The first story I saw was about a catfight between Kate Hudson and Cameron Diaz. Cameron Diaz is apparently now dating Alex Rodriguez (aka A-Rod). I think that Cameron Diaz and Kate Hudson used to be friends, but according to this article they now hate each other because A-Rod is Kate Hudson’s ex-boyfriend and she is angry that Cameron Diaz is now dating him.

This story got me thinking. Why do we feel the need to be possessive about our exes?

This isn’t just a celebrity thing either. In my business, I get tons of emails from people saying things like, “Boy, I really like a friend of mine’s ex. They broke up a year ago and I’d really like to start dating her, but I don’t want to ruin the friendship with my friend.”

I don’t know about you, but if any of my friends want to date one of my exes then my feeling about is “Go for it!” I love my exes. I love my friends. They are all great people. So it would be wonderful if they got together.

I’m friends with both of them. Even if I wasn’t friends with both of them, my exes aren’t my possession anymore.

So many people, though, act like their exes are their possessions. Their feeling about anyone going out with one of their exes is, “How dare you date my ex! I won’t be friends with you anymore if you date my ex.”

I grew up in a divorced home, and I remember how my parents’ friends took sides after my parents got divorced. They became either “Mom’s friends” or “Dad’s friends.” My Mom and Dad could not both be friends with any of them. Don’t forget that we’re talking about a bunch of adults here.

One of my best friends lost a friend he’d had for thirty years after his divorce. That friend decided he could only be friends with one of them after the divorce, and decided to be friends with my friend’s ex-wife.

Your exes are not your possession. You have no right to them, and no say about whom they date or what they do. They can date whomever they want.

Granted, it would not be great if your friend started dated your ex the day you broke up. If they run into each other three or four months later and felt an attraction to each other, though, then they may be a match and should be able to date each other.

Why are you going to ruin it for them? You don’t own your ex (or your friend), and you have no right to tell either of them that they can’t date each other.

As we all know, chemistry is hard to find. Great love is hard to find.

So if your ex falls in love with your best friend, can you be mature enough to still be friends with your best friend or would you tell your friend to choose sides like a five year old? You’ve heard my thoughts on this, and now I’d like to hear from all of your thoughts on this.

Anyway, there’s a new store that’s opened up on that street called “California Herbal Remedies” where you can get a 20% vanilla cake or even a 30% chocolate brownie that’s guaranteed to make your head spin for the entire day. All this can be yours if you go to a clinic, tell them you hurt your shoulder and say that Advil has stopped working to alleviate the pain.

Let me just say this: I’m all for the legalization of marijuana. I’ve never met someone who was high who acted like an asshole. On the other hand, I’ve met many a person who acted like an asshole when they were drunk. There should be a warning label on alcohol bottles that reads “Warning: Consumption of this fluid may turn you into an asshole.”

So, it was no surprise that the biggest crowd was outside California Herbal Remedies last night. It was, after all, the store with the best munchies. Big shock!

Alright, let’s talk about why people get wasted. They do it with the hopes of getting Lucky in love.

On the topic of luck, can you really get “lucky in love?” Is there a way to get lucky in love? Does getting “lucky in love” really exist?

I’m going to tell you something right now that’s going to blow your mind: You can absolutely be lucky in love! Here are five ways to ensure you will be lucky in love:

1. Hard Work Plus Opportunity Equals Luck: In order to get lucky in love, you need to put the effort into going out there and meeting people. You need to go out and talk to people. You need create the opportunity for luck to happen to you. Luck only happens when hard work meets opportunity. Thomas Jefferson said it perfectly when he said “I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

2. Luck In Love Finds Those Open To Love: The reason why people are lucky in love is because they’re open to love. What I mean by “open to love” is that they are out there talking to people every single day and being okay with letting people know they’re single. If you want to get lucky in love, be open to other people trying to find you love. Open yourself up a little bit, and stop being so closed off to others taking a role in creating luck in your love life. When you meet somebody and they ask you if you’re single, stop looking at it like it’s a plague or disease and say “Yes I am. Do you know of anybody great you think I should meet?” In order to get lucky in love, you need to expand your horizons.

3. Luck In Love Comes To Those Willing To Give A Bit Of The Unknown A Try: In order to get really lucky in love, you should also use the power of your network to help create that luck for you. For instance, you can use online dating in a new way to create luck in your love life. Here is a little trick that I used to use all the time when I was dating online. When I would meet someone online with whom I didn’t end up having a connection but who I thought was a great person, I’d make a suggestion. I’d say “I don’t know about you, but I’m getting sick of all these coffee dates. Why don’t we get a whole group of our friends together and see if any magic (or luck) can happen.” This is yet another way to create luck in your love life . . . and possibly in the life of someone else.

4. Luck In Love Is The Product Of Persistence: If you want to get really lucky in love, you have to realize that luck is the product of persistence. You will have to put consistent effort in and be willing to be persistent in not giving up on the search for love. When you are persistent, you will be rewarded with luck in love. The truth is that you’re not going to find a four-leaf clover or a little leprechaun to help you get lucky in love. It’s really up to you. It’s really all about the power of your network. How strong is your network and how big can you build your network to become? As I said in #3 above, are you trying things that create opportunities to bring people into your life and into your network? When you do, you will be lucky in love.

5. Luck In Love Comes To Those Who Are Already In Love: This probably sounds a bit puzzling at first read, but let me tell you what I mean. In order to really be lucky in love, you need to first love yourself. You need to really believe in yourself. You need to stop letting fears and excuses keep you from being open to love. You need to stop making excuses. You need to stop saying things like “I’m a 47 year old woman and men don’t want women my age” or “I’m 20 pounds overweight and no woman is going to find me attractive.” You have to believe that you are a gift – a gift that’s worth giving and a gift worth receiving.

Today I have a question that I want all of you to answer.

Do you believe in Unconditional Love?

Now I am not talking about loving a child a pet or a sports team!!

I am talking about loving everything about another person, loving them so much that you know in your heart and soul that you have met the person that you can grow old with.

We are talking having every need satisfied with them.

Great sex…..great conversation….emotional support and your best friend.

I think you get the point but what I want to know is.

Do you believe in this kind of love and have you ever experienced this and what happened to that love?

Yourself.

How can somebody love you if you don’t love yourself? How can someone respect you if you don’t respect yourself?

You need to be in love with yourself. I like to call it “masturbation of your soul.” You have to fall in love with yourself first.

When you go out and do things everyday to meet women or men, you’re going out each day really enjoying yourself and loving yourself. You love what you do and love the moment so that you can create the energy within yourself to attract other people.

I love myself! I really do. Sure, there are things that I don’t like about myself – but I embrace those things, and I work on them. Overall, I’m totally in love with myself!

There are always going to be things that you don’t like about yourself. But first you have to accept that they exist. Once you accept those parts of you that you wish were gone, you’ll begin to accept yourself as a whole and love yourself entirely.

At this point, you can work on yourself from a much better place. Rather than being so critical and self-judgmental, you can really embrace yourself and who you are and learn from the lessons in your life. You can learn to embrace the whole beauty of what your life is.

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But there’s something interesting that I want to bring up to everyone on the blog. As many of you know, I’m not really in to New Year’s resolutions – I think that they are a crock of shit. They are just a complete waste of time.

Everyone always makes 10 or 11 New Year’s resolutions – and of course they are going to be broken! You’re trying to do too many things. I bet most of you have already broke most of the resolutions and we are only 12 DAYS into the year!!

I was talking to some clients the other night and I told them that what I like to do is to choose a theme for the year. I know if I concentrate on a theme, I’ll make things happen. I’m going to start believing in that theme.

I remember one year – I think it was 2004 – my theme was patience and trusting the universe. I wanted to put my trust in the universe in everything I did. I wanted to allow things to happen on their own terms. I didn’t want to force anything.

When I was in the business world, when I would lose a client I would be totally bummed out. If I didn’t have a good month, I’d start stressing out, wondering if things would get better.

A wise friend of mine, told me I needed to start trusting the universe. If you trust the universe, everything that you want will manifest. Things will start to happen because you are no longer suffocating the energy. You aren’t putting too much pressure on things and you are allowing them to unfold in their own time.

Trusting the universe means having the abundance principle. If you embody the abundance principle, people will start becoming attracted to you and they will want to meet you or do business with you.

So in 2004 I worked on trusting the universe and being patient. Then, in 2005, after I learned how to be patient, I started working with the theme of abundance. I started working with the theme of abundance in every facet of my life.

And by the end of 2005, everything was abundant for me. Business was great, the people in my life were great – I had no complaints.

So what did I want to work on in 2006? In 2006, my theme of the year was living in the moment. I wanted to embrace and be present in every moment. I didn’t want to think about the future of everything; I just wanted to embrace every little moment of life.

I wanted to learn about the gift of life. I wanted to embrace it. I wanted to be present every moment and I didn’t want to have to think about what I had to do tomorrow or what tomorrow would bring. I didn’t want to think about the past either. I just wanted to be in that moment.

And by doing that, each moment that I was truly present helped create another moment that I could embrace. It’s all about living in the moment. It’s all about staying focused, positive and having abundance.

All of these themes work really well together as well. This is what you need to do: you need to choose themes for your life.

What was the theme I chose for 2007 and 2008? To continue to live the life that I love. I’m really living the life that I love every day. I want to thank myself every day for this amazing life. I want to thank the people that I work with every day for the amazing job that they’ve done. I want to thank all of the people in my life for what they offer.

It’s about being 100% in tune with what is going on in the world so that you are able to put all of these principles and themes together.

By now, the 12th of January 2009, you all know that you’ve totally screwed up your New Year’s resolutions because you chose too many things.

Start concentrating on one thing. Life is a marathon – it’s not a sprint. It is about being able to go the distance. If you can go the distance in life, you’ll be able to accomplish everything you hope to.

The problem is that many people try to master too many things at one time. Rather than concentrating on one thing, they try to learn too many small things at once.

If you are a fast learner, you could concentrate on having a new theme every month or every three months. But you need to do this work in order to have an amazing life and attract great people into it.

What is your them for the year?

Do you know what mine is?

I have a theme just for the day.

I want to break the record we set last week with 300 responses to last Mondays blog.

So start typing folks!!!

Don’t watch the movie; just listen to the movie and watch them.

When the leading character screws up – because that’s what we do, we don’t say what we should have, and we screw up. It’s the Hugh Grant moment where he realizes, why didn’t I tell her that I loved her at that moment? He’s just sitting there with his friends at a pub, and he realizes it.

And then he sees her out, and he still can’t tell her. When he finally goes and does it, watch the women’s reaction. Forget about watching the actors on screen; watch the reactions of the women in front of you.

Watch the way they sink down into their seats and almost sigh. Why do they do this?

Because all they want is for somebody to do that to them.

Every time I’ve ever been with a woman, I’ve had to claim her. Women will make it difficult, and they will test you. They will test you to make sure that you can be 100% vulnerable with them.

She tells you that she broke up with her boyfriend of two years and she called you. Now she’s sitting in front of you, looking into your eyes and telling you how hot everything is. You have to grab her right then and say, “ I have been thinking about you for the last year,” and just spit it out.

Many guys will try to avoid sounding needy. That doesn’t sound needy – it’s the truth! Speak the truth. You can stand behind the truth, and you’ll never have to backtrack.

You should never have to regret not doing something: I should have done this or I should have done that. That shoulda-woulda-coulda game will kill you. You want to eliminate the shoulda-woulda-couldas from your life entirely.

Don’t think, I should have done this, I could have done that. Some guys at the end of a bootcamp tell me, “I should have done this a year ago!” No, you weren’t ready. There’s that old saying, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” You just weren’t ready, and that’s okay.

I probably should have bought a house in 2002 when they were dirt-cheap. I had the money to pay the mortgage and loans were certainly easier to get. But I just wasn’t educated enough and I didn’t do it. Now I’m paying double for it.

You pay for your lessons a few years down the road. It might be in lost time, but it doesn’t matter. You did it when you did it. Don’t worry about the time that you didn’t do it – just do it now! There is never going to be “perfect” timing for anything.

I had one guy tell me he was going to wait for a while to do a bootcamp. What are you waiting for? Just do it! Make the decision and do it. Do it, own it, and be okay with it.

It’s all about being vulnerable. You don’t think I’m vulnerable? I have 210 videos on YouTube, and the shit that people write under those videos…

It’s at the point now that sometimes when I do a video that will be posted on YouTube, I will even look at the camera and say to them, “alright you people who think that this is funny or those of you who don’t understand try to open your mind!”

I put myself out there every single day. I write, I post videos – and these videos are often shot in my house, sometimes I’m even stuttering.

In response to a video I posted called “How to Appear Confident When Meeting Women,” some guy today wrote, “David, you’re so wrong. How to APPEAR confident? You have to BE confident to meet women!”

No, if you have no confidence, you have to fake that confidence first. He missed the point of the entire video, and he was giving me a lecture.

I love people who don’t want to post their profile on match.com: “oh my god, what if someone sees me?” Great, then they can walk up to you and ask you, “aren’t you on match.com?” and you can have an opening conversation!

You want to expose yourself. If you’re not 100% vulnerable in life, the day you die you’ll have a flashback and realize, holy shit, what have I missed?

When you die, you don’t want to feel like you’ve missed anything. You want to celebrate your life and everything you’ve done. Death is a celebration of your life and the things you’ve accomplished. When people say that a person died too early, that just means that the person didn’t do enough stuff.

We all die. Death and taxes, right? We can manipulate and cheat the tax system throughout our adult lives – the system is set up for entrepreneurs! We have so many write-offs that the rest of you don’t have, but we still do have to pay something.

Death is really the only thing that you can’t cheat – but life is what most people cheat.

So if you don’t go to sleep with a smile on your face every night, you’re doing something wrong. I don’t know about you guys, but when I go to sleep, I can’t wait for the morning. I hate mornings, but I can’t ever wait for it.

Some nights I don’t want to go to bed. If it’s two o’clock in the morning, I ask myself why I have to go to bed – I just want to keep living!

Of course, you need to recharge your batteries at night, but I can recharge during the day. You see me check out for five minutes every now and then, I take little catnaps in my head. I go into my own little world for a bit and rest. I don’t hear anything or see anything when I’m in me-world. It’s great.

But sometimes when you go to bed, you think, oh man, what am I missing?

It’s a good thing that there is not much going on in the world between about 3:00 am and 9:00 am. I go to bed at about two and I wake up at nine.

Every night when you go to bed, you want to think, what were my wins today? What did I do? How did I live my life to the fullest?

This ride is amazing. When you really embrace it, it’s the most amazing thing.

Life is the best gift you can give anybody. When my birthday comes, people always ask what they can get me, and I say, “nothing.” I don’t ever want to get gifts from anyone. (It’s July 1st, in case anyone wants to get me a… just kidding!)

I don’t ever want a material gift, because the best gift is just spending time with people. I usually like to spend the day by myself on my birthday. I like to walk the beach with my dog, hang out and don’t do shit.

Anyway, you want to celebrate life every day, and you don’t want to cheat life. Don’t ever cheat yourself. If you cheat yourself, you’re missing out on so many opportunities.

When I was in London doing a bootcamp, I was supposed to go up to the country to spend a few days with friends, but plans changed at the last minute!

So I was like, bummer, man, I’m stuck in London for three days! Oh, that sucks. Too bad for me. There’s so much to do there, and there are so many people to have fun with. I had to find another hotel room, but oh, that was certainly tough to do in a city!

My whole plans changed at the last minute, and I was digging it. I just thought, oh great – three more days to explore London? That’s awesome!

London is kind of like a second home for me now; I’ve spent two weeks there this year, and I’ve been coming twice a year. I’m learning the city and I’m so comfortable there now. Nothing is new anymore, but it is still all there for me.

Todays video is all about body language and not being so stiff when talking to women.

Enjoy your Saturday!!

David: What would I say on my first phone call? The first phone call should always be based on something that we talked about the night before – always. I want to bring her back to the moment that we had before.

I don’t “date” that much at all. I’m very much about just hanging out; connecting… so my first phone conversation is always based on something we talked about the last time.

Jonathan: So let’s say I met her on the street when she was handing out fliers, and we bonded over Sweden. She’s from Sweden, and I’ve been there before.

David: Okay, what else?

Jonathan: Music, movies – she’s also a musician and an actress.

David: So how did you ask for her number? What did you say to her?

Jonathan: I don’t know, I don’t really remember.

David: Okay, well here’s the thing: it all starts with the way that you ask for the number. The way you ask for her number is the same way you start the phone conversation.

So if you said, “oh my god, I’ve really enjoyed talking music with you. Give me your number, I want to continue this conversation,” you’re giving her something to look forward to.

Then you call her up on the phone, you can say, “hey, how are you doing? You know, I was thinking about what we were talking about the other night and I was really curious and wondering whether or not you listen to the Postal Service?” or something.

You want to make it as if the conversation has almost never stopped. You want her to feel like it’s just a continuous conversation from the last time until now.

So many guys don’t relate to women very well. They will get her phone number and then call her up and telemarket her: “so, I’m the guy that you gave your number…”

It’s all about creating that moment. It’s the only line from Jerry Maguire that actually made sense – “you had me at hello.”

Women are looking for that magic “hello” or whatever it might be. They are looking for something to help them build that story up. It’s a continual story.

So that Swedish musician? That story is Jonathan and the Swedish Girl. The story started with music and meatballs – she was handing out fliers on the street and she met this cool guy who asked for her number. He called her the next night and remembered the details about the conversation (which excites women, because their biggest complaint is that men don’t listen.)

You bring that real conversation into the phone conversation. That is how I would do it.

Today is also all about how to relate to her when you first speak to her. Check out todays video.

I’ve been on a journey for the last couple years learning about self-love. Self-love is one of the most important things you can ever have, because you will never be able to truly love someone else until you learn to truly love yourself.

The reason this is true, is because until you learn to truly love yourself there will always be a wall up around you. There will always be something the prevents you from giving yourself freely to someone else.

A lot of us give of ourselves freely to our animals. Some of us become crazy cat people, while others become crazy dog people. A lot of us can give freely of ourselves to our children.

Many of us have trouble giving freely of ourselves to another adult of the opposite sex, however, because we are so caught up in protecting our emotions. Until you are able to give yourself freely to somebody, though, you will never experience love.

You actually may be able to experience some depth of love, but you’ll never experience powerful love. We all deserve to experience powerful love.

The personal journey of self-love I’ve been on has been unbelievable. What is most unbelievable about it, however, is that it all stemmed from a “Brady Bunch Greg Brady falling off my surfboard in Hawaii” moment.

I think there is an actual mark on the surfboard showing where I fell. I was truly channeling Greg Brady and his Hawaiian surfing episode: I went down in the reef, I had the tiki idol necklace around my neck, Marsha and Cindy were yelling from the beach . . . Ok, maybe not that last part. In all seriousness, though, something did happen to me in Hawaii.

Hawaii is a very spiritual place. When I was surfing in Hawaii this past summer staring at a waterfall, I noticed that if you lined up the surfboard correctly you’d be surfing directly into the waterfall and the mountains.

There is a lot of energy in Hawaii, both spiritual and emotional energy. For reasons unknown, although probably because I was trying to show off to people on the beach, I decided while surfing to jump off my board into the shallow water . . . and ever since that day my hip has been aching.

Once I went deeper into it, I realized that I was on an emotional journey to have and experience the most incredible love I ever wanted: the love of myself. I realized that until I was able to do that, I would not be able to meet and experience someone amazing.

The “I Want More” blog I wrote was all about the feelings and emotions you have for someone that are so amazing that you just constantly desire more. A man named Joe (Mr. “DarkEnergy” himself in fact) posted a comment to that blog asking me how you can tell the difference between the feeling I described in the blog and a simple “crush.”

My answer to Joe was that you want to have a crush . . . just a crush that lasts forever. That’s the magic of love. The magic of love is having a crush that lasts forever and ever, but also knowing and being able to do the necessary work to nurture that relationship to allow it to go the distance.

I want a crush that lasts forever. I want to look at someone and always think they’re the most beautiful person in the world. I want every kiss to be magical.

The only way to make that happen and to make a crush last forever, though, is to be totally conscious about the other person. You need to find someone who is effortless to be with and with whom doing the right this is easy.

The only way to make a relationship like this last is to have both of you want to make it last. You both must recognize the gifts. You both also must recognize your relationship to be comprised of two souls which connect on a deep level. Most importantly, you must have done enough work on yourself to realize that such a connection doesn’t happen every single day.

You may still have more work to do on yourself, but we all need to be working on ourselves every day. If you do and you have already found a crush, the great thing is that you have the other person to support you, accept you and embrace you for everything you are working on about yourself.

Granted, every relationship has a honeymoon phase, but I’ve seen couples who are still “ga-ga” about each other after seven or eight years. They may no longer be having sex seven days a week, but when they make love it’s still absolutely amazing. It is still so amazing because they are still making love to someone on whom they have a crush, someone with whom they’ve created a level of comfort where they know each other on every level and have given every part of themselves to each other.

So all of you should be looking to have a crush on someone, the kind of crush that lasts forever. The only way to make a crush last forever, though, is to first have a crush on yourself. Start getting a kick out of yourself. Start enjoying yourself.

More importantly, get on the same page as someone else’s soul, and let your souls connect. When two souls are connecting, you are going to have a crush . . . and a crush far greater than the kind you had at age sixteen.

Over the age of thirty, you truly know that when you find this it is a gift being presented to you that doesn’t happen every day. You are emotionally mature enough to embrace it and have fun with it.

For all of you who don’t believe in the magic of a crush, you are missing out on something. For those of you who still want to find someone on whom you have this “forever” kind of a crush, the only way to start is to first have a crush on yourself. Remember that nobody can have a crush on you unless you love yourself.

Have a great Sunday!!!

I have wanted to write this blog for so long, I really have. And I know that each of you is going to either completely agree with me on this or totally disagree. And those of you that disagree with me are going to be so pissed – I can feel it already! As you’re reading this you’re wondering why you are going to be pissed at me, and I’ll tell you why in a second.

I’m about to tell you something that is just going to blow you away:

Soulmates are bullshit.

Here’s the thing – before you get your panties in a knot – let’s say you live in Seattle, and your soulmate lives in Rome. And you have a fear of flying. You’ll spend the rest of your life never finding your soulmate.

Let’s say you live in New York, and your “soulmate” lives in Florida. The problem is that your Jewish grandparents tortured you as a child by taking you to Florida way too many times and you never want to set foot in that state again. So you only vacation now in the Caribbean.

If you believe that there is one soulmate for you out there in the world, then you’d better start traveling to find that person!

But if you’re like me – and you believe that you can have soul connections with people, then you are far more evolved than the person who believes there is one perfect partner for everyone.

I don’t believe that there is one person for everybody, and I never have. (That’s not entirely true, I’ll take that back – my mother tortured me with the whole soulmate idea for a long time and throughout my life I thought I had found mine – I thought Ellen was my soulmate, I thought Karen was my soulmate, then Jessica, then Sonya…)

I never thought of Alison (my recent girlfriend) as my soulmate, I thought of her as an equal. That is probably the reason why that relationship was the best I’ve ever had.

I’ve had women tell me – some even recently – that they thought we were soulmates. I looked at them and said, “we might have a soul connection, but we’re not soulmates.”

I believe that your soul is meant to mate with many different people. You can have soul connections – I think Daphne and I have a soul connection. Wherever I go, that dog follows. The minute I met Daphne – she looked at me and she stuck by my side like glue. That’s a soul connection.

If you want to go even deeper into lala-ville (because I do live in Los Angeles) I do believe in past lives and everything else, and I do believe that souls can come back and find each other. I believe that friends will come back and find each other as different things. I could have been a little girl in another life.

If you’ve ever seen the movie Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks – which is one of the funniest movies ever – there is this scene where this big chunky guy is doing past life regression and sees himself licking a lollipop and jumping around like a little girl. It was the funniest scene in the entire world – he absolutely freaked out.

But I do believe that souls come back. There are certain people that you meet – male or female – that you know you are going to be friends with them instantly. It’s your souls connecting with each other.

There are women that I’ve dated that I’ve had instant soul connections with. Some of those connections were more lustful than others, and some were just on a friendship level.

So I do believe that you can have soul connections. If there was one person in the world for you, and you screw up that relationship by the time you are 30, does that mean you have to spend the rest of your life alone? Absolutely not.

I could move to Russia tomorrow – not speaking any of the language – and find soul connections with some of the most amazing women. I bet I could make some great friends. But I’ll never drink the vodka because I’m just not a drinker!

But your soulmate is a farce. It’s bullshit. You can have lots of soulmates and many soul connections, but there is not just one person for you. If there were, there would be a ton of people running around the world accumulating many more frequent flier miles trying to find their soulmate.

Here’s another interesting tidbit for all of you: in different parts of your life, you’ll have different soul connections. You are ready for different types of relationships at different periods of your life.

So you might have had an intense soul connection – or you might have thought someone was your soulmate – but maybe you weren’t ready for that relationship.

Right now, I’m ready to meet my bootymates!

That’s a new term that nobody uses – do you know what a bootymate is? It’s an incredible sexual connection with somebody who doesn’t aggravate you at all. All you do is have amazing sex and you feel like your bodies were made for each other. You feel like your bodies know each other. But you don’t have the aggravation of maintaining a relationship.

You don’t have to say “I love you” – hell, you don’t even have to say, “I like you!” All you have to do is respect each other’s bodies and respect each other’s space. Respect everything. And know that when you get together, your souls are going to connect because you and she are bootymates!

Craig: The concept of soulmate came from Greek mythology. Back then, people believed that once upon a time everyone had two heads, four arms, and four legs – but just one soul.

Then the gods threw down lightning bolts and split everybody in half, so now each person had one head, two arms, and two legs – but only half of a soul. You were supposed to spend the rest of your life looking for the other half of your soul.

The problem with this is, just as David said, what if in this huge world, your soulmate lives far away? You might never find them. Or worse yet, what if your soulmate lives in your city and you were having a really shitty day on the day that you first met them? Now you’re still doomed to live the rest of your life alone.

I’m convinced that we meet a potential “soulmate” once or twice a month, but we’re not ready to meet them yet and they just pass us by. I’m convinced that serendipity plays a much bigger role in us finding somebody that is right for us. There are just groups of people out there that are right for each of us, and we end up finding one of those people only when we are ready for it.

David: That’s really interesting, I agree with you. It’s so true it’s unbelievable. I’m going to requote you on that: we probably do run into our soulmate at so many different times over the course of a month – except we’re not aware of it, or we’re not ready, or we’re not open for it.

They make a left, you make a right, but you were supposed to meet in the middle. Or you’re in the market and you get a Blackberry text message. As you look down, your soulmate walks right by you. It’s very interesting. I don’t think we spend enough time out there engaging everybody.

I think that if you really follow the stuff that I talk about in the Mastery Series, in the bootcamps, and everything else – you could probably find a soulmate once a week. You would be so much more in tune with your environment and with who you are as a person – you would know yourself inside and out. You’d be so open to things that you would connect with people just like yourself.

This weekend was really interesting. I was telling one of the guys (Allan actually) that he’s going to date exactly who he is right now – shy, quiet, very sweet, very nice, great personality. He’s going to meet a woman who has the same type of qualities yet wants to become a little bit more outgoing. Together they are going to really connect. He’ll make a great husband.

But he has to find enough courage to go out there, open his eyes, and start talking to them. That’s what it takes: courage. People don’t have the courage to talk to each other.

Do you realize that is the biggest fear that most people have: that they don’t have enough courage to go up and talk to people? Yet if they could just walk up to someone and say, “man, I really wanted to come over and talk to you, what’s your name?” the other person would be so receptive, because they feel the same exact way!

Usually people are attracted to people who share the same characteristics that they have. Guys will wish that they could date certain women – every guy wants to date the Maxim magazine model – but they won’t. And they know that.

So that’s an interesting topic, and an interesting thought – and it’s 100% true.

Todays video is a lesson on how to attract large groups by being entertaining. This is not what you think.