If you want to learn about women, instead of looking at pictures on an online dating site and mass emailing them with some generic email, why don’t you read through what turns them on? If you actually spent time reading what turns them on, you would actually become that man. Not one woman online is looking for a soft, wimpy, wussy man.

They are looking for a man that creates passion and desire in them. So how does a guy do this? And can any guy do this?

The answer is yes, if you actually take the time to understand women and take the time to connect with them. When a guy is confident and is able to stimulate a woman’s mind and connect with her, he’ll be in total control and she’ll be totally turned on by him.

So what is the key to getting a woman totally connected and turned on to you? . . . it’s to open your ears and listen!

Most men don’t listen. Most men buy into all the garbage that’s available on the internet of the so-called “pick up strategies” and think there’s some magic thing to say in every situation to meet a woman.

You know what the magic thing to say is? Sometimes nothing.

Sometimes when you listen to a woman carefully, and when I say carefully I mean listening to what she has to say and reacting to what she has to say. Because when you listen to what she has to say, she will open up to you and become more attracted to you as the minutes pass.

She doesn’t want to hear about the amount of money you make, or the new car you bought, or how good you are at XBox. All she wants you to do is listen and connect with her mind.

If you connect with her mind, she will give you her body. The best sex you’ll ever have is not when you’ve convinced her to have sex with you, it’s when you’ve connected with her mind and it’s her idea. If the sex is her idea, she’ll give you the best sex you’ve had in months.

So how do you turn her on? Well, don’t be a wimp and ask her to hang out with you. Tell her where to meet you . . . and make it somewhere interesting.

Don’t just make a boring reservation at a restaurant. Challenge her to a game of pool – the winner get’s a great massage. Challenge her . . . be gutsy.

Most men are so soft on this issue, and that’s why they get flaked on over and over again. It happens because they did not take control. Women will drop hints over and over again so you take control.

When they drop hints, you need to be the alpha male. You have to have the balls to ask her what she’s really thinking. You can’t play it safe. Most women don’t get turned on mentally or physically by safe.

They want sex as much, if not more, than you. It’s time you learned how to be the alpha male so you can be enjoying real connections with women every single day.

My answer to that is that it would create just a ridiculous amount of traffic. If you actually burned a bridge, then the traffic would be clogged up for days. Another thing about burning a bridge is that you can actually get arrested for it.

Or if you don’t want to talk about bridges, then let’s talk about tunnels. Never bury yourself in a tunnel because you wouldn’t be able to get out.

I’m sure you know where I’m really going with this. Let’s talk about burning bridges in life.

I truly believe that you should never burn any bridges in life. You need to end every relationship you have — whether it’s a friendship, a romantic relationship or a work relationship — on good terms.

So if you’re going to break up with somebody, you need to end the relationship on good terms. If you no longer want to be friends with somebody, you need to sit them down and explain that to them. If you no longer want to do business with somebody, you need to not leave them hanging and explain that to them.

You never want to burn bridges in life, because it will just come back to haunt you. I experienced this a lot in my 20′s.

When I was in my 20′s, I was going around having sex with women and not really calling them back. Then I would inevitably run into them six months later when they were with one of their hot friends. I always wanted to meet the hot friend, but never could because I was the asshole who burned that bridge.

So learn from me. Don’t burn bridges.

If you no longer want to be with someone, whether you’re dating them for a week or a year, you need to sit down face-to-face with them and tell them why. Closure is great, and they will respect you as a person for doing that.

When it comes down to work, you need to do the exact same thing. If you don’t want to do work anymore with somebody or do business with someone anymore, then you need to sit down with them and tell them why.

Do not burn bridges. Not only do they create traffic jams, but they can create embarrassing moments for you in the future.

In reality, what is going on in that situation is that your penis is talking to you. It is saying, “Hey, Mr. Big Head up there. Yeah, you between the shoulders. Mr. Penis here. Listen, man, I think this girl is really hot and really want to get into her. So try not to f^*k it up this time. Please don’t say the wrong thing, because I really want to hit that vagina tonight. Please don’t f^*k it up and say that stupid thing you said last time you approached a woman. Play it safe this time.”

This is what your penis is doing. Your penis is controlling your head. If it wasn’t, then your head would be thinking “I’m a cool guy. Man, I’m awesome. I’m great. There is a pretty girl over there, but who cares? There are tons of pretty girls in the world. I’m just looking for the one I can really connect with who really gets me. Let me go over and talk to her and see what she’s all about. Let’s see if I even like her at all. I’ll ask her out for a cup of coffee and get to know her a little bit.”

That is what the rational mind would be saying. The problem, however, is that we are so driven by what’s inside our pants. We are so driven by Mr. Penis. Since Mr. Penis doesn’t understand anything rational, he gives his power away every single time.

So the next time you see a good-looking woman, stop looking for validation. Stop listening to Mr. Penis. When you do that, you will realize that you are an amazing person.

This is exactly what I did so that my penis never controlled how successful my approaches were. CLICK HERE to listen to me go through it step-by-step.

Slipping off into “Me World” during a conversation could happen out of fear or out of disinterest, or it could happen simply because you fail to remain present. At the moment you feel yourself starting to go in that direction, you need to dial yourself back become totally present in that conversation (whether you’re talking or just listening).

It’s a really powerful thing to be able to just listen while staying present. It’s equally powerful to be able to remember things about people after you have a conversation with them.

At the end of every conversation you have with someone, there’s a a couple different ways to remember about the person with whom you were talking and about the things they said to you. One thing you can do is your phone and dictate on the spot four interesting things you learned about them. The other way is to keep a pad and pen with you, and to write those things down manually.

So how would this work? Well say that you were walking down the street and you came upon a mother with her young daughter. You say, “How come you’re not in school?” The little girl tells you it’s her spring vacation. You then learn that the family is going to Mexico for spring vacation and that the little girl has a dog named Max that she’s going to miss when she’s gone.

To work on your memory, at the end of this conversation you would dictate to your phone (or you’d write down), “Met this woman today who has a daughter. She and her family are going to Mexico on spring break. The little girl was so proud of not being in school, and told me all about how she will miss her dog Max while they’re gone.

Do this for thirty days. It’s not that you need to remember all this about these particular people, but by doing this exercise over and over you will train your memory to be better. You can then use this better memory whether it’s when you run into people a second or third time, or whether it’s when you are out there meeting members of the opposite sex.

I did this exercise myself a long time ago. Now I don’t forget anything about anyone, whereas I never used to be able to remember much about anyone I’d meet. Really, I used to remember nothing about people I’d meet.

By doing this exercise, it forces you to remember everything because you’ve made recording these details into almost a responsibility and an assignment. Commit to doing this for thirty days, and you will be so glad you did when you see how much you’ve built up your memory.

Think about this. There are 52 weeks and 365 days in a year. Think if you went out and met people every single day with the goal of getting one date per week. I’m not just talking about a date with anyone you can find, but with someone with whom you share a real chemistry connection.

That’s 52 quality dates a year. You don’t think that out of those 52 dates that you’re going to find at least one person with whom you really connect and with whom you will form a relationship?

It’s funny how many times people say to me, “David, I’d like to go on two to three dates per week.” Why?

It’s really all about going out every single day and meeting people. You can do it for ten or twenty minutes one day or a half hour another day depending on your schedule. It doesn’t really matter.

By doing that, don’t you think you can meet one person per week with whom you share a great connection? Don’t you think you’ll find that great and amazing person with whom you love to hang.

Don’t you think you’d find people along the way that would be great sexual partners? Don’t you think you’d find people who will teach you things and people with whom you can share things? Don’t you think you might find people you want to date for a week, a month or maybe forever?

So, really, keep your goals realistic. Go out there and look for that one great date every week. No need to worry about how many dates you’re getting. Try this for a week!

Wonder what to say to when you are out meeting all these people? Click here to listen to my favorite openers to use when talking to women.

I told him that there is something I do every time in this situation. The first thing I do is stay in the situation, because I am a man of confidence, strength and conviction.

What I will do is look her directly in the eyes and say, “Well, obviously we don’t have the same sense of humor. It’s a good thing we found this out right now, before we got romantically involved.”

I’ll say it with a smile on my face. I bust her really hard on what she said.

I’ve done this a lot. What happens is that she’ll start cracking up and will say some something like, “Oh my God, now THAT’s funny!” Then I’ll say, “What? Funny that you and I are dating, or funny that you and I don’t have the same sense of humor?”

So do you see how this scenario can go very differently when you go into it with no fear, and when you challenge someone on what they say? You need to go into these situations not so outcome-oriented.

A lot of times guys will go into a situation like this thinking, “I’m going to go and flirt with her right now. I’m going to hope that she responds to me so I can get her number (even though I don’t even know anything about her yet).”

So by being not so outcome-derived, it allows you to speak your mind and allows you to eliminate being intimidated by somebody. Also, by challenging someone you are pushing them a little bit.

For example, the woman in the “that’s not funny” scenario above may have not thought what you said was funny because of nothing having to do with what you actually said. She might have been thinking about something else, like her friend yelling at her earlier that day, and she took it out on you.

Staying in the situation and challenging her like I’ve described gives you the opportunity to maybe turn the situation around. So the next time a woman tells you “that’s not funny,” say exactly what I said to say in this blog and then let the fun begin!

Everyone who is out there trying to improve their dating life by meeting people in situations in which they normally don’t meet people is playing the role of Mr. Perfect. So let’s put Mr. Perfect in a situation so you can see what I mean.

Let’s put Mr. Perfect in a supermarket. What does Mr. Perfect do?

Well, Mr. Perfect knows that he needs to go out there and converse with people all day long to become more sociable and to open up his energy. So Mr. Perfect will see a woman looking at crackers, he will see an opportunity, he will walk over to her, and then the same thing will always happen.

He’ll walk over and make a comment like, “Man, I don’t really know what crackers are good here” or “Can you make a suggestion on what kind of crackers I should buy?” What happens to Mr. Perfect every time when he does this? She walks away.

Do you know why? It is because that is what happens to people who try to be perfect and don’t make the situation natural. When you act like Mr. Perfect, what you say never comes out sounding natural.

Why? Didn’t Mr. Perfect walk over and say something based on what she was doing in that moment like I always say to do?

Well, yes, but when he walked over to her he probably walked over all nervous. He didn’t walk over to her curious and confident, with a real question to ask her.

He walked over there thinking about the question he was going to ask her the whole time he was approaching her. He was thinking, “I’m going to ask her about crackers. I’m going to ask her to give me a cracker recommendation.”

Then when he actually asks her about the crackers, it doesn’t come out natural at all. So of course she is going to walk away. Of course she will start heading in another direction, because that is what happens to Mr. Perfect.

So what does Mr. Perfect do when that happens? Even though Mr. Perfect knows that this was just one encounter with one person, he will immediately think to himself “I can’t do this. This is too hard. This is not going to work. She didn’t respond to me.”

Then, all of a sudden, he’ll start manifesting those negative thoughts in every interaction he has after that. He will sabotage his ability to make each one of those interactions successful.

The truth is that none of those negative thoughts are true at all. Mr. Perfect is fully capable of successfully approaching women.

The reason that the “cracker situation” happens to Mr. Perfect is because he sabotaged the interaction before he said a word to her by trying to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Nobody wants perfect.

What do we really want in a relationship with someone? We want someone who understands us, someone who is going to resonate with us, someone from whom we can learn and someone we can really experience.

We’re not perfect people. So when you walk over to anyone, there is no such thing as perfection.

If someone doesn’t respond to you, it could be because you ran into a mirror image of yourself — someone who is absolutely and completely nervous to talk to people and doesn’t know what to say. In other words, someone else who thinks they have to be perfect.

So what happens when a Mr. Perfect meets a Ms. Perfect, is that one of them will walk away from the encounter because they are so nervous and don’t know what to say. They get way too much inside their head. It’s a cycle that will keep repeating until they stop being a Mr. Perfect.

You don’t ever have to be perfect. There is no perfection in life. None.

Despite this, there seems to be so many people who feel the need to be perfect when they are trying to improve their dating lives. There is no need for this. If all the Mr. Perfects out there would change their mindset, they would experience a lot closer to “perfect” results.

They will say, “But I went up to her and did everything right. I observed, I reacted to the situation, but yet she didn’t respond.”

Do you have any idea what turned her off?

In today’s podcast, I am going to let you know exactly what turned her off and why.

This is an eye-opening (or more accurately and ear-opening) podcast . . .

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1.Not Reading A Woman’s Profile: Of all the mistakes guys make, this is one of the biggest. Guys will not read a woman’s profile, then proceed to email her anyway — even if they are not in her age range and don’t like any of the same things she likes. It’s amazing how many men will just look at a picture of a woman and send her an email, when that woman would be 100% not interested based on what she said she’s looking for in her profile. When you do that, you’re just wasting somebody’s time.

2.Being A Winker: If you actually read women’s profiles online, you would see that a lot of women request not receive winks or say flat out that they don’t respond to winks. Since a lot of men online are very lazy, though, they will go online and send out a hundred winks in a night hoping that one woman will respond. When you do that, do you know what that tells a woman right from the get-go? It tells her first that you didn’t read her profile, and second that you’re pretty desperate. Winkers are desperate. They don’t care who responds; they just want someone to respond.

3.Sending A Generic or “Cut ‘N Paste” Emails: Sending just a generic or “cut ‘n paste” email when you haven’t read a woman’s profile is one of the biggest turnoffs to women online. Guys will send an email to a hundred woman saying something like, “Hey, you and I are really a match. Read my profile and check it out, and let me know what you think. Looking forward to hearing from you.” When a woman reads this, she knows you have put no effort whatsoever into it. She knows it is a generic email, and she is not going to respond to it.

4.No Follow-Up: Lack of follow up is another huge mistake men make online. A man will send an email to a woman, she will send one back to him, and then he will wait and not respond to her email right away. He doesn’t follow up until three weeks later when he’ll email her and give some kind of excuse about being really busy at work. Do you know what a woman thinks when this happens? She thinks, “Well he obviously emailed ten people, and I was number four on his list. He was talking to three others, they blew him off, so no he’s decided he wants to go out with me.” You don’t make her feel important that way. If you email a woman, you had better follow through with it — both in terms of returning her emails and asking her out on a date. Women want men that act like men, have a plan and follow through it.

5.Commenting On Her Picture: Commenting on a woman’s picture shows her that you didn’t read her profile. If you write, “Boy, you look really great in that dress” or “Wow, you look hot in that bathing suit” it shows a woman that you are solely a visual guy. Doing it is too overtly sexual right from the get-go. It turns women off. Women want you to not only read their profile, but to comment on something she says in it. It shows them that something in their profile connects with you emotionally in some way.

6.Talking About Yourself In Your First Email: Talking about yourself in your first email (and first contact) with a woman and before you even ask her a question is a big mistake. It looks to a woman like you just cut and paste part of your profile into an email and sent it to her. What you are doing when you do this is being a “lister” — what I call men who have to list all their good qualities to sell themselves to a woman. What you should be doing in that first email is to flirt and get to know her better.

Online dating is a lot of fun, but you need to look at it differently. You need to look at your first contact with a woman as if you were meeting her live and in person.

If you look at it this way, you would never send a woman a list of all your good qualities or make a comment about how hot she looks in her swimsuit on the first conversation.

Think that way, and you may have greater success online and not turn any women off.

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Being soft-spoken when you approach a woman does not work. You know when you walk up to someone and say, “Wow, those are really great tomatoes. I’ve never seen tomatoes that good,” and then you kind of breathe and pause? That voice tone is a very insecure one.

You’re not making a powerful statement. When you walk up to somebody — and the tomato example might be the worst one in the world — you want to say whatever you’re saying in a very powerful, strong voice. You want to say, “I have never seen tomatoes that good in my life. Are they local? Are they organic?”

That, to me, is a powerful statement followed by a question she can answer. It’s amazing when you have authority in your voice, the difference you will notice in the way people act toward you.

One of the best little exercises to do is to stand on a street corner, when anyone walks by you ask them “Hey, can I ask you something?” Ask that question in a powerful voice, and everyone is going to stop. Ask it in a soft voice, like Michael Jackson, and people are going to ignore you.

Everybody responds to an authoritative voice. Everybody responds to a commanding voice. Everyone responds to a powerful voice.

One of the best things you can do is tape record yourself. You see how old I am – tape record? No one tape records anymore. They have a digital recorder.

In any case, you need to record yourself. Then listen to yourself talk and ask yourself, “Would I respond to that voice?”

Keep recording yourself asking the same question, but in different voice tones. How do you respond to the sound of each? We all respond to a very powerful voice tone because that’s what we’re trained to do.

When Obama ran for President, his voice tone was very powerful so he got elected. It builds trust in people when they feel like they’re talking to somebody who’s very authoritative.

Work on that voice, guys. If your voice is soft or quiet or can’t be heard, then you know you don’t have a powerful voice tone. Work on it. It’s so important. It’s ridiculous how important it is.