pitch as it came toward you. That’s the same thing you have to do with conversation situations.

All I do is allow myself to react to every single situation. I don’t monitor myself. I don’t censor myself. When I see something, I react to it and it comes across as being very genuine.

The problem with most guys is that they’re always over-thinking, trying to figure out what to say or how to say it. By doing that, it never comes across as natural.

You can’t stand there for five or ten minutes before finally spitting out what you hope is the “right thing” to say. It’s so awkward. There is so much apprehension because you spent so much time trying to figure out what the right thing to say is.

There is no right thing to say. It’s the way you own the words and the way you speak. It’s the way you come across.

You can say anything, as long as you say it right away and you say it with authority. When you do that, you are going to command attention. It’s just the way it is.

If you want to really learn this, one of the best things to do is go to any city and look at homeless people. Look at the ones who get attention and who get money. They are the ones who go to people and say, “Hey, you look like you’re having a great day today.” Watch homeless people and learn from them.

It’s not the big things that make women happy, it’s paying attention to the little details and showing you care that is really meaningful to them. Women are really simple. They don’t need lavish gifts – they need to know you’re thinking about them.

Here are some ideas to get you started doing these “little things” your woman really wants:

1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night instead of having her make you dinner. Don’t ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Open the bottle of wine instead of sitting there on the couch waiting for her to open it. Get up and open it yourself.
4. Light the candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
5. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her “I miss your smile from this morning” or “Last night was amazing!” or “The conversation we had last night was great.”
6. Send a free ecard in the middle of the day . . . something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.
7. If she’s going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.
8. Let her have control of the remote control. Don’t monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
9. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner instead of her being your live-in maid.
10. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don’t just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet – Clean it up! Clean up. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
11. If you work out together, offer to train her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
12. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
13. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don’t just say you’ll give her a massage . . . do it!
14. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her “We’re going out tonight honey.” You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It’s taking the initiative that’s important.
15. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date like when you first started dating.
16. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don’t wait for her to call you.

It’s very simple to keep women satisfied. It’s not about what you give them financially or what gifts you give them. That’s a cop out. It’s the little things. The guys who make the biggest mistake are the ones who ignore their woman then all of a sudden give them an expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn’t make up for it at all.

This simple technique can be used today to meet a woman tonight or more important right after you watch this video.

Watch and then get out from behind the computer and do this!!

In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.

This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.

Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.

You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.

In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.

Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.

There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.

A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.

That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.

Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.

Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).

Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.

The lesson here guys? Walk away.

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