Last weekend I was in New York, and I decided to check out this hotel called “The Mercer Street Hotel.” So me and my buddy Jon who coaches in New York, walked on in there. We were just chilling out, and we spotted this group of five beautiful women sitting there. We were just about […]
Topic: talking to women
It’s Wednesday, which means its “Dear David” day. Today I’m answering a question from Mark on approaching women in public. It’s interesting, because it’s something I talk about a lot, but this takes the subject a little deeper. Mark asks… “David, I love the idea of using observations with women. I understand pickup lines don’t […]
I’ve been getting so many e-mails from you guys lately asking the same thing. It seems like the summer of the silent man. The question every single day is, “How should I talk to women?” If you start from that position you’re never going to get anywhere. Everyone; men and women, are all completely individual […]
In order to really be able to connect with people, you need to improve your memory. So many times when you’re in a conversation with someone, you fade out and go into “Me World.” Slipping off into “Me World” during a conversation could happen out of fear or out of disinterest, or it could happen simply because you fail to remain present. At the moment you feel yourself starting to go in that direction, you need to dial yourself back become totally present in that conversation (whether you’re talking or just listening).
I think a lot of people are really unrealistic. This is especially true when it comes to dating. Think about this. There are 52 weeks and 365 days in a year. Think if you went out and met people every single day with the goal of getting one date per week. I’m not just talking about a date with anyone you can find, but with someone with whom you share a real chemistry connection.
A client of mine just asked me a great question, and I wanted to share it with all of you. He asked me, “What if I walk over to a woman and I say something that I think is absolutely hilarious, and she looks at me with a snotty look on her face and says ‘that’s not funny?’” I told him that there is something I do every time in this situation. The first thing I do is…