Understanding this is why I’ve been able to do it, and it is why I am so passionate about this business. I started putting out my products because I know that without doing the foundational work, that you guys will never be truly successful in your dating lives.

Do you know how I know that? I know that because I tried to find shortcuts for things for much of my life. I’ve tried to find a shortcut for almost everything I’ve ever done in life. I tried to find a shortcut for meeting women, I tried to find shortcuts in business and I tried to find shortcuts in my relationships. What I learned, and what you need to learn, is that there are no shortcuts.

Recently, Esquire Magazine asked me for a quote to put in their May issue. While I won’t know until the issue comes out whether it will actually appear in it, the quote I gave them was “Life is a marathon, not a sprint.” Keep your pace slow, and eventually you will find yourself in front of the right path.

It’s unbelievable how many of you are all about shortcuts. You put time limits on everything. You want one certain thing to happen within one month, when in reality it may take for four or five months because there are lessons to be learned along the way.

Being willing to let things take the time needed to really learn what you need to get there is, to me, about being authentic.  It’s being authentic in your life and authentic in who you are. It’s not looking for the shortcut.

I won’t sell you a shortcut. I will never sell you a shortcut because there are no shortcuts in life.

For any of you who approach life thinking there are shortcuts, I say go ahead and spend your money on those shortcuts. What will happen, though, is that you will keep spending and wasting money until you finally realize you have to be authentic and real to get what you really want. The real “shortcut” is to not be detoured by any so-called shortcut in the first place.

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Today’s PODCAST is must listen for anyone who wants to not take a shortcut and REALLY learn how to approach and open up women. Listen to my London coach, Adam, tell you all about it! Check it out here:

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The other day someone told me that he wanted to get into my business after he listened to me talk about how I struggled for the first few years of my career. He told me he wanted to get into the business, and I asked him why.

He answered, “because I need to make money.” This is hardly the business to get into if you want to make money. You’re a nobody. What’s your platform? What do you stand for? Who are you?

That’s the funny thing about it – so many of us are all about instant gratification. You need to make money right away? Are you that short on cash? Well, get a job! Rob a bank!

There are no shortcuts. Anyone who is successful in anything in life has worked his or her ass off to get there. I don’t know anyone who has found a shortcut.

Now, granted – there are some easier ways to success – such as inheriting Daddy’s business. Some guys just happen to meet a great woman, marry her, and then, boom.

There are people who got involved in the dot com industry in the late nineties and instead of getting greedy actually cashed out in time – they probably haven’t really worked since. Is that luck? Sure, there is luck involved, but there are also smarts there.

But people hear that one story about the actor who became on overnight sensation. The thing you don’t hear about is the ten years it took that actor to become that “overnight” sensation.

I tell guys all of the time that I’ll give them the foundation, but they have to do all of the work. The foundation is the easy part – it’s the sticking with the foundation that is the challenge.

Hard work is tough for people. I don’t know why. There’s no sales letter advertising hard work: “do you want to work 100 hours a week for the first three years of your career? You’ll have to sacrifice everything…” Can you imagine that advertisement? How could you write that? Nobody would buy that product, even though it’s the one thing in the world everyone needs to have.

Todays video is all about how to have fun and unleash that inner child. Have a great weekend I am doing a bootcamp up in Seattle!!