All women want to have sex with the man they’ve read about in the romance novels and see on the big screen. Create that Hugh Grant moment. Women are turned on by powerful, confident, self-assured men.
In order to really be able to connect with people, you need to improve your memory. So many times when you’re in a conversation with someone, you fade out and go into “Me World.” Slipping off into “Me World” during a conversation could happen out of fear or out of disinterest, or it could happen simply because you fail to remain present. At the moment you feel yourself starting to go in that direction, you need to dial yourself back become totally present in that conversation (whether you’re talking or just listening).
I think a lot of people are really unrealistic. This is especially true when it comes to dating. Think about this. There are 52 weeks and 365 days in a year. Think if you went out and met people every single day with the goal of getting one date per week. I’m not just talking about a date with anyone you can find, but with someone with whom you share a real chemistry connection.
A client of mine just asked me a great question, and I wanted to share it with all of you. He asked me, “What if I walk over to a woman and I say something that I think is absolutely hilarious, and she looks at me with a snotty look on her face and says ‘that’s not funny?’” I told him that there is something I do every time in this situation. The first thing I do is…
Let’s talk about Mr. Perfect today. I want everyone to know about Mr. Perfect. Everyone who is out there trying to improve their dating life by meeting people in situations in which they normally don’t meet people is playing the role of Mr. Perfect. So let’s put Mr. Perfect in a situation so you can see what I mean.
Let’s talk about voice tone today, and the importance of voice tone. Let me give you some examples of voice tone that does not work. Being soft-spoken when you approach a woman does not work. You know when you walk up to someone and say, “Wow, those are really great tomatoes. I’ve never seen tomatoes that good,” and then you kind of breathe and pause? That voice tone is a very insecure one.
We’re so caught up in trying to get people to like us. Think about it. You see a woman (or man) you think is attractive. You think, “I just want her to like me, so I’m going to edit myself because that is how people respond well to me.” You think similarly about how you act around your friends. You think, “That’s why…