So now it is summer time. It is a good time to update your wardrobe. Plus all the sales are now are taking place and most of the clothes are 50% off!!

What is really fun about updating your wardrobe is not buying the stuff and then taking it home; it’s the actual act of buying it – the art of buying. This gives you the opportunity to walk into any clothing store you want, find a woman you are attracted to, look at her, walk directly over to her and say, “hey, I’m looking to update my look, and I’d like to get your opinion on it. I’m curious: what would you like to see on my if I came and picked you up at your house tonight?”

Be playful a little bit. Let her dress you. Have some fun with it. Do something different – push yourself out of your comfort zone! If that’s too bold of a statement for you to make when you walk in there, then walk up to her and say, “listen, I’ve been to a couple of stores and I’m looking to update my wardrobe, what do you think would look good on me?”

That’s it. “I was wondering…” or “I was curious…” – these are two very powerful phrases because they allow you to get them to talk about their emotions. Curiosity and wonder are emotion-based, and you use these words to engage her in a conversation.

What you do is walk into that store and engage her in a conversation. You allow her to dress you, you have some playful banter – you can find out whether or not she likes you through the playful banter.

But the bottom line is, it’s springtime, and you probably do need some new clothes. You need to get out there and do it. Head to the mall, head to a store where you see a woman you are attracted to, and walk directly in there.

Let’s say there’s a woman shopping in the store – it doesn’t matter who she is shopping for – her boyfriend, her brother, whoever. Ask her! Try something on, and walk over to her and say, “hey, let me ask you a quick question: I’m curious, what do you think of this shirt on me? What do you think of these jeans on me?” Get her opinion on the whole thing. You never know – she may not have a boyfriend. She may actually be shopping for her father or her brother. She may be shopping for you! Who knows?

If you talk to her and have a good time talking with her, what happens is that you’ve made a new contact, and that new contact could be somebody that you could meet again at a later date – and perhaps at that later date, they have a really good-looking friend with them. Then you’ll have an opportunity to go and meet her friend through her.

It’s all about connecting, and all about having fun. So think of shopping in a whole different way, and go out and enjoy yourself.

If you’re on a budget and don’t have much money for clothes – don’t worry about it. You can go window shop and try some clothes on, figure out what you’re going to buy at a later date, and still have fun meeting people.

Talk to you soon!
Todays Video is all about how to be dynamic even if you don’t have the new clothes!!!

About two weeks ago you read a blog about being a man, and what being a man is all about. Of course, now it’s another one of those late nights in my house – which, by the way, I’m looking for a bigger house now, because part of being a man is realizing that you have friends at your house all of the time and you want a playroom. Even though you’re a man, you still like to be a boy, and we tend to hang out so much in my office – I’d love to have a killer den and a guest room.

A lot of guys who take the Bootcamp come and stay with me, clients stay with me, and friends stay with me at my house. My ex-girlfriend Alison said to me the other night that my house is like Camp David. That’s pretty funny – I’m certainly NOT George Bush! – but I wouldn’t mind if my house was actually Camp David.

I like opening my home, I’ve always been about opening up my home to my friends. And it’s fun – I like having people over. I have a cool pad, great furniture, fun toys in my house, lots of computers for people to play on, and a killer dog that everybody likes to hang out with.

So we were talking a little bit more about being a man. A couple of weeks ago we talked about what I feel it is to be a man. Khiem wanted to add something that I thought was really fascinating…

Khiem: For me, I really enjoy talking about being a man, because it’s a topic that is not very widely or often discussed among boys and men nowadays. Society and your family expect you to be a man, but nobody ever really tells you how to be one.

Or, you’re taught: “don’t cry,” “be strong,” “be a man!” But what does that mean? How do you be tough? Does that mean that you become stoic and hide your emotions from everybody? Or does it mean that you can raise your emotions, but not let them effect you?

When I was young, I was always close to my dad, so I don’t have an issue with that, but I remember when I was 15 and older, he was always really absent in my life. Now, looking back, I realize it was a big void because in your late teens when you are maturing, how do you transition from a boy to man?

David: You know it’s interesting – when I grew up, my father was my anti-role model. I didn’t respect him. When I was growing up, we would play football in the backyard, and sometimes my dad would fade back to pass, or go over to the middle to catch something that one of my friends threw, and he was like 6’4” and not muscular at all, and I would go to tackle him and he’d break like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. You’d hear him tumble down.

I never respected my father. I always said if I ever had kids (which I haven’t – at least none that I know of yet! And I wouldn’t be able to have all of my friends over to my house if I had kids because the extra room would go to my kid…) I’d get their respect. I remember why I didn’t respect my father, and why I wanted to become a ‘real man’ – when I would run into my dad, he’d topple over!

And to me, a real man is about being strong. My dad didn’t teach me how to be a man. I had to teach myself how to be a man. And it’s hard to teach yourself! As a boy, you need a strong man to guide you – to tell you that it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to feel and have emotions – to guide you in business, to guide you with women, in so many different ways.

Your dad should be your role model – if he isn’t, you’d better get a good uncle or something! It’s interesting that there are a lot of lost guys out there that never had father figures, or man figures. They don’t know what it’s like to express themselves. I see it a lot – we both see it a lot in this business.

I think a lot of guys that come to a Bootcamp are guys that basically need a father figure. Not that I’m so old, but you can have a father figure of any age – a guy could be one year older than you and be your father figure – it’s just somebody stronger than you that can teach you the ways to become a man.

Women talk all the time about men being weak. And men think that it’s the pickup lines that are going to get women – but it’s not. It’s their strength of character that attracts a woman.

Khiem: And you’re right – women learn how to be women because they have very strong bonds with each other – they learn from a very young age to share a lot of their inner thoughts and dialog with each other. And this is how they grow.

With men, we are taught to be that one, individual man, who can do it all and really do everything. The more I see it; I realize that is not how it really is. Yeah, as a man you want your own purpose, and to fulfill your own destiny, but you need other people around. This is something that I think people don’t realize.

To use an analogy, to me, being a man is like being grounded like a bamboo tree. You’re very grounded – solid as a rock – but you are flexible, and you can bend with the will of nature without ever breaking.

David: That’s an interesting analogy, a bamboo tree. And then at night when the wind whips through, the sounds that it makes. I know from traveling through the Philippines and other places – especially in the Philippines I spent a night with a client and his girlfriend in Bolho, which is a beach island in the Philippines – at night all you hear is the monkeys and the bamboo. And there’s a sound that’s almost like – well it’s like it bends, but it doesn’t break.

Khiem: And it’s not like a rock. You should never measure yourself as a man like a rock. Rocks don’t move or adapt. But the bamboo adapts to its surroundings. It is so grounded that it bends without ever giving way.

David: Rocks don’t bend – you don’t want to be a rock. Rocks don’t feel. If you think about the analogy this way, rocks don’t feel. Take a rock, throw it on the ground, what happens? The rock gets a little chip on it, that’s about it.

Too many men are rocks. If you want to be a man that women respect and love, be the bamboo. Don’t be a rock!

Todays video will go even deeper into what it takes to be the most attractive man that women desire.

Have a great Friday!!