“Wow I need to get sexual with her right now so she gets turned onto me”

So you space out for a second and you stop listening to what she is saying.

You then go into deep thought moment and think.

“How can i stop this conversation right now and start talking sexual”

So she is in the middle of a great story, sharing with you her travels across the world and all of a sudden you stop her in mid sentence and change the flow of a great conversation to something sexual.

She looks at you and thinks.

What the @$%^ is this guy talking about?

How many more questions am I going to get about “escalation”? So many of you guys are really just stuck on Pua Island–or PUA, as you call it.

I been asked this question about 10,000 times: Hey David, how do you sexually escalate on the first date?

Well, here’s an option: you can sit there across from her like Chester Chester the Child Molester and stare at her and tell her how wonderful her little titties look and how that great little sweater she picked out for the day really cups her breasts. You can recite some ridiculous made-up story that you spent 15 hours infusing with subliminal sex words to trick her into bed with you. Or when she goes to the bathroom you can look at her and tell her how you can just picture her G-string and what you would do with it, how you’re going to rip it off with your teeth and use it as dental floss later on.

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Then, as she’s calling the police or texting her friends about the freak sitting across from her, you can apologize to her and say, “Gee, I’m so sorry for being such a pathetic pervert trying to escalate with you like a typical Pua.”

Or you can do what a man would do: you can look directly in her eyes, you can listen to her because you’re actually interested in who she is and what she’s all about as a person, and you can smile confidently because you’re having an amazing time together.

When she stands up to go to the bathroom, you can give her a sly look, an intriguing little smile, and she’ll wonder what the hell is going on in your mind. When she gets back, you can give her another smile again, and she’ll wonder what that smile is all about. You can continue to listen to her and share what’s really on your mind and build on the conversation, learn a little bit more about each other, actually talk to her and connect with her like a person. You can behave like a human being, like most people, instead of a sex-starved escalation machine.

Or you can continue to be some Pua wannabe, talking about how wet and hard you are and how you want to floss your teeth with her G-string after dinner.

That’s it for today.

Got a great one from somebody the other day that I really thought was worth posting, especially where there seems to be a common theme.

As you know, I will never post e-mails that you guys send me unless I have your permission. So I e-mailed this guy back and I told him I want everybody to know and understand and learn from your own experience, and he had no problem having me post it.

Here is a shortened version of what he wrote

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“Hey David, can you explain to me why I can’t get an erection when I’m with my girlfriend? I just need physical stimulation to get it up when we’re intimate. She has a lot more experience than me and she says all her past boyfriends would get hard just at the sight of her body. Plus, my penis is only 5.3 inches. I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve probably measured it more than 10 times this week. I really need to get these thoughts out of my head and figure out what’s going on…”

10 times?

You’ve got way too much free time on your hands if you’ve measured your penis more than 10 times this week. 5.3 inches—great, you know the exact amount too. Obviously you have no problem getting hard on your own. You’ve had 10 erections on your own this week? 10 boners that you were able to measure each and every time and you were able to get 5.3 inches?

Who cares how long your penis is? It doesn’t matter. What matters is how you hit the wall. What matters is how you please her, how you grind into her, how you perform in bed. It’s not the size, the way you move your hips, and even more so, the way you perform foreplay. (You can perfect the art of foreplay no matter how long or short your penis is, but that’s another blog for another time—we’ll get there too if you ask nicely )

Here’s the deal: the reason why you can’t get an erection when you’re with her is because your EGO is freaking out. Look at what you just wrote. “She has a lot more experience than me.” It’s actually bothering you that you’re with a woman that has a lot more experience than you. Your ego can’t handle it. Your male ego is wired to be annoyed by that. Your male ego wants YOU to be the one that has the sexual experience in the relationship, and not than the woman that you’re with. A lot of guys suffer from that, and it’s ok if that’s where you’re at right now. But it can mess you up, and you need to recognize what’s going on in your head and how you should be thinking.

I could care less when I sleep with somebody how much experience they have. In fact, I want them to have a ton of experience, otherwise I’m just going to get bored with them. I want them to know what they’re doing. I want them to bring new things to the table.

I want to learn stuff! It doesn’t matter.

Just be happy that she’s got the experience and she wants to use it all on you.
Now, your girlfriend also needs to grow up a little bit. All her past boyfriends would just get hard at the sight of her body? Great, but you’re not her past boyfriend. So that puts pressure on you. But, more importantly, it shows that she’s got no compassion for you and she doesn’t understand how to get you hard. You need physical stimulation. That’s great.

She should be willing, with all of her sexual experience, to stimulate you. What you need to do in this situation is have this conversation with her. Say, “Hey babe, I don’t get hard at the sight of your body. I think you’re absolutely sexy as hell and I’m really turned on to you. But I need physical stimulation, and it’s got nothing to do with you. So why don’t you take all that great experience and why don’t you show me how hard you can get me?”

Have fun with it. Communicate with her. That is key! I know you’re just intimidated. Your ego is playing with your mind, your ego is definitely, definitely keeping you in check right now and she knows it. You’ve got to really even the playing field out, and you’ve got to embrace her experience and allow her to get you really hard and excited.

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So you can sell her the Cube Method or the “pick a number between one and ten” method or the ring finger method – or whatever bullshit it is – but the problem arises when you exchange phone numbers with her and have to take the next step.

From then on, she’s expecting Ring Finger Man and Cube Man to take her on a date, and then you show up!

Sure, women are looking for a bad boy. So I tell every good guy out there that if they want to learn how to be the bad boy, they have to learn how to kiss, learn foreplay, learn how to touch her, and when you have sex with her, you satisfy her better than anybody else ever has or will.

Most of these bad boys are pump and dumpers. All they want is another notch in their bedpost, and to get off. They are no different then masturbating monkeys at the zoo.

So if you want to go and connect with a woman, when you kiss her, you create so much sexual tension that she feels it. You learn how to do dirty text and how to talk to her on the phone. You learn how to seduce her mind.

And then when you have sex with her, you know how to have sex with her and give her orgasms – both clitoral and G-spot orgasms!

She will talk about you and say, “my boyfriend is the nicest guy, and I can’t stop cumming!”

Most guys that I know that are supposed ‘players’ are the worst in bed. I talk sex with them and they have no clue. They are total minutemen. They don’t even know what foreplay is!

So it doesn’t take a ridiculous persona – you don’t have to act like anything that you aren’t. You have to know that you can sexually please any woman. If you know that, you are a hundred steps more evolved than any bad boy.

David: So here I am, sitting here, and talking to a good friend of mine who has never appeared on the blog but is an avid reader and really wanted to share her thoughts with all the men and women. Today she really wanted to help the guys out on the blog, and we’re going to talk about the art of seduction, using hot oil massage and foot massage. She’ll give you her step-by-step way of turning a woman on, just by hanging out with her and watching TV. All women need to pay attention to this as well…you can use this seduction on the men.

So let me ask you a question. You’re sitting, watching a movie with a guy, and the guy wants to seduce you. What would be the best way – instead of him just grabbing you – to seduce you when you’re watching television?

Jessica: I would say that a good place to start would be to slowly massage me, starting with my hands or the back of my neck, my head, or my feet – if you touch my feet, you’re in for sure!

David: So should the guy get some foot lotions and other things to like rub you during the movie?

Jessica: Absolutely! If he did that, I would feel like a princess, I would feel pampered; I am a sucker for massage. If you massage me long enough, you’re definitely getting some action!

David: And how long – a lot of guys don’t know how long they need to massage a woman. A lot of guys do the obligatory five-minute massage and that’s it. How long do you think is good?

Jessica: At least 35 minutes!

David: So would you say that during the whole movie it would be good to kind of massage your feet, maybe massage your legs, maybe massage your hands?

Jessica: Yeah! If you start off with some nice small caressing, and then say, “I would like to give you a massage, do you want one?” of course I’m going to say yes!

David: So they’ve given you a massage while you’re watching the TV, and now the movie is over. Now it’s time to take it to the bedroom. How would you describe the perfect way to continue this to keep you in the mood you’ve been in during the movie?

Jessica: Saying something like, “hey, this was just a warm up massage, I’ll give you the real thing, with massage oil or lotion,” in fact, David has told me about this great candle that he uses when he has a special guest.

David: The candle is called Jimmy Jane. Go to www.jimmyjane.com and check it out. It is a candle that comes in six different fragrances, and all of the fragrances are very sexual in nature.

Jessica: That sounds amazing if we were not sitting in this coffee shop right now i would jump you:)

David: Thanks and I always wondered what it would be like if you jumped me:) Ok…back to the candles here. They’re all very sexual and sensual in nature. There is a spout on the candle so you can actually pour the hot oil and wax all over your lover’s body. You light the candle, and then pour the oil on them, but the oil is not really hot when it touches them…

Jessica: Wow that is super hot. I once had a guy drip hot wax all over my body.

David: How did it make you feel?

Jessica: Hot! It’s really sexy, and sexual, and it very much put me in the mood. It was great because the fragrance of that candle that he used was very strong and it definitely helps arouse your senses – I’m getting aroused right now just thinking about it!

David: I think you were born aroused!! So you love when there’s a lot of hot oil, a lot of touching, and a lot of rubbing?

Jessica: YES!

David: You like the constant attention…

So let’s say the guy is massaging you – this is something that a lot of men don’t understand – many men will perform oral sex but they don’t really understand how to do the right kind of oral sex. It’s not just the way you lick! Share with the guys what they need to be doing with their hands in order to get a woman to climax really strong.

Jessica: You need to start off by stroking our legs at the same time, and I like it when the guy looks up at me. I also like it when… well, I don’t know what else to call it besides human vibrator! When a guy, like, hums? What would you call it?

David: You mean like vibrate your mouth?

Jessica: Yes, vibrate your mouth – that’s exactly what I’m trying to say. When a guy vibrates his mouth on me – that feels really good. And then you should slowly take one of your fingers and put it inside of me. Then give it a little bit more pressure, and do it a little bit deeper and move it around inside a bit more, to try to touch my walls and find my G-spot. That’s really hot.

David: And so let me ask you a question – there’s one hand inside, and the way the tongue is moving the other hand should be using those oils, and massaging what? Where should they be rubbing?

Jessica: All over! My inner thigh, my stomach, my hips, my breasts, my neck – and stop every once in awhile and talk to me, too. Keep using your finger, but you can talk and tell me how good I taste, and how turned on you are, and how much you want me – all of that good stuff!

David: So if a guy does all that, how much harder are you going to cum, and how much more are you going to desire him?

Jessica: Both, very much more so! I’m going to cum super-hard, and first of all, I’m going to pull you over and return the favor! I’m also going to want to come back for more… and more and more!

David: So for a guy to get really good head from a woman, he should pay attention to all of these little things. If he does this with every woman he’s with, he should be getting some amazing head, shouldn’t he?

Jessica: Absolutely. And you know, what goes around comes around – literally!

David: I agree, and I have to tell you, a lot of guys think that they’re doing it right just by licking her clit, but there are definitely different pressures you can use to lick her clit. A lot of women like things differently, as well – there are some women that love hard pressure at the top, there are some women who love it super hard and fast towards the end.

Jessica: I like it when am man tells me to spread my lips for them and hold them too.

David: Yeah that’s very erotic. Tell me why you think that’s so erotic, so men can learn.

Jessica: Well, I’ve only had one man tell me that! I think it’s naughty. I like to be bossed around, maybe not everyone would, but I do, and it’s all in the way a man says it. It really makes me feel like i am with a strong powerful man. I am not talking being mean or anything, but strong erotic talk and telling me what to do sexually is super super hot!

David: So you like being bossed around?

Jessica: Yes!

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Todays video is all about how to become a master at the sly smile. Did you know that this sly smile worked on a very famous actress that I met the other day. She may have been Paris Hilton or she may have been Kate Hudson.

But only I know who she was and the smile and conversation was a trip….this works on all women whether a famous celebrity or the girl next door!