You don’t want all of them–just the really hot one right?

Sure, but if you don’t know how to engage the group as a whole, you’re dead in the water.

Watch this undercover video as I breakdown an approach:

Pretty simple right?

What are some great ways that you’ve engaged the friend of someone you really liked?

Have you ever been the friend?

Let me know in the comments below.

The other day, I was walking down the street with Sonja. This guy came up to us and said, “Do you like poetry?” I looked at him and said, “No.”

I just didn’t feel like being hassled. Whenever I’m walking down the street, I’m walking down the street to get somewhere — maybe to get some food or to go to a shop. I might just be walking the dog, but I’m usually going somewhere.

I don’t like being harassed when I go somewhere. I hate being asked for money. I think it’s crazy.

I hate these guys who want to play music for you. I know they’re trying to hustle, but I’m just not in the mood to be hustled.

This brings me to my point for this blog, which both men and women need to understand.

Every man I’ve ever coached wants to know how to meet women on the street. They want to know, “How can I stop her when she’s walking? How can I stop her on the street and meet her?”

What I say to the guys who ask me this is always the same thing: How do you feel when people stop you on the street? It’s irritating.

Now, if someone tries to casually talk to me when I’m window shopping at a store, I might engage in conversation and I might not. To be stopped when I’m briskly walking down the street to get to a destination, however, is annoying.

It’s just like the man today who asked us if we like poetry. That was annoying.

To all the guys who are just so obsessed with meeting women on the street, why don’t you just stop a woman and say, “Excuse me, do you like to be picked up while you’re running down the street?” There are so many people to meet. Don’t bother people when they’re walking.

You can smile. You can say hello. If they respond, maybe a conversation could ensue. Otherwise, most of us are just going to a destination.

When we get to that destination we’re relaxed. We’re happy. We’re in a better place to probably communicate and talk.

Have you ever walked up to someone and you’re just so nervous? You are so nervous that you are squeezing your ass together like you are holding in your own shit?

So when you do walk over so scared like that and say what you think is the right thing, what happens? You are going to scare off the person you are approaching.

You could say something to a woman as simple as “Nice dog!” If you are nervous when you say it, though, you are going to make that woman (and her dog) nervous.

People’s reactions to you are all about you. They are all about your body language. They are all about your attitude, your energy and what you convey.

The next time you are about to walk up to someone, ask yourself this question: Am I relaxed? If you are not relaxed, then hold off on walking up to them. Breathe deeply. Take a minute to calm yourself down.

Don’t go up to that person until you have calmed down your energy. Otherwise, when people run away from you, it will be because you walked up to them looking like you are holding in your own shit and it scared the shit out of them.

Hear women tell all about what they want when they are approached, and how they perceive what guys do. Also, hear them confess what turns them OFF most — mistakes so many guys make. CLICK HERE to listen to what they reveal that all guys need to know.