In any relationship you want, the person should know how to treat you right. Also don’t forget you should know how to treat them right too, so it’s not just a one-sided thing. It’s so true. When we’re in a relationship with ourselves, we take care of all our needs, we take care of all our wants, we take care of all our desires, we learn how to treat ourselves right. When we’re in a relationship, we want somebody to pamper us, to treat us great, to make us feel some kind of wonderful.

Because nothing beats that feeling. Nothing beats being able to drift into someone’s arms and know that you’re with one of the most amazing women you’ve ever met. Because we’re all looking for that some kind of wonderful. That’s why all of you guys are single, or most of you are single and reading this. So I want all of you to listen to Grand Funk Railroad, “Some Kind of Wonderful” and I want to make that your theme lyrics. It’s really important. Here are their lyrics for you guys if you want to read it. Take a look at the lines in there. It’s really good stuff in there. I want all of you to hold out for that, otherwise you won’t be satisfied.

I don’t need a whole lots of money,
I don’t need a big fine car.
I got everything that a man could want,
I got more than I could ask for.
I don’t have to run around,
I don’t have to stay out all night.
‘Cause I got me a sweet … a sweet, lovin’ woman,
And she knows just how to treat me right.

Well my baby, she’s alright,
Well my baby, she’s clean out-of-sight.
Don’t you know that she’s … she’s some kind of wonderful.
She’s some kind of wonderful … yes she is, she’s,
She’s some kind of wonderful, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeahhh …

When I hold her in my arms,
You know she sets my soul on fire.
Oooh, when my baby kisses me,
My heart becomes filled with desire.
When she wraps her lovin’ arms around me,
About drives me out of my mind.
Yeah, when my baby kisses me,
Chills run up and down my spine.

My baby, she’s alright,
My baby, she’s clean out-of-sight.
Don’t you know that she is … she’s some kind of wonderful.
She’s some kind of wonderful … yes she is,

She has “the hotness factor.” When you look at her, you get so turned on and so excited. You just want to show her off to everybody.

You are so off the wall in “look at me world” thinking, “I used to be someone who could not attract women, and now look how hot my girlfriend is. She is so hot. Look at me!”

So many guys do that. Women are like trophies to them. They really are.

If they have who they think is the hottest girlfriend they’ve ever had, they are quickly flying home to show all their old buddies that they can get the hot one. They’re going out at night and they’ve got their arm around her thinking “She’s hot. She’s mine. Man, she is the hottest girl ever.”

What these guys fail to do, however, is to ‘look under the hood.’ That hotness factor that was the only thing in their consciousness about her, often turns lukewarm when they finally do. Then lukewarm often continues to cool off until it becomes cold.

Here is the truth, guys. What is inside is just as important as what’s on the outside. That hotness factor is going to wear off, and then you’re going to start to see her for exactly who she is.

When that happens, you’re going to start to notice things about her. “What? She has lines under her eyes. I never saw those before. Oh my God. Wait a second. Her body is not as hot as it was.”

The reason why you start noticing those things is because you start really getting into the core of who she is as a person. You get your head out of la-la land. You stop ignoring all the little things that she does which may or may not be satisfying, and you start waking up to what I call “the un-hot reality.”

Every woman, no matter how hot she is, has a real person inside that shell. That woman may be someone who, once the hotness factor wears off, probably isn’t even a match for you.

So, how do you get past all of this? As a man, we get intoxicated by this beauty, so all men need to think about abundance. You need to truly believe that you can get any hot woman anytime.

When you have that attitude, then looks don’t really matter to you anymore because you know you can date women to whom you’re attracted. You know you date women who have that hotness factor.

So all you’re really looking for is someone who deep inside resonates with who you are deep inside. Otherwise, once that hotness factor wears off, all you’ll have left is a good-looking woman who drives you crazy and irritates you.

It’s time to start looking deep when it comes to women. Every step of the way, you need to look at the warning signs and think “Does this person really understand who I am? Is this person someone who is as hot inside as they are outside?”

The outside — the hotness factor — it does wear off. The problem is that the inside never wears off.

It’s the inside that keeps loving you, nurturing you, being with you, wanting you and desiring you. It’s everything on the inside that works.

Would you buy a car with 300,000 miles just because it looks great on the outside? Would you totally ignore the fact that is has 300,000 miles on it, just because the old owner told you that it’s barely broken in? Wouldn’t you rather buy a car that looks good and is sound inside and out? I hate to put women in a car analogy, but it’s the truth.

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Happy Sunday!

Still off on my vacation, and I wanted to give all of you a little motivation to get out there this weekend and start talking!

Do you ever see a hot woman working in a store, and wonder how to make yourself stand out from the pack of guys she sees all day long?

Attracting hot women in a store is simple, if you know this one trick to how to talk to them.

Watch this live in-field video to see how this store clerk ended up asking these guys out.

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It’s funny when you see a great player playing on a bad team who just quits. Randy Moss did it when he played for the Raiders, and now look at how Braylon Edwards looks since he’s come to the Jets. I guess it just goes to show that athletes are human, and don’t want to be chosen by bad teams.

Remmber when you were a kid and you were playing a game which involved picking teams, and you got chosen by the bad team? Remember how you felt (and sometimes how you acted afterwards)? Men never grow up I guess.

Now on to today’s blog . . .

Let’s talk about how bad you want it. I get so many emails from people who say, “But David, you’re a natural at this! I am not a natural and I need routines.”

What I always tell people who write things like this to me, is that I wasn’t always a natural at this stuff. Do you think I was born doing this? I was nervous as hell in the beginning!

The reason I can coach all of you, is that I’ve experienced every emotion that you guys are going through right now. I know what it feels like to have my heart beat right through my shirt. I know what it feels like to have a quivering lip as I approach some girl sitting at a table. I know what it’s like to have all that monkey chatter in your head.

Some of these feelings are just the natural emotions of life, but this idea of being a “natural” is something we’ve talked about many times before. Many professional atheletes are “naturals,” but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do what they do. You just have to workk harder at it in order for it to become natural to you.

If you put the time into anything in life — whether it’s into meeting women, singing, cooking or whatever — over time your skill will develop and it will become natural for you. The reason I seem like a natural at what I do is only because I’ve been doing it for so long.

With practice, all of you will get to the point where you are naturals. The real question is: How bad do you want it?

Now, granted, some of you will find parts of this that you are far better at than others. For example, if you take me into a bar I am pretty unnatural. I’m so uncomfortable! I don’t enjoy being in a bar and I’m not having fun when I’m in one, so I am always totally in my head when I go to one. I’m just bored.

Take me to a store or out on the streets, however, and I have a million things to talk about with everyone. I can walk in any store, anywhere, and I can talk to people because there are always things I find interesting.

The way to become a natural at something is to go out and do things that you’re interested in, so that you’re able to keep up good conversations. This will also build up your confidence.

I’ve met guys who are naturals in bars. Do you know why? They are big drinkers. They can talk about booze nonstop.

I’m a natural in the market, because I eat at Whole Foods twice a day! I know the menu like the back of my hand. I’m able to work that place and talk to people there, because I always have topics to talk about there.

I had a client one time that was a wine connoisseur. So he expanded his social network by going to wine tasting parties and stopping in wine shops on Saturday afternoons. There he met other wine people, and he developed a social network with these people and he started having wine tasting parties.

I told him to collect the cards of the people he met in the stores and then we set up our own little wine tasting parties. Of course, the men and women he met brought friends to these parties. That’s how he was successful meeting women. That was his hobby.

The best way to meet people is by doing things that you love. You’ll rarely meet people doing something that you don’t love.

If you want to become a natural, you absolutely can. You just have to ask yourself, “How bad do I want it??”

You take things out of context when you read, and if you do it while you’re reading then I know you do it when you’re listening. My blogs are short, but if you want to get the whole message then you have to read them from beginning to end.

I posted a blog the other day that was titled “We’re Pregnant!” I got congratulatory messages all day long on Facebook, on the blog and in my email inbox. If you’d actually read even the first four lines of that blog, however, you would know that Sonja and I aren’t not pregnant and that the blog was about how men use the phrase ‘we’re pregnant.’

Enough about that blog, except that it’s interesting how life is all about perception. Some of you perceived that my girlfriend and I were pregnant.

It was probably the same group of people who don’t listen to what people say, and have difficulty transitioning into deeper, more meaningful conversations with people to whom they are attracted. Life is all about perception, but you’ve got to listen and communicate everything in order to get what you want.

It’s funny. I have someone who works for me who wants to know why they aren’t making more money. It’s not that I’m not paying them well. It’s that they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing (and need to be doing) to earn more.

If they’re not on Skype during the day, I can’t get a hold of them when I need to do so, and they are on the bottom of the sales numbers every month, then I will perceive them as lazy. I will perceive them as not having a good work mindset.

Now, if you want to masturbate the day away, that’s your business. I’m not talking about physically masturbating (although some people do). I am talking about mental masturbation.

People who don’t take action often times are mental masturbators. They’ll mentally masturbate about having great sex, losing that weight, being able to approach the opposite sex, or whatever it may be.

Mental masturbation is no different than physical masturbation. You just get off in a very different way.

You think about the big home you’re going to have, the car you’ll be driving or taking over a business. In reality, though, you’re still the same person who is getting nothing done and who has the same poor work habits.

Life is full of fears, and unfortunately some of us spend more time mentally masturbating away our fears instead of actually doing something about them. It’s no different than masturbating with your hand or a vibrator. Think about it.

Whenever you get off alone, it’s never even close to how good it is to get off with someone with whom you’ve connected. In a work context, whenever you actually accomplish a goal it is always so much better than mentally masturbating it. Approaching actual women and learning how to be confident doing will always feel better than mentally masturbating all the women you want to approach.

Eventually you have to overcome your fear and just do these things. I am a doer, not a talker.

I am not attracted to talkers. I’ll coach them, but I don’t have any friends in my life who are talkers. I surround myself with doers.

With whom do you surround yourself — doers or talkers? Do you surround yourself with a bunch of mental masturbators so you can stroke each other all day long and never get to your destination?

That’s all for this topic. Speaking of stroking, though, today’s video will tell you how to stroke women so they’ll climax like never before. Ahhh…your mind is so dirty right now, but the sexual technique I’m going to show you will stroke women in a place you would have never thought of…

Have a great day!

This is an actual conversation I had with a client at a recent bootcamp.

For those of you who are football fanatics here are my Super Bowl picks.

San Diego and Dallas.

Surprise team this year will be the Arizona Cardinals in the NFC and the Jets in the AFC.

Lets now talk seduction!

Client: If you’re into a woman and you want to sleep with her, how do you bring that about? How do you signal to a woman that you want to get intimate without getting into her personal space or pushing yourself on her? How do you it naturally?

David: It will always be natural if you connect with her. Once again, you don’t need to actually talk about sex; what you need to do is go out and get to know her. For women, foreplay starts in the mind. There is no need to ever bring up the subject of sex.

So you’re out on a date with her, and you have connected with her as a person. You go out, you have fun, you talk, you share stories and interests, and you get excited when she says something.

You both have great eye contact the whole night – you never break that eye contact. You lean in and lead with your body language (like we talked about earlier.) You lean in like this when she’s talking, you put your hand on table, and she puts her hand up there too. You cross a little bit so that both hands are on the table. If you’re leading, then your body language is always leading hers at all times.

So by the end of the date you know that you’ve connected – you’ve talked to each other a lot, you’ve smiled all night. At this point you want to avoid doing the typical cliché guy-thing: don’t try to seal the night with a kiss. So many guys rush into the kiss.

Instead, I would drive her home and sit with her in my car. I’ll talk a little bit, and I know that if she lingers in the car – if she’s still talking with you while the car is running and you’re sitting in the driveway – she’s interested in kissing me. If she’s lingering in the car, you can assume that she’s wondering what it is like to kiss you.

So then I would say, “alright, I’ve got to get home and go to sleep. Come over here,” and she’ll move over. I’ll go in for the kiss, but I won’t do like massive lizard tongue or anything. I’ll just go in with big, soft lips. No tongue at first, just soft lips.

Second pass – more soft lips, no tongue. And then on the third pass through, I’ll slip my tongue in ever so gently, and I’ll feel her tongue for the very first time. I’ll give her this very soft little kiss, and I’ll hold her face – women love to have their faces held – or hold her behind the neck.

After that, I’ll give her a few more little kisses and then I will look at her. And you’ll know if it was a good kiss – you’ll be dizzy from a good kiss. You won’t get dizzy from a shitty kiss.

So if it was a good kiss, you can look at her and say, “oh man, that was a great kiss.” Women love kissing. The biggest complaint from women is that most guys don’t like kissing. You can then look at her and say, “alright, get out,” and send her out of the car.

The next thing to do is bring her back to that moment. The next day you can text her and say something like, “man, that was such a dizzying kiss,” or “that was such a great kiss the other night, I’m looking forward to the next one,” or whatever – something cute.

She’s already thinking about it, and you brought her back to that moment. She’s thinking about you.

And the next time you go out? It’s the same thing. You go out and you connect with her. You don’t talk about sex or say anything like, “let’s go back to my house,” or “let’s go do it,” or something stupid like that. You just have to connect with her again.

At the end of the night, you look at her and say, “come here and give me another one of those dizzy kisses again,” and you kiss her. You’ll start hearing her breathe a little bit heavier. She might moan or sigh a little bit.

You can then look at her and say, “go. I’m not going to trust myself if you stay in my car any longer,” and you send her out. Dismiss her one more time.

Now that you’ve dismissed her twice, she will start to boil a little bit – you’re not like every other guy. Every other guy gropes her the minute they get the chance. Other guys are literally grinding in their seats like this trying to get laid. You’re not doing that at all.

On the third date, you invite her over to your house for a barbeque or to watch a movie or something. You might be hanging out on the couch, and make sure that during the entire movie you’re actually watching the film.

You could rub the back of her hair a little bit, touch her hand and play with her hand a little bit. You might touch the back of her shoulders a little bit. You just spend the movie playing with her a bit. You’re not kissing her.

You might whisper something into her ear like, “that was a funny scene,” or “this is my favorite part,” if you’ve seen it before. Always whisper into her ear – this builds intimacy. If you think about it, during sex, women like to be talked to. They like it when you whisper, “honey this feels great, you feel wonderful, you look beautiful.” In this way, you’re doing the same exact thing, but you’re not telling her that.

So after the two hours of the movie, the sexual tension has been building. At the end of the film, you look at her and say, “alright, give me your feet, I want to give you a little rubdown,” and give her a little foot massage – women love foot massages.

Move up to her ankles a bit and give her more of a massage. Alternatively, you can give her a foot massage during the movie, and then it will be her turn and she’ll massage your feet.

After the movie you look into her eyes, give her a couple of little kisses, and at that point: she’ll attack you. You’ve been slowly seducing her, which is every woman’s dream.

Client: Yeah, that totally makes sense. I can really see that.

David: And what happens next? You’re in the bedroom, having great sex because it was her idea. When you make sex her idea, it is amazing. When you force sex on her, it’s rape. She’ll never like it. And she’s had versions of that so many times before. She has been out before with guys who have had to sell the idea to her – “come on, you know you want me, come up to my house!”

No – you have to act like you had sex with the most beautiful woman in the world just last night. Even if you haven’t slept with anyone in six months, you still have to act like you’ve had sex recently and aren’t desperate.

You have to have patience with it. If you have patience, she will give her body to yours freely. And that’s what you really want. You don’t want it to be forced. If she gives it up freely, it is amazing sex.