There is this rumor going around with all of these fucking spiritual books, “Write down what you want, and you will attract it.”

I love that shit. They’re offering you a shortcut! Do you remember that book The Secret? Write yourself a check for a million dollars, and it will just show up!

Not by working at McDonald’s, it won’t! That’s just not how it works.

Men tend to be very outcome dependent. Many men approach women with one goal in mind: to get their phone number. Such men think if they approach a woman, they must get her phone number in order for that approach to have been successful. These men, in fact, will base their entire assessment of an encounter on whether a woman gives them her phone number. This type of mindset is what I’m referring to when I talk about outcome dependence.

Let’s talk about another kind of relationship right now: what is your relationship with money?

This should be one of your best and most well managed relationships.

What is your relationship with money?

Let me share with you what my relationship with money used to be. Growing up in my household, money was doled out when we were being good. You went to Grandma Frankie’s house, and if you were a good grandson, you’d leave with a couple of hundred bucks for a pair of new sneakers.

Here’s the problem with having a minimalist approach in life.

hear comments like this from women almost every day: “David, I saw this guy today and he was so cute. He smiled at me, and I would have loved to have smiled back at him or said hello, but I was all sweaty because I’d just left the gym.”