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Friday, April 3rd, 2009
See if this scenario if familiar to any of you women: You meet a guy and have been having a great conversation with him for the first minute or so. All of a sudden, the guy gets a blank look on his face and says the word “cool” in response to the next few things you say.
Do you know what that word means when a guy says it to you? It means that he is not listening to you anymore. He has not stopped listening to you because he’s bored or because he isn’t interested in you . . . in fact it’s just the opposite.
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Tags: awkwar silence, awkward, cool, crush, dog, hot, hot girl, pet, relax, relaxing, shy, silence, thoughts
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Saturday, March 14th, 2009
A quick blog about what you can do this weekend. And if you do not have a museum head to an art store or art gallery and you can do the same exact thing.
I don’t care if you’re a man or a woman, but one of the best Sunday exercises is going to a museum or an art gallery and hanging out there.
Hang out there for two or three hours and have conversations with every single person you see. Everyone.
Walk over to them and say, “excuse me, what do you think of this painting?” or “how does this painting make you feel?” You will get into great conversations all day long.
This teaches you a few things. For one, it shows you that people don’t bite – nothing bad is going to happen to you if you talk to people.
Secondly, it’s great practice. It teaches you how to listen. You have to listen to be able to talk about the subject that you’re discussing.
Specifically in terms of artwork, there is so much going on in front of you. We’re in a museum right now, and a client just told me how easy it is in here, because there are so many things to talk about – the things on the wall, the collections, etc.
But life itself is like a museum! After you go to a museum, you can walk around your life and find anything to talk about. You find things to discuss and things to ask questions about.
Today, during a bootcamp, we started at a food market, and all of the conversations started with talking about brownies and pastries. And all of those people we talked to came back to talk to us later.
This is why observations are so powerful. In a grocery store, in a museum, in an art gallery – you have all of these opportunities to talk about the things that are going on.
Tags: approach, approach anxiety, approaching, approchable, bootcamp, Conversation, food market, shy, social anxiety, social circle, socializing, talk to people, talk to strangers
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce, How To Be A Better Communicator, Marriage, Masturbation | 7 Comments »
Friday, October 10th, 2008
Think about this Zen-like principle: if you walk over to someone and expect nothing, you’ll accept everything from them.
If you expect nothing from people, then you will accept every gift that they give you – the gift of themselves, and the gift of sharing with you.
Life is just a series of continual conversations. Whenever you meet somebody you connect with and find interesting, you want to continue that conversation with them, right?
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Tags: Conversation, conversation starters, fear, meet men, meet womenn, shy, ultimate
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Wednesday, October 1st, 2008
So let’s say there is a guy you are attracted to whom you see all the time. When you see him, he’s always out with his friends, laughing and just having a great time with his buddies. Every time you try to talk to him, though, he gets all nervous.
You’ve got to understand something about this guy. You think this guy is so cool, calm, collected and confident. The truth is that if he’s nervous around you, then he’s interested in you.
Just look at his personality. That’s something that I always tell women.
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Tags: approach anxiety, be yourself, confidence, confident, inner game, nervous, nervousness, self esteem, shy, shyness
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Tuesday, September 30th, 2008
There is a disease sweeping the nation, affecting men: it’s called Little Voice.
Do you have Little Voice?
Everything you say in life should be spoken with authority. You have to be authoritative with every word that you say.
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Tags: charisma, diagphram, louder, monotone, presence, shy, shyness, silent, talk, tonality, vocal projection, voice
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Saturday, September 27th, 2008
Do you consider yourself shy? Do you walk around and say to yourself “I wish I weren’t shy so I could approach people.”
When I hear someone label themselves as “shy,” I know they are limiting their opportunities to meet and connect with people every day. Being shy isn’t a physical trait like having brown eyes … you can eliminate it and overcome it.
The first thing you need to be aware of and realize is that shyness is not who you are – it’s not part of your identity. If someone asks you if you’re shy, what is your answer? Do you say “Yes, I am a shy person.”
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Tags: approach anxiety, Divorce, extrovert, introvert, judging, librarian, limiting belief, overcome shyness, shy, shy girl, shyness, success barrier, wall flower
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 38 Comments »
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